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Originally Posted by Jaytdk

Put yourself in my shoes. Would you tell your gf something you know will tear her heart apart and hurt her???NO I dont think so. So why you expect me to tell her. I will never tell her because I do not want to hurt her, she means a lot to me more than the world itself. And nope she chose another guy over me while our relationship was on hold, I put it on hold because I didn't like the way she was behaving

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jmjoseph, you think you respect women but you don't. You also have your weak points, you not perfect and excellent as you think you are. So before you judge me negatively look at yourself first and think again, I am far better than you when it comes to treating woman. My ex wants me back because of the love that I gave her, unfortunately she cannot have me now cause Im taken

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Originally Posted by hheath541

actually it IS that simple. you want solutions on how to stop cheating on your girlfriend? you stop. it's that simple.

you claim to love your girlfriend. you claim that you would never want to do anything to hurt her. your actions are showing that to be anything but the truth. you are constantly lying to her and cheating on her. that's not how you treat someone you love.

how would you like it if she cheated on you? i'm guessing you wouldn't accept any of the lies you've spouted in here as valid excuses.

if you really are so weak that you're incapable of NOT having sex with other women, then you need to end the relationship.

those are your options. the solutions you came here asking for. stop cheating. or get single.

oh, and your girlfriend WILL find out. my guess is that she already suspects, she just lacks proof at this point. either she will find the evidence she needs, or someone will tell her. someone who cares about her, or just wants to ruin your life, will see you out with your ex and tell your girlfriend about it.

what will you do when she confronts you? keep lying to her? try to convince her that it was innocent? finally grow a pair and tell the truth? somehow i doubt the last one.

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What's balancer mean?? And I am not lying to her, I am trying my best to heal, that's why I am here

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Originally Posted by Jaytdk

I didn't cheat on her on purpose or intentionally, its just happen OK, do not make it as if Im cheating willingly. I do not know whats wrong with me but Its difficult to let go of my ex because she is always around

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OH, it was an accident? See if your "queen" believes that.

You are cheating "willingly". Accept responsibility for your own actions. That will be obvious when you become a man.

People have come on here to try and help you, and you insult, and throw around "reddies". Why? Because you know that you are in the wrong, and you don't want to hear it.

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Originally Posted by jmjoseph

I want you to read the comments on this post here, that came from YOURSELF, less than a week ago:https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...do-446795.html

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Ok will read them now

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Originally Posted by Jaytdk

jmjoseph, you think you respect women but you don't. You also have your weak points, you not perfect and excellent as you think you are. So before you judge me negatively look at yourself first and think again, I am far better than you when it comes to treating woman. My ex wants me back because of the love that I gave her, unfortunately she cannot have me now cause Im taken

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You know nothing about me, boy.

Go grow up, and learn respect, before you learn it the hard way.

You need therapy.

I'll save you the trouble.

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Originally Posted by Jaytdk

BACKWARD NEVER, FORWARD EVER!!!!!Always think of this words and bear them in mind. Cheating with your ex will be waste of time, he is trying to use you for his own sexual satisfaction, he is player. Concentrate on your relationship and stop fooling yourself with your ex. If you go back to your ex you will get hurt and loose your boyfriend and be miserably single, is that what you want??????????????? So think with your head not your eyes

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Originally Posted by Jaytdk

Good then put what we telling you into action

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Originally Posted by jmjoseph

I want you to read the comments on this post here, that came from YOURSELF, less than a week ago:https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...do-446795.html

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Ok JM Joseph I said those words, I was helping someone and I believe he followed my advice. What's your point?

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Originally Posted by Jaytdk

jmjoseph, you think you respect women but you don't. You also have your weak points, you not perfect and excellent as you think you are. So before you judge me negatively look at yourself first and think again, I am far better than you when it comes to treating woman. My ex wants me back because of the love that I gave her, unfortunately she cannot have me now cause Im taken

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Exactly what sources are you getting your informations from that you think you have the right to judge jm and how he treats women? I have been on this site a LOT longer than you, and have NEVER seen any reason to suspect that he shows women anything BUT respect. If you have proof, or even vague evidence, to the contrary, please provide links.

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Originally Posted by Jaytdk

Whats balancer mean????? And I am not lying to her, I am trying my best to heal, thats why I am here

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A balancer is when users try to counteract a wrongly given negative comment.

You ARE lying to her. Every time you neglect to tell her that you've been with your ex. Every time you tell her, or let her believe, that you're somewhere else. Every time you look at her and tell her you'd never hurt her.

This needs to be in the humor and comedy forum:

About Me
About Jaytdk
Location
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I advice in relationships and became the best expert in relationships column in yahooask website. Assisted and advised many almost broken marriages and relationships and succeeded to save them. If you have any question on anything regarding relationships please do not hesitate to ask me.
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Originally Posted by Jaytdk

Ok JM Joseph I said those words, I was helping someone and I believe he followed my advice. Whats your point?

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The point is that you obviously see no reason to follow your own advice. That makes you a hypocrite.

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Originally Posted by jmjoseph

This needs to be in the humor and comedy forum:

About Me
About Jaytdk
Location
Centre of the planet
Experience
I advice in relationships and became the best expert in relationships column in yahooask website. Assisted and advised many almost broken marriages and relationships and succeeded to save them. If you have any question on anything regarding relationships please do not hesitate to ask me.
Occupation
CEO

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Wow? Really? Just... wow.

Yet again, Jaytdk, after so many warnings, and chances you have again broken all the rules of decency. You insult those trying to help, and continue to make excuses, when your given some excellent paths to healing. You have proven you can tell others how to do the right thing, but unable to do it yourself.

You're maybe looking for a magic cure for your bad behavior, and instant fix for your problem. Come on, you know better, there is no easy way to go about this healing your looking for, even though the solution is simple. Stop cheating, and be honest with your g/f. Its you making it hard because your unwilling to to what it takes to do the right thing.

Whether its abject fear of consequences, or just plain lazy, its you who must put actions behind your words, and desires to make things right.

All the excuses of why you can't do what it takes, only shows your not interested in healing, but getting attention so you can blast the character, and motives of others, for your own very selfish reasons.

This thread is yet another example of your true nature, and your unacceptable, continued bad behavior.

Unless you make changes, you will drown in your own SH1T!!

That's why this thread, like all those you have started so far, is closed. But this one will not be deleted as were the others. So you can go back, re read the advice, and make a better plan than the one you have now, which clearly, doesn't work!

Sorry to all people I have insulted and offended. It wasn't intentionally, I was angry and had anger in me, I thanks you for all help and its not my space to judge you. Please keep your advices coming

Thanks for all your help guys. As you all read this post, I am totally hurt.My relationship is not the same anymore, I regret cheating my girlfriend and been unfaihful to her. I have learned my lesson and I am sure other readers will learn from my misakes. I am about to loose my girlfriend because I was cheating on her, the truth is about to come out and she diging and digging to find the truth. I hope she doesn't find the truth because my relationship will be history.

Sorry but you don't deserve a relationship with that girl. You are hurt? YOU ARE THE ONE who CHEATED!!

You clearly have not learned your lesson if you are unwilling to tell her the truth!

Tell her the truth now and leave her alone. Seek help (be it counseling, or books) to figure out what made you cheat.

Your relationship ending is a very justly deserved consequence. If you're not willing to face that, and tell her the truth, then you haven't learned a thing.

To feel bad because you got caught is NOT the same as feeling bad because you DID something bad.