Your letting your fear of being homeless lead you down a desperate path. The state and county you're in has services for young single mothers like yourself who need temporary help to avoid being homeless, and living in a dope den.

You have to reach out for other options, though I can see you would rather be with your boyfriend than strangers, but that's not a good situation for you, or your baby.

Also not mentioning his weed problem in your new post was a bit dishonest, as its an important fact in the advice you get. That's why your posts were merged together, for all the FACTS.

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well i dont live with my boyfriend right now so my son is safe..

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I think you realize what you are heading into, or you wouldn't have made that statement.

Why the about face. Why consider doing the exact opposite?

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Originally Posted by lovebird120

yes all of that is true but i have no other options, id rather not raise my child on the streets, and him and his friends and family assured me that they will all smoke in the other places (trailer in the back, garage, shed: all places they smoke anyways just sometimes they smoke in the house) and they all told me they would only smoke in those places, i trust them and my boyfriend loves my son very much and wouldnt let anything happen to him, i do think i over react about the weed but it does bother me alot, but i know that it doesnt change who he is at all...i have a very good air purifier that will eliminate all the smoke or whatever left over stuff there is in the house. if i thought that moving here was going to harm my child in any way i wouldnt move in here and id try harder to find someone else to move in with...please believe me that id never do anything or go anywhere to put my child in potential harm.

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You have no other place to go to live your child. Why? If it is a money issue, then why are you also asking about a hotel:

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Originally Posted by lovebird120

has anyone been too "inn on the beach" in ventura california?
is it nice?
ive been looking around and getting VERY mixed reviews...

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Plus more of the story:
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-...ce-431845.html

It seems to me that it is time for you to grow up before your child is raising you.

Oh the hotel isn't for me its because my brother and his girlfriends anniversary is coming up and he asked me where a nice place to go would be so I did some research...
And your right talaniman I didn't even think of putting about the weed in this thread because all I was asking is if I was out of line about the friends thing...

And I didn't know my deadline my father never told me he was kicking me out when I turned 18 I never knew that, when I first got pregnant he told me I could stay as long as I wanted and now 2 weeks before I turn 18 he informed me I can't stay here anylonger...

I didn't even notice there was a whole 4th page, I didn't notice they were merged so now ill respond to everything else
You ALL are SO right and I don't know what I'm doing I'm honestly a stupid selfish person and a horrible mother... I know none of you said that but that's now the conclusion I've come to
(no I have no family that live anywhere near me and I'm going to school here so I can't just up and leave... my brother says he's going to help me with money as much as possible and I've been looking for cheap housing on this one website... )
I'm sorry that I have even considered making this decision and I'm going to go through my options a little more carefully... I really don't have friends or family and if living at my boyfriends is really the only place to go then I'm going to have to go there... I was a stupid kid who had a baby with someone who just up and left so I'm going to make it a point to make sure he pays me in child support thank you for all of your advice and concerns...

Does he make money? Does he have his own place, car.. etc.. if he has his stuff in order you have no right to make him stop and I'm pretty sure he would be happier with someone who shared his interest. As an avid weed smoker who grows his own, works, and gets things done I find some of you judgemental bastards. Probably saying he is a dope head while your sucking down that jack and coke, or beer which is a far worse substance. My advice break up so you both can be happy. I hate when women think they can change someone just find someone your compatible with. I had this problem but it concerned my facial hair. Long story short I have a new girlfriend and a nice beard.