The reason why I have fear is because of the things he says to me one minute then the next everything's fone again. Of course I'm going to have fear.

liz28, he has given me something to worry about that's the thing, I am like this and have a lot of fear because of things he has said to me in the past whenever we have an argument, like he doesn't love me much anymore, he can't see his future with me etc etc then the next day everything is fine again as if nothing ever happened, I just can't work him out! You would have thought I could though after being with the guy for 4 years! He said he is just very sensitive and sometimes thinks negatively, which I'm guessing he doesn't mean what he says to me then.

My guess is that you two should not be together. You are not coposetic, in sync, you can't read him well, after four years, that is very unusual. I think its time to throw in the towel and hook up with someone who treats you better and can communicate well. Its not happening, my dear, for you.

Tick

I see no communication or cooperation nor willingness from the two of you to forge a strong healthy bond.
All I see is fears,insecurities and questions.
I don't think this is a healthy relationship at all.
Me,I'd walk away.

Well I can see where your coming from but it's a bit hard to just walk away from someone who I love 100% and who I made my whole life.

Also I have given so much willingness, cooperation and communication but IM the one who doesn't receive any of it back because he just blocks it all away. He is pushing me further away and in time he will lose me for good and he is going to regret it because he will never find anyone who loves him as much as I do. It will be impossible, that's how much I'm in love with him.

He NEEDS to realise this!! THAT is the problem!

Thanks for all your comments by the way xxx

I'm just hoping that things will progress, either for us now, or in the future. X

Catherine your first mistake is making this guy your whole life. Why are you willing to settle when your not completely happy with him. Sitting around hiping he will change and see what he has in you would do any good>>>don't you see this after 4 years. You have issues you need to work on and it is good that you realize this because some people don't. Maybe one day you will do what is best for you instead of someone else/best of luck.