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Originally Posted by Gazzy

I hope everything turns out fine, I would love to just talk to her, find out whats on her mind and all that, see if she wants to fully split up or just find out how she is and stuff, but I know I can't if I'm wanting to get anywhere with her.

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I would say the way to view it Gazzy is that you are fully split, not half, or a quarter but fully split, what does a break mean?? In my eyes it is fully split and that is not to say that you won't getback together but for now you are split!

I think you are desperately hanging on to hope here that she will come back to you and want the relationship and she knows this...

I quote: momincali - in using the puppy dog phrase, she knows you are there waiting for her...

You just need to put all your efforts into your studies now, and believe me what will be will be...

You are at an important stage in life, you need to focus on study... I know it sounds boring, believe me, I've been there but you have your future to think about.

Don't worry too much about a serious relationship at this point in your life. You have enough to worry about what with your exams!!

Just give up for now, get busy living! And is she comes back, well then I guess that is a bonus for you.

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Originally Posted by momincali

(and concentrate on the task at hand by giving it importance) ..

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great advice.

Omg I feel so shiz now! But I feel like a little moan if I say why lol.

I had a dream about her... an she came back to me... Then I woke up feeling dead happy... And then realized it was a dream... I guess I can expect more of this so I'll just get used to it lol.

I'm trying hard to keep my mind on different things guys, hopefully it will work.

Hi Gazzy,

Yes, this will happen, happens to me too!

Completely normal, it is because you are thinking of her all the time and it will probably be hard not to for the time being. Try as hard you can to keep your mind on something else.

It will go away but it will take some time. I think the difficult thing for you is that you are still likely to bump into her right??

So that could prolong things.. Probably best to avoid her.

Yeah, it would be impossible for me to not bump into her, unless I drop out of college lol... Which I ain't going to do if that's what anyone is thinking :)

I ain't going to talk to her unless she talks to me... And I doubt that she is going to talk to me at all so... I guess I'll be all right for a while.

I'll try and focus on things I loved doing while we were going out.. Right now I can't be bothered to do any of the things I loved doing because I feel like crap... But I'll just do it anyway and see if I have fun.

Good for you...

You really are making progress here.. Keep it up!

You are definitely heading in the right direction..

I hope so :)

Tomorrow I will see her a lot... She will either come up to me in one of our lessons or she won't basically.

If any of her mates come up to me and start asking questions I'm just going to ignore them, they will only pizz me off lol.

We will probably make eye contact more then once, if she smiles... I'll just look away... But by doing all this it's only going to make her not want to be with me more I would guess.

I'm starting to think Hate is the real Love, and Love is the real Hate if you know what I mean lol. - If not I'll explain.

We go away on camp with the college soon, so that will be a bad week lol. I just have to keep repeating to myself 'Ignore her, Ignore her, Ignore her.'

Also... Listening to up beat songs help lol.

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Originally Posted by Gazzy

I hope so :)

Tomorrow I will see her a lot... She will either come up to me in one of our lessons or she won't basically.

If any of her mates come up to me and start asking questions I'm just going to ignore them, they will only pizz me off lol.

We will probably make eye contact more then once, if she smiles... I'll just look away... But by doing all this it's only going to make her not want to be with me more I would guess.

I'm starting to think Hate is the real Love, and Love is the real Hate if you know what I mean lol. - If not I'll explain.

We go away on camp with the college soon, so that will be a bad week lol. I just have to keep repeating to myself 'Ignore her, Ignore her, Ignore her.'

Also... Listening to up beat songs help lol.

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Gazzy, there is also a danger of ignoring someone too much (someone correct me if I am wrong).. Yes, give her space but not too much space that you come off as ignorant because she might resent that! If she smiles, smile back, there is nothing wrong with that!! The point of No contact is really to allow space between you two so that she can decide what she wants.

But just because she smiles at you, don't think that this is her way of inviting you to talk to her.

Just play it cool.. At 16, this kind of stuff is all very much driven by what is said in conversations with friends and it all escalates. What you must do is show her that you are a mature 16 year old man capable of giving her what she wants. At this point that is space.

Play it cool young man and you will prevail!

Oh and yes, you are quite right, there is a very thin lne that separates Love & Hate and the two emotions can easily interact at the same time... Best not to dwell on this though, it is a bit too deep for this time of day..

Yeah very true, well I've been doing some things I like in the past 20 minutes or so and ain't thought of her once, I guess I'll get back to it more often lol.

Guess your right, I'll smile back, but not talk to her until she comes over and starts talking to me.

Hehe I won't dwell on it, as I don't want to be feeling like shiz for the rest of the day.

Also.. Woops... I just text my whole contact list on my mobile because I have a new number... It went to her as well, this is OK right?

Yeah, don't worry mate...

The fact that you text her your new number won't do any lasting damage.

Except to your credit on you phone lol..

Now.. STOP WORRYING!!

You'll be fine..

I guess I'll be feeling all right by half way through December most probably.

Try not to put a time limit on it Gazzy, you will only feel down if you still feel hurt.. Take as much time as you need to get over her. If it takes 6 months, there is nothing wrong with that.

You had feelings for her and they don't go away in a hurry. You will probably always remember the feelings you had in many years to come.

I remember when I was your age, I had a thing for a girl but she was with my best mate... It was not real love and I realise that now, 10 years later... I had to meet my current ex to understand what love is.

Not saying what you have is not love because I don't know what you are feeling, my point is that you will be able to compare the type of feelings you have for different women as you experience new relationships, and believe me, I really do think you will have a few before you meet the right one for you!!

Yeah your right again... I could show you how it feels if you have a gun? Lol!

Nah it's like... My chest wants to explode (lol).

I want to be as much as I can... To show her what she's missing... Guess it will take a long time though.

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Originally Posted by Gazzy

Yeah your right again... I could show you how it feels if you have a gun? lol!

Nah it's like... My chest wants to explode (lol).

I want to be as much as I can... To show her what she's missing... Guess it will take a long time though.

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I have a sawn off shot gun in my garage! LOL

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Originally Posted by Geoffersonairplane

I have a sawn off shot gun in my garage!! LOL

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That was a joke guys! Trying to lighten up this train a bit..

Lol... I'm a train :D

Well, just been to the local shops and saw her best mate... Usually when she walks past me she chats on to me for ages lol, or at least says hello... She just walked right past me this time :S

I wonder if I've done anything wrong without knowing it... hmmm.

Don't worry about it. Don't start seeing things that aren't there. That's someone else's problem not yours so skip it.

Well, maybe tomorrow will be a better day for me lol... I hope so anyway.

Keep your head high Gazzy!

I'll try thanks :)

But it just feels like I'm going down hill and that's where I'm going to keep on going... If only time was fast!