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Now that's what I call looking out for yourself, gosh that was great.Quote:
I said "how many times do you think I'm going to meet you to be rejected? I'm not meeting up to go over old ground and for nothing to change. When u have something different to say, maybe I'll listen".
Really Talaniman?
I can't help but feel like I should have listened to what he had to say - but then there's another part of me saying I did the right thing because I would only be setting myself up for more hurt.
This is so confusing!
I know I am being so needy, but I want him back more than anything.
You did great! :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Jayjay027
Don't let a cycle of hope and rejection get started because he doesn't know what he wants.
Seeing you will only add to his confusion and your hurt and pain.
Pull Your Ex Back...
Does this work you guys?
Are you kidding us??
Not at all. I'd do anything for him to come back to me.
Now that I am somewhat calmer.
Why do you think giving him everything he wants except time and space will bring him back to you? Why are you willing to do all the running to try to catch someone who is running away from you? Why are you bending over backward to keep him when all he does is give you hope then throws it in the trash?
How much support and love have you given him while he was concerned with his parents and everything else? What support has he given you? Kicking you to the curb after pushing up a wedding date and wanting to have a baby with you IS NOT SUPPORT.
What do you think will happen if you do get him back? Do you like Divorce Court that much to want to be on it?
You don't want to manipulate him back do you? Let your emotions calm down before you grasp at straws.
Your still freshly hurt, and that's a no-no when it comes to making decisions. You can't make things better with tricks, and traps.
Yeah your right. I'm sorry, I know I'm being needy, and I'm not normally like this. I just feel so lost without him.
Any break-up I've had in the past has been bearable - bad but bearable.
This is so awful that I am having health problems as a direct result. I just want him back in my life.
Wow you sound like me and my fella , I went on play .com and got a book on jealousy as I was always questioning him , listen ease off don't text / ring him etc , give him some space sometomes its all people need you need to work on you and your feelings and no your life is not over he is a man and a bit of a prat by the sounds of it
Jayjay, take care of yourself.
Think it of this way, IF he does come back, then you will know that he really wants to be with you.
IF you try to manipulate him into coming back, you will always wonder if he really loves you or what you tried to be.
Yeah good idea guys. Thanks.
Chesterfire, did the book help u at all?
Oh and by the way, he went out last night and text me saying he wasn't good enough for me.
Also, a friend of his called me last night and said that he keeps changing his mind about whether he has done the right thing.
Jayjay you go girl, no contact. He is way too confused right now, and has a lot on his plate. It's no fair to you, its like a merry go round, he wants to talk and then nothing has changed. You stay strong. The sicknesses in his family and his job, would drive anyone to back off. He probably does care a lot about you, but thinks he has nothing too offer you, and that you deserve better. If he ever does contact you again, I would just leave at, listen until you want this relationship to change, for the better, its better we have no contact. I am going on with my life.. and if its meant to be, well then he will find you, and resume where you left off.. Stay strong.
Thank you sully.
I've been doing pretty good with NC but he hasn't. I'm just making myself believe that he's trying to heal his guilt rather than wanting me back. It's easier to move on that way - harder to do though.
I literally miss everything about him, even his grumpy moods.
He just text saying he still needed some time to sort his head out but he's not dismissing the chance of us.
Ugh.
We had a pretty good conversation after, we both laughed, it was just like old times.
Update.
He asked me back last night. We chatted over everything for a while and decided that we both want it to work out. He said he hated being away from me and realised his mistake.
My trouble now is, how do I deal with my jealousy?
I want rid of it.
I hope it works out for you and that you keep communicating and can be constructive in rebuilding your relationship.
Could you elaborate regarding your jealousy?
Whoa there missy, what was HIS problem that caused such an upheaval?
He thought we were booking the wedding too fast. Even though booking it and setting the date was all his idea.
He also said my jealousy was getting out of hand.
I admit I can be a bit jealous, but I didn't ever think it was THAT serious. Evidently it can be.
A girl he works with asked for his help to get out her nipple ring - and I told him I'd prefer if he'd stay away from her in future. Then a month later he came home with a dvd that she lent him. And I got mad at him about it.
When we started dating, he was still in touch with a few of his ex's, it wouldn't normally have bothered me but they were being inappropriate, one kept asking him to a part of her children's lives and kept asking him for dates, even though she knew he had a girlfriend. And it took 3 months of me arguing with him about her before he told her she was inappropriate.
Another ex he was in touch with kept asking him on dates and saying REALLY inappropriate things, and again, it took him ages to say anything to her about it, he just kept texting her back. And I didn't like that - and he said it was jealous.
A few months ago he was at a club and a girl kept pestering him to go back to her place, and she wouldn't leave him alone, he said she kept following him around and asking him to come back to her place, and he just spoke to her, instead of telling her to go away, they got chatting and she knew his ex girlfriend.
If a guy was talking to me like that I'd tell him where to go, not discuss it with him or be chatty!
Also, anytime he got a text I asked him who it was from, and he hated it. Even though anytime he asked me I just told him because I wasn't hiding anything.
But if he got a text from a girl I'd say "what does she want?" and he said that was being jealous.
Wow, sorry this is so long.
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