I'm 30.. I'm not usually like this... I just put myself out there and never have done that before.. I never loved someone so much I seriously thought she was the one...

I can't tell you why anyone would do what she s done-it s cowardly and hurtful but time to cut all ties now and stay no contact.
People will say I love you etc to make themselves feel better but it leaves the person who has been dumped still with hope of a reconcilliation so Id disregard that if I were you.
Take care.

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Originally Posted by bluelost09

im 30.. im not usually like this...I just put myself out there and never have done that before..I never loved someone so much I seriously thought she was the one...

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There is no such thing as "the one"

except in the matrix

I feel slightly better now I'm accepting that fact

I'm following NC only for few days and I'm moving out of this town and very well know that won't be seeing her again. I'm going to all together a new place with no friends and no background.

I want to see her before I go, mind is keep saying no no no, I don't know how I will control myself in few coming days. I'm at the moment verge of collapse.

I don't know how to control my emotions, just keep on crying all the time.

Ok so its been about 6 weeks no contact we been broke up for about 2 months if my memory serves me correctly.. Im doing it all going to the gym staying with friend.. going out. Alll these things when I'm buisy I'm great I'm fine.. But when I'm alone, the second I wake up when I go to bed. I think of her.. I really think my problem is the fact that I'm shy and keep to myself a lot and am worried about not finding someone like her again she was beautiful smart and a perfect body.. I no that might sound shallow but it remains on my mind. I hate sounding like a wuss its just I don't want these thoughts no more who's she's with and all this.. its just too much... 6 weeks and we were together for a year why is she still in my head so muchh ughh what else can I do??

Please keep all questions regarding the same issue in the same thread.

Try reading these two stickies, it should give you a list of ideas:

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...es-351302.html

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...kup-78597.html

After six weeks that s guite normal-but make sure you have routines that keep you busy even when you are on your own. Kickstart your day, go for a run,and make sure you eat right.
Make sure you re really physically tired when you go to bed-that helps.

Bluelost, I know that feeling about being lonely and not finding someone else, who is beautiful and smart and has a nice body... this is our paranoia settling in. Believe me , am I right guys