Marriages take hard work and effort from both sides. From what you've told us, it appears that you've given him many chances and you've put a very strong effort. However, sometimes all these factors still isn't enough.

Furthermore, there does not seem to be any progress from your efforts. So sometimes you have to do one of the toughest things. It's to let go. It does seem like that's the best approach at this point because there's no reason for you to suffer anymore.

You might be closing one chapter of your life, but that just means that a new chapter is opening. There's so much to look forward to, so focus on those things. Let the past be in the past! And you know that we're always here for you!

I am red. I can't remember if I had told you I had given him until October 1st. I didn't want him rushing to find something since he has my son to think of also. But I see there will be an issue. He called on two places but I don't think he has looked any further.

I am not staying together just to avoid being alone. I know that's his thinking. I am happy with my choice, I feel free now in a sense. I guess I have grown in myself and saw the picture from every direction and I don't ever see this working again. I seriously wouldn't know where to begin.

Its hard being on your own sunny,and the loneliness creeps up on you,on those nights you forget the bad stuff and wonder how the hell you ended up at this point in your life... but,there's always a butt!
Remember why you are where you are,now is the time and over the next few months to strive,you will learn new things young jedi and begin to enjoy your life..
May the force aka AMHD be with you.

Regards.
Obi.

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Originally Posted by redhed35

its hard being on your own sunny,and the lonelyness creeps up on you,on those nights you forget the bad stuff and wonder how the hell you ended up at this point in your life.....but,theres always a butt!
remember why you are where you are,now is the time and over the next few months to strive,you will learn new things young jedi and begin to enjoy your life..
may the force aka AMHD be with you.

regards.
obi.

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That's why I love you hon! Your always making me laugh.

I have felt lonely for years, just in a different way. I expect to struggle and I am sure its going to down right suck. But it makes no sense to continue. We have both done wrong. We have both been hurt. The really sad thing is I am the one being strong for him. I have made this choice and not looking back. I feel like I need to support him. But there are no tears big enough that will make me look back. I welcome a new future.

Jeez guys I thought this thread was long gone and dead.
Thanks!

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Originally Posted by 88sunflower

Jeez guys I thought this thread was long gone and dead.
Thanks!

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You are not alone.

You don't have to carry this on your own.

We (by we I mean me) am willing to get drunk and pass out in a pool of vomit right along side you!

I'm going to get slapped for that!

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Originally Posted by redhed35

you are not alone.

you dont have to carry this on your own.

we (by we i mean me) am willing to get drunk and pass out in a pool of vomit right along side you!

im going to get slapped for that!

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Ha! I think you nearly did one night.
Ya weren't so frisky in the castle that next day.

Maybe I can catch you on later. I am closing things down now and headed home.

Drive safe.. ill leave the porch light on for you in the castle.

He needs to understand that sometimes so much of the foundation of a marriage is rocked,there is nothing to hold it up anymore.

I hope that in time,you can come to an understanding that works for both of you.
Maybe down the road,even a friendship.

Just know Sunny that on your dark days,you have a wealth of support here! Stay strong!

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Originally Posted by artlady

He needs to understand that sometimes so much of the foundation of a marriage is rocked,there is nothing to hold it up anymore.

I hope that in time,you can come to an understanding that works for both of you.
Maybe down the road,even a friendship.

Just know Sunny that on your dark days,you have a wealth of support here! Stay strong!

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Thank you artlady.
We will always remain friends. We do have that. Its amazing at one time in our relationship we were the "it" couple. Funny how things work out. But I see now it didn't go beyond the friendship really. I would love to work it out. But we have been down that road more then once.

I have cracked a couple times and wanted to give in. But its pointless. Last night I was in bed and he on the couch and I was lonely for that body near me. Even though there is no cuddling I wanted it there. Its amazing how I can kind of do NC with him living with me. I don't look, I don't touch and I don't think. Period. Then there is no longing for what will never be.