Ask Me Help Desk - My girlfriend wants a break

MANY people like learning the hard way!

This just shows your lack of maturity and lack of experience with girls. I know where you're coming from though I was the same 6 months ago. I came on here hoping to understand a little more about my relationship.

I decided to break with my girlfriend. What she did was what you're going to end up doing. She text me telling me she missed me wanted to talk and work things through. Told me how stupid I was being for wanting to break in the first place.

So I decided to give it another go and just basically push the "why i wanted to break in the first place" to the back of my mind. Everything went great for 6 months and recently I felt the same as I did before. Nothing had been sorted out.

So that's it our relationship is over. I don't regret taking another chance at it because ultimately it led me to know for sure. BUT it meant dragging it out for so long. The only thing I do regret is not listening to the advice of these people on this site. They know their stuff and they're impartial observers who will tell you like it is.

So yeah I know you may think "this doesnt apply to me" and that "our relationship is different". It really isn't and you'd be a fool to think her reasons for the "break" will slowly disappear.

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Originally Posted by robsta237

You know what. I'm going to give her a chance, I'm going to see if she can text me, if she doesn't then eventually I'll text her and see how she is diong. All of you say that a "break" is short for break up, and I have faith in her I have faith that maybe she'll give me another chance. I really hope she does I'm willing to change for not only her but myself as well. It was dumb of me to post my problem on the internet expecting you guys to help me, and really the only thing I'm doing is over thinking everything. And right now that is the last thing I wish upon myself. I'm religious and I feel like if I pray for strength upon myself then I will hopefully get it and become stronger if she does break up with me. I hope she doesn't, but if she does then the only thing I can do is move on, or even possibly become her friend and once we mature more we can try later. I thank all of you for posting what you really feel, but this is ME posting what I really feel. I wish the best of luck to you all.

Oh sure give her a chance! Have you lost your mind? She is the one taking the break therefore she would have to be the one giving YOU another chance... to what yet again go for 3 weeks and break up. That is NOT a relationship! Blah, Blah, Blah that's what she is hearing every time you say "baby I'm going to change, just give me another chance, I need you, I can't live without you, I'm dieing here" broken promises can't get you nowhere!!

As for being dumb for posting, no that's not it, it's the whole fact that you posted got really good answers from people who took up their own time to try and help you in your situation. The being dumb comes in when you don't take any of our advice and you are still in the same position you was in when you posted. So good luck to you! When you grow up a little and finally figure out what a RELATIONSHIP is, then maybe you will come back on here and thank us for our advice. Until then, good luck with the breakups, I mean the relationship with your ex, shoot I mean your girlfriend!!

I know other have already driven the point (and several of them!) home...

But when I read cases like yours it still catches me of guard some how... you have gotten great advice concerning your question and you have gotten many good pointers as to what you can do to lift yourself out of that deep deep DEEP hole you're stuck in... people have come here and thrown you a life line.

One that could have given you some perspective, a way to learn and a way to move forward with your eyes wide open, and not wide shut.

The 'relationship' you are in, is not a relationship as of yet... I mean 3 months; what can you really learn about a person in 3 months? And With 2 break ups during that time, I'd say that it really doesn't seem like a relationship worth pursuing. If a realationship starts of on the rocks and is rocky, from the get-go, it's a sign... it's a sign that its not working, its not functioning as it should be (ideally). To have disagreements is one thing, or a little spat here and there, but to break up when you barely know each other =bad sign.

as for you giving her another chance... dude! seriously, where's your sense of selfworth? She went on a break with you, not the other way around = she is the one who has to decide to give you another chance!

You going on here, wasn't dumb at all, and of course I can see that you think it is, because you want us to tell you the stuff you want to hear. But that's not how it works.

Good luck to you. I hope for your own sake that you snap out of it and leave the land of illusions!

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Originally Posted by robsta237

You know what. I'm going to give her a chance, I'm going to see if she can text me, if she doesn't then eventually I'll text her and see how she is diong.

I had an lol moment.

Tell us what she said.

It's hard to believe that there are people out there that don't care enough about themselves to keep dangling their heart out on their sleeve and letting someone bounce it around like a ping pong ball. Even worse, they won't take good advice when it's given to them.

I think we have done all we can do here. Everyone you pointed out some great things and myself would have thanked you totally for all your great advice. So let's give up on this guy, he obviously is just wasting our time which could be spent on someone else who will listen. This is my last post on this one.

I am the first to admit I am hard headed when it comes to females. They make guys insane! So, I can't really beat the OP up. I can sympathize a bit with his actions... he will eventually learn, if not from us, from his mistakes.

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Originally Posted by kctiger

I am the first to admit I am hard headed when it comes to females. They make guys insane! So, I can't really beat the OP up. I can sympathize a bit with his actions...he will eventually learn, if not from us, from his mistakes.

That's true, that is usually how it goes I guess, if you can't learn from advice or others experiences... your own mistakes can open ones eyes.

LOL as for hard headed-ness... the ones who have seen my thread in action know I'm not always that good at following my own advice, and I don't always wake up that easily... I will admit I have a way of coming around though.

When I wished OP good luck! I didn't try to be cheeky, I meant it! ;)