Ask Me Help Desk - I feel so ugly and I'm sick of everything!

I hope venting in this forum is helping you, because it seems like you really need it. You can't even be happy that you have a boyfriend. What do you really want?
I think you should stop obsessing about porn stars because you are distorting your own self image.

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Originally Posted by UglyChick009

Like women have to be busty, thin and gorgeous... look around! Pick up a Playboy, and see... that's men's ideal. Perky boobs, small waist, round perky butt, long legs...

It's all the media's fault :) Hey, I've been told all my life how beautiful I am inside and out, and still I had always struggle with my insecurities, always. Look at it on the positive side, you know that the person you are with loves for who YOU are , just the way YOU are. Fisical beauty dies with the pass of time, spiritual beauty never dies.

Let me tell u a little story, When my ex was breaking up with me (almost 2 yrs together), I asked him about a girl that was throwing herself at him through Facebook, she was a classmate of his from school, I was shocked because the break up was so out of the blue, so I asked him If he was cheating on me with her, and in a very scornful tone of voice he answered... "Oh no!... Why would I wana be with some one less attractive than you?" at the beginning I didn't quite process that, but when I did... you have no idea how much that SUCKED! ( guess I'm venting too)

Wow, you're pissing everybody off with this rant of arrogance you keep throwing up.

Bottom line, if you feel ugly, then you have self esteem problems. Detailing why thoughts and suggestions wouldn't help, is just bitter and plain rude.

Keep assuming what society is all about, keep telling yourself there's no way to feel pretty... but it's an issue that YOU have, it's not anyone or anything else.

Don't try to blame everything else other than yourself, that's an easy way out to call yourself ugly. Stop whining, get up and do something about it, whatever it take to make yourself feel a little bit better about yourself.

Hello dear. I haven't read all the replies, as there are many of them.

First let me say, I know how you feel. I'm not very attractive, I was born rather plain, and frumpy. My husband loves me for who I am and in fact thinks I am beautifull.

I want to suggest to you that you see a therepist. You need counseling to help you get through this.

Also I want to suggest a book that my sister gave me. (if you are christian) its called "The Confidant woman" by Joyce Meyers. Amazon.com: The Confident Woman: Start Today Living Boldly and Without Fear: Joyce Meyer: Books it helped me SOO much.

Good luck hon.

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Originally Posted by ajGambino

Wow, you're pissing everybody off with this rant of arrogance you keep throwing up.

Bottom line, if you feel ugly, then you have self esteem problems. Detailing why thoughts and suggestions wouldn't help, is just bitter and plain rude.

Keep assuming what society is all about, keep telling yourself there's no way to feel pretty...but it's an issue that YOU have, it's not anyone or anything else.

Don't try to blame everything else other than yourself, that's an easy way out to call yourself ugly. Stop whining, get up and do something about it, whatever it take to make yourself feel a little bit better about yourself.

Arrogant? I know I'm talking about me, but I'm not arrogant. Heck, if this is an issue I have, of course I'm going to talk about myself, right?

I'm not saying I'm not to blame, of course I do, I just hate it when people assume it's all just bad self esteem. It's not. Look, women have more pressure to look good and that's undeniable. Due to "biology"... men in prehistoric times tried to mate with the best looking women, right? That kept going on, no? So women are judged on looks way more than men. Right. So now, with all the emphasis and the sickening amount of media portraying beautiful women and boyfriends/husbands drooling over it, how do you think less than pretty women feel? It's not just me, let me tell you... a lot of women feel like this. Sure, we all have lower than average self esteem... but is it only OUR fault? Don't you think society is a bit twisted sometimes? If personality is so important, then why are looks emphasized so much more?

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Originally Posted by UglyChick009

Sure, we all have lower than average self esteem... but is it only OUR fault? Don't you think society is a bit twisted sometimes? If personality is so important, then why are looks emphasized so much more?

Is it all your fault? Of course it is, are they putting a gun to your head and telling you to look like your view of a stereotypical woman? No. Society can show and flaunt images til' they have no more, it shouldn't affect you like it is right now. If people don't think you're "pretty", that's life. Everyone has their own opinion and it's how you deal with it.

Dude, personality IS important, more than looks. People are different man, that's just the way the world is. Society can get to some people, others just let it pass by. Even so, I'd rather date someone who I can talk to and who I can relate with, over a pretty girl who isn't as deep. Looks aren't everything, as much as you make it out to seem.

Enough of this self serving rant.