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  • Aug 6, 2009, 06:20 AM
    sweet1028

    I'd say that he was just trying to get a laugh. After all he is a man.
    Nothing to worry about unless there is other things that you are suspicious of and haven't posted.
  • Aug 6, 2009, 10:23 AM
    MarMar27

    Yeah I guess so, I'm just going to let it go. But I have been suspicious.. I had a dream of him and another woman and 5 days later I find a picture on his site of him and a woman all over each other supposably dancing but whatever when I told him about the dream he says it was just a cowinsidence that I am not God but I am not trying to be God, sometimes God sends you dreams when you are looking for an answer.
  • Aug 6, 2009, 04:21 PM
    Gemini54
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by MarMar27 View Post
    yeah i guess so, im just gonna let it go. but i have been suspicious.. i had a dream of him and another woman and 5 days later i find a picture on his site of him and a woman all over eachother supposably dancing but whatever when i told him about the dream he says it was just a cowinsidence that I am not God but i am not trying to be God, sometimes God sends you dreams when you are looking for an answer.

    Sometimes your dreams are created by your fears as well!

    If you're worried about his behavior - have a calm, honest talk with him. You love him don't you? Well tell him that and tell him you want to strengthen the relationship.
  • Aug 6, 2009, 06:54 PM
    talaniman
    I think your looking for things to confirm your fears. Do you have trust issues? Are you insecure? Is it his actions that make you snoop on his web page? How come its blocked from your view??

    Been reading your posts, and you should either let go, or ask some questions of him.


    Your threads were merged for the whole background.
  • Aug 7, 2009, 12:30 AM
    MarMar27

    Yes I do love him and we have spoken and he says he is not going to hurt me and what not, yes I do have trust issues due to a very bad relationship throughout my pregnancy I was treated real dirty, and I told him from the beginning I have a lot of insecurities and didn't think I was ready for a relationship... and yes it is his actions that made me snoop because he changed he didn't seem so into me any more so I felt he was hiding things. I had a friend add him cause I don't have one of those webpages and then he deleted her one time and I asked why and he said he would add her back on so he did and now he deleted again a couple weeks ago and said it deleted by itself cause the webpages do that sometimes but then about a week ago he told me he was mad at me so he deleted it which is crazy I know its like a big circle, and then he tells me to create one myself if I want to view his page, I feel when I tell him I'm not ready that's the only time he wants to express his feelings for me..
  • Aug 7, 2009, 07:40 AM
    talaniman

    I don't think your ready either to be honest, but here you are. Deal with your issues and take extra care to think before you speak or act as a web page is insignificant in the grand scheme of things, and you have to learn not to blow things so far out of proportion.

    Google "insecurity" and follow the links and learn about yourself, and also check out neediness. Your letting your past, ruin your present. That's why a relationship is not what you need, because your not healthy until you can stand on your own, instead you depend too much on him to be happy with yourself.

    That's a product of low- self esteem, and you have to get that back, if you ever had it to begin with.

    Sorry to be harsh, but you have a lot of work to do for yourself, to resolve your personal issues.
  • Aug 9, 2009, 01:43 PM
    MarMar27

    No, actually I have to thank you because I have said that many times to myself, and I keep telling him to let it go cause I know I am not ready, but he does not want to, he shows up at my house and does all these things and will not let me go.. I keep telling him why be together when its not going to work and I keep telling him that we need space so I can get myself together.

    If its meant to be it will be, but he keeps saying "when you love someone you fight for it" and how he's been in many relationships but never felt about someone the way he does for me, and I understand that, and I keep bringing it up to him but he just won't, he does not want to let it go for nothing, and tells me I am his world and will do anything to keep me, he also tells me he feels that I am the one he will marry (he talks a lot about that too).. why is that? And why does he not want to let this go when he knows I am not ready?

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