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  • Jun 15, 2009, 02:38 PM
    talaniman

    Puh-lease, stay with NC.
    To lazy..!
    Too busy..

    So what??
  • Jun 15, 2009, 02:44 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Syzygy View Post
    Update:

    So far, I've been completely ignoring him.. no phone calls no texts.. nothing. And he's continuing to ignore me.

    I talked to a mutual friend though and he says that my boyfriend just doesn't know how to handle the situation (I'm his first girlfriend) and that he's just lazy to contact me. Also, he works full time and is always busy.

    I was thinking about just sending a text saying that it's over.. is this a good idea? Or should I just continue with NC

    NC! You're still in the mindset that this will work out somehow, be honest with yourself, that's why you want to send the text, not for any other reason.

    You're no longer dating him, he's officially your ex, that's the mindset you need, then move on.

    If he contacts you just ignore him. Do not contact him.

    It's called No Contact for a reason.
  • Jun 16, 2009, 12:18 AM
    Syzygy

    Thanks guys.. I was leaning towards NC, just needed someone to tell me straight on.

    I guess I'm just kind of mad and sad that it's so easy for him to drop me like I'm nothing when I gave it my all and was completely dedicated and devoted in the relationship.
  • Jun 21, 2009, 06:34 AM
    roxypox
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Syzygy View Post
    Thanks guys.. I was leaning to wards NC, just needed someone to tell me straight on..

    Yeah it really can be a big help when someone comes out and says it like it is.

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Syzygy View Post
    I guess I'm just kind of mad and sad that it's so easy for him to drop me like I'm nothing when I gave it my all and was completely dedicated and devoted in the relationship.

    And you have a right to those emotions. To be in the situation your in right now, its tough and to be mad and sad about it isn't that uncommon or strange in any way.

    In my opinion I really do think that over time, with NC you are able to distance yourself from him and you can give yourself time and space to deal with those emotions and heal.
  • Jun 21, 2009, 11:36 AM
    Rushed19

    I doubt you work out, do you work out? Working out and exercising your body gives you so much confidence! I strongly strongly recommend doing which and regularly, not just once, go for a walk for a half hour it will make a huge difference. Also lay back on your refined sugars because they intensify these kinds of moods. I felt the same way about an ex and the best thing was to end it, I then found someone I could be myself with. You have underlying trust issues with him also and yourself worth is very low, go treat yourself! Pedicure,manicure,cook, swim go tanning. Be good to you!

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