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Originally Posted by Rushed19

Is there ever a successful, happy, loving and long relationship?

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Not until you first develop one with yourself...

I got so much great advice from everyone, I feel at peace, thanks!

I'm lonely, my boyfriend and I broke up about three weeks ago, we haven't had much contact at all... I just don't want to be lonely I don't want anyone else, I'm just sad I have no texts to find in my phone all the time, like it used to be. I miss having my other half, it was so comfortable, even though I'm the one that broke it off it still really hurts. How do I not be lonely when I have nothing to do?

Make yourself busy. Go on a walk. Learn a new language. Draw pictures. Photography is a great hobby I've fallen in love with. Going to the movies with friends or family. Join a gym. Join a club. Play video games. Read a book.

There's tons of things you can do, it just takes the motivation to find something, which can be hard because your mind is troubled.

I would also suggest that if you're at home doing something, put the phone in a different room if you're checking it every few seconds for texts from him.

Good for you, though, for not keeping in contact! That's a big step a lot of people take a long time to take!

Good luck!

Find something to do. Having another person if your life isn't going to make you happy if you aren't already. You had your reasons for breaking things off with this guy so he obviously wasn't right for you. But your happiness has to come from within ; you can't expect another person to do that for you. Just like when your hungry, you can't have another person eat for you so you can be satisfied ; you have to eat yourself if you want to be filled. The same goes for finding happiness.

When you don't have anything to do, then figure out and plan something to do. You must develop a life that makes you happy. That's your challenge for yourself.

Being alone isn't ALL bad, there's some good to come along with it. You being alone gives you time to think and rationalize, but be smart about it. Right now, you're dwelling and that's normal right now. In the meantime, do what makes you feel like yourself, makes you feel happy, something that just makes sense. I'm sure you can think of many things, the problem is actually doing it... so what are you waiting for?

In time you will learn to accept yourself as a whole, not someone who needs another half to be complete. Good luck buddy, be strong.

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