Go get out enjoy yourself stop thinking about her just leave it now and stop anoying yourself that's the closure you needed to see now stop pondering and go get some nice gal for yourself! :) best of luck in the future x

So update. I called her the day after my birthday left a message, just to say hey what's up and see how she is doing. She calls back and it was OK, she said she didn't mean to hurt me. Then she starts talking about how she doesn't think she is beautiful (fishing for compliments)... I told her why doesn't she date all the guys she talks to and stuff, she says she's not attracted to them at all... blah blah blah... I think she just trying to use me to make herslef feel better about herself. Im not going to give her the benefit of a boyfriend if I get nothing in return. I mean I was nice... told her yea yea.. your beautiful... youll find someone... I just rejected her... I don't know what kind of games she's playing...

She is not playing any games you are. You called her, remember?

Leave her alone.

Dude, what are you doing? She's just saying that to get some "feel good" off you because she knows you will kiss her _. Don't keep being a wimp all your life. Honestly man, listen to that Chuff guy, he really knows what he's talking about. By the way, thanks Chuff, I took what you had to say as advice for myself.

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Can you explain how this is different then anything else she's done.

As a girl, it seems to me she likes someone else who may not be interested in her so she is looking to you to boost her ego. You didn't "reject" her because you called her. Why would you even be thinking about "giving her the benefit of a boyfriend" but won't cause you get nothing in return? She is not asking for you to give her anything 'like a boyfriend" she is not looking to you to get the benefits of a boyfriend. She is feeling sh*tty from some other situation and is looking to feel better and you happened to call. Why do you keep doing this to yourself?

She said "here boy" and you came running. You like the abuse and nothing anyone on here says is going to teach you what you need to do, you have 5 pages of USEFUL information, yet you continue to do what you want.

Its okay guys. If he doesn't want to take our advice, he doesn't have to. Its his life and he can do whatever he wants. He ll just find out the hard way that taking our advice is the best route. He keeps coming up with new situations but it's the same thing...

Ok I am taking your advice now... I went out last night and met a nice swedish girl who I conversated with and dropped off at her home... nothing happened... just exploring my options.

Your options shouldn't involve a girl. What have you done lately to fill the void in your life?? People don't make other people, people make themselves. Now that you found a new girl to give attention to, the other one becomes irrelevant. When will you depend on yourself for happiness?

Dude making another girl the rebound isn't the answer. You just met her, you don't have any connection with her yet and you wouldn't want to play with her feelings.

Man I was up in a club in nyc and me and this one chick were danicing and making out and she wanted to sleep with me but her got dang friend took her away and put her in a cab... she kept on coming to me in the club when I was alone... I wish my car wasn't in the shop I would have drove them home... im getting over her slowly

lol in that case I guess its okay as long as both of you know not to get involved more than that. Dude you are not ready for a relationsihp yet but there's no harm in getting out there and having some fun =P

Why do you think I'm not ready for a relationship?

DUDE!! Because you just got out of a relationship. Why rush into a new one? You ll be thinking about your ex when you're dating someone new. You ll just want anyone to be with to fill the void of lonliness etc.

I don't think you are ready for a relationship or was when you were with your ex. Look at what you write, you were so broken up about your ex and wanted to know how to "win" her love back, and already you are bragging about some "chick" you just met and made out with and could have slept with. You my boy need to seriously get your priorities straight before you think about getting into any relationship.

OK I will give it some time to heal. I still do think about her often

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As you keep No Contacting her, it will get easier and you will find yourself starting to think about her less.

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Man i was up in a club in nyc and me and this one chick were danicing and makin out and she wanted to sleep with me but her got dang friend took her away and put her in a cab....she kept on coming to me in the club when i was alone....i wish my car wasnt in the shop i woulda drove them home...im getting over her slowly

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Dancing with a drunk chick in a club doesn't mean there's a 'connection'.

You are so obviously needy and desperate that being in a relationship in all you think about. Just go out and have fun. The reason this girl wanted to sleep with you was because she was... errr drunk. People do things that they wouldn't normally do when they're drunk.

Focus on being happy by yourself.

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ok i will give it some time to heal. I still do think about her often

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Dude, I still think about my ex at times too, and it has been 8 months now. Your thoughts mean nothing, your actions mean everything. It is what it is, and right now you need to realize that someone else has nothing to do with completing your life. Only you can have that impact. Make it happen!