You are hurting, and I understand all too well. You thought this guy really loved you. He is nothing more than a heartless jerk, and now you are seeing that. Do not feel like an idiot at all. None of this is your fault. You will have the last laugh when you are feeling better, and arm in arm with a real man who loves you.

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You are hurting, and I understand all too well. You thought this guy really loved you. He is nothing more than a heartless jerk, and now you are seeing that. Do not feel like an idiot at all. None of this is your fault. You will have the last laugh when you are feeling better, and arm in arm with a real man who loves you.

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Thanks starlite1 for taking the time to offer advice at this difficult time, I do appreciate it. I just can't see the day that I'm not going to stop hurting, the last time I stop hurting he came back in my life and the pain was dug up again, every time he comes into my life he promises that he won't hurt me again!!

Yes, but he does hurt you over and over again. And if you keep letting him back into your life, he is going to keep doing this to you, because he knows he can. He's not going to change, sweetie. But, you are... you are not going to allow this guy to do this to you anymore no matter what he says and no matter how many empty 'I love you's'. You may hurt for a while, but you will get through this, and just think, this is the last time that this guy will ever hurt you again. Now you can heal your broken heart, and make yourself stronger.

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Yes, but he does hurt you over and over again. And if you keep letting him back into your life, he is going to keep doing this to you, because he knows he can. He's not going to change, sweetie. But, you are...you are not going to allow this guy to do this to you anymore no matter what he says and no matter how many empty 'I love you's'. You may hurt for a while, but you will get through this, and just think, this is the last time that this guy will ever hurt you again. Now you can heal your broken heart, and make yourself stronger.

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I just understand how someone can say to a person that they love them so much and then treat them like this?? I could never treat anyone like this. This is the last time I'm going to be a door mar for this loser, his arse is going to be for the high road the next time he comes running

Exactly! He doesn't know how to love, let alone the meaning. He used that word to get what he wanted from you. I can't stand people like that!!

Thanks starlite1, for everything xx

Anytime Rooster! Anytime you want to talk and keep us updated, we are here!

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Anytime Rooster! Anytime you want to talk and keep us updated, we are here!

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My faith in humans was waring a little thin until I came on here, it shows that there are nice people out there, not just scum bags like him around. Thanks to everyone that has posted inc starlite1. Il keep you updated, I'm up to 3 days, even though I'm dying to tell him how much I love him I know that he won't reply and it will make me look like a desperate bunny boiler!! So I'm not going too

Sweetie, no problem. I'm here for you. And do yourself a favor and don't contact him again. No more I Love You's to him. Take care of YOU and love Yourself! Hey, why don't you take yourself out, by a new outfit, get your hair done, and a manicure and pedicure? Treat yourself special! And who knows? You may run into a nice, caring hot man along the way ;)

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Sweetie, no problem. I'm here for you. And do yourself a favor and don't contact him again. No more I Love You's to him. Take care of YOU and love Yourself! Hey, why don't you take yourself out, by a new outfit, get your hair done, and a manicure and pedicure? Treat yourself special!! And who knows? You may run into a nice, caring hot man along the way ;)

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Thanks again starlite1, today is day 4 and I'm feeling a little better today, lets just hope I continue to go forward. I know that I'm better off without him but that does not make the pain any less sharp. Ive just been made redundant so have loads of time on my hands at the moment, I'm desperatley looking for a new job but its tough out there at the moment. Anyway the only way is up so they say, il keep you informed, thanks everyone for there help :D:D:D

Hi Rooster,

You will be fine. Go out today, go have some fun, GO SHOPPING :)

Thanks starlite1, I'm trying to be brave and carry on regardless of my feelings. When your ex tells you that him and tis other holiday woman are just mates then you see them on Facebook sending each other "naughty poker" messages e.g I want to make you wet, I want to make love to you it does hurt!! And he still says there friends?? But I'm trying to move on hun,

I know you are sweetie, and you will move on from this. Right now this is so pain staking, but each day you will get a little stonger and the pain will soon be removed.

One suggestion I have... don't go onto Facebook anymore. Delete your account if you have to. It isn't worth having it, because it could tempt you to keep checking up on him, and he isn't worth your time or energy sweetie.

Facebook account deleted and never to be reinstated xxx let them get wet, see if I care xx

That a girl!! EXCELLENT!! Who cares what they do, if anything. Let her see his true colors, then him coming running back to you, and you SLAMMING THE DOOR ON HIS FACE! And in your sweetest voice, as you are slamming the door, you give a little wink and simply say "F*&^ OFF"

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That a girl!!! EXCELLENT!!! Who cares what they do, if anything. Let her see his true colors, then him coming running back to you, and you SLAMMING THE DOOR ON HIS FACE!! And in your sweetest voice, as you are slamming the door, you give a little wink and simply say "F*&^ OFF"

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That's so true starlite1, I'm keeping busy, if they want to send stupid poker messages then that's up to them. Ive had my fill of his bd behaviour and I'm moving on and up!! Im better than him and deserve much better, even he has said that too me (and I should have taken note and listened!! ) but I suppose better late than never. I feel for this other woman as she has a 12 year old daughter, but if she won't listen then what more can I do. If I stick my nose in I will just look like the jilted ex, so I'm not going to bother, I'm going to look out for ME for a change, I always put others ahead of me and ow its time for me, that may sound selfish but I think we need to be at time. Thanks again for all your help xx

You are not selfish at all. You are finally going to take care of you! Keep that positive attitude, you will do just fine!

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You are not selfish at all. You are finally going to take care of you!! Keep that positive attitude, you will do just fine!!

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Just a quick update, I'm a bit confused on what to do and need advice please. My ex has just text me you see, apparently one of my friends emailed him the other day and said "im assuming that you have heard about Jackie, i hope you are finally happy" (I made the name up for obvious reasons), and he has text me today saying that he has heard that something bad has happened to me and has asked what's wrong.

My friends said she sent the text when I was very ill and had the cancer scare, he obvioulsey wants me to text him back, but I just don't want to dig this all up again. I think my friend was trying to scare him (which was wrong I know, but you know what friends are like when they are trying to help, or think they are helping)!! Into contacting me.

He probably wouldn't hve contacted me if he hadn't received the text, I'm dying to text him telling him I'm OK, but the jilted part of me wants to leave it and make him wonder what's the hell wrong with me (not that he probably cares tbh)

I'm stuck

He is now constantly calling me as well, I've not answered any of his calls but I'm dying inside and would love to speak to him again, but I've been strong and not picked up xx