Yes unfortunately it does,because now your happy, but I'm sorry, but I think you see a hope of more, but are not admitting it. I may be wrong, but have little doubt, your "friend" has a different agenda, and motivation for her actions, that you don't know, and need to. Do you really think she is taking the opportunity to reconnect with a friend? I don't for a minute.
Come on guy, is jumping from guy to guy a good thing or a needy thing.
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Looking back, obviously the main problem is that I always was far more into her than she into me. She was the most beautiful girl I had ever dated and I certainly let that beauty blind me and let her treat me like a doormat. Nobody can love a doormat.
So after being a doormat, a rejected one at that, your still there? That does not compute.Quote:
We talked and e-mailed weekly-biweekly and still met occasionally after fallout #3 in late October.
Finally, reality has led led you to the path of dignity and self respect.Quote:
This all came to a crashing halt when I found out recently that not only is she dating someone who shares my same (rather uncommon) name, she is in an official "relationship" with this person!! The same person who wouldn't make any sort of commitment to me in 3 years is now comitted to someone else she'd known for a couple of months. I was devastated and decided immediately to cut off all contact-phone, Facebook, e-mail, etc.
I would be mad as hell, too!Quote:
It's been 8 days but I still have pathetic feelings of longing for her and the friendship that is gone (my own choice for my own sanity). The worst thing is the ego blow though, essentially getting dumped 3 times by someone I was madly infatutated with and "replaced" by another in short time by someone who shares my own freaking name.
I feel you there partner, but that's shock at being rejected and replaced and a need to heal.Quote:
I'm really too old to be putting up with this drama. I'm perfectly fine with the idea of settling down but for some reason the thrill of chasing the beautiful girl that is just out of reach still haunts me.
That will change after you have healed and are ready to regroup and rebuild a life that you enjoy without her.Quote:
For some reason it's hard to be attracted to perfectly nice girls that don't make my heart skip.
As long as your giving her what she wants and not giving yourself what you need, YES!!Quote:
Am I doomed to a life of singledom?
What standards, your putting her before yourself, that's not a standard, that's a door mat.Quote:
Do I need to readjust my standards?
Sorry to be harsh, but she sets the pace, calls the shots, and controls everything you do in regard to her, NOT HEALTHY ON YOUR PART.Quote:
What the hell is wrong with me?
You can never heal and move to a healthy happy place as long as this "friend" is in your life. NO WAY. Sorry again, but that's what I see.
