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  • Jan 11, 2009, 08:40 AM
    kctiger

    You don't do anything. Just take it as it goes. Also, it depends on how you are feeling. It seems as though you are enjoying the resurgence of her feelings, so go with it, and read nothing into it.

    Quit over analyzing, and have fun. Let things naturally progress, and see where it goes from there. Don't expect anything, either.
  • Jan 11, 2009, 11:19 PM
    greystoke

    Thanks kctiger
  • Jan 18, 2009, 03:19 AM
    greystoke

    Hey guys! I realised that as long as I keep being as close to her as before. I'm hurting and she's getting better. So for about a week now. I don't call anymore and just talk with her with our group of friends. Wat I want to know is how can I utilize No contact to the max in my situation cause complete no contact isn't possible for me since we study together and we have the same group of friends. And I also would like to know how to change my behaviour around her... these days I'm just really positive and friendly to her... I dono if this is smart... should I not acknowledge her as much. I feel myself starting to getting better and better day by day... but I just want to do this to the best that I can. Basically what I do on a daily basis now is to go to college with her and then I have no contact with her until its time to catch our ride back home... I don't seek her out.and when she calls and asks me to hang out I just tell her I'm busy working... I just need to know how to interact with her when we are in a group... any help would be awesome. Thanks you guys :)

    P/s Talaiman... I would love to hear what you have to say as well. Thanks
  • Jan 18, 2009, 07:43 AM
    talaniman

    NC does not mean rude it means unavailable, and busy. It also means you need to widen your circle of friends, and activities. Your doing fine, but need to stay on the path.

    Never say can't, that's self defeating.

    People who embrace there own lives and be happy about themselves, move on quicker than those that don't.
  • Sep 12, 2010, 10:51 AM
    danielp0001
    I am sorry to tell you but women normally go for what they want. If she is asking you to go out with other women the chances are quite high that she is over you. Women are territorial and don't like sharing what they like and to be honest they like to have someone or something they can brag about. It just seems to me that she is too nice to tell you how she feels. So before she verbalises it and it becomes real to her, your best bet would be to walk away as much as you can.

    The truth is that to have a new relationship the old one has to die. Let the old one die so move on and hope you can start something real later but be ready to accept if (most likely) that never happens.

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