What a perfect waste of time, and energy. Living well and being happy with yourself is what you need. Not some dumb mind games, that will make you look pathetic, silly, and immature.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

What a perfect waste of time, and energy. Living well and being happy with yourself is what you need. Not some dumb mind games, that will make you look pathetic, silly, and immature.

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Total agree with Tal!

Just do your own thing and don't worry about her at all.

That's easy you just ignore her completely.

Do your own thing and don't worry about what she thinks. Be happy with yourself and YOUR life

Last night my ex started AIMing me, what the hell is she thinking?

She will get the message, if you ignore her attempts at contact. Exes love to keep in contact, and keep you in the friend zone.

If you didn't want to be bother with her then why are you contacting her through texts and aim? Your adding to this confusion, stop it. Leave the past in the past and stop questioning her motives because they aren't important. However, your reaction is.

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Originally Posted by jlh76

I see this NC thing over and over and I have to ask, why? I thought if the dumper tried to make contact that put it in a different playing field. Seems all the answers are NC regardless of it being a complete break up or a temporary "break" to try to bring oneself out of depression. I just don't get it. What if he truely loves her and she has came to her senses? If he continues NC won't he always be stuck wondering "what if"?

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Even when doing NC I thinks its pretty easy for the dumper to get the simple message "I want you back" to you.

I wouldn't respond for anything less.

To make it clear, I never initiated contact with her, she in all cases has made contact

And what difference does that make, when your always available, and ready to talk too?

Oh wait, you must still want her contacting you. That's why you answer! Cut it out, or quit complaining about being confused.

I just came back to school and last semester my girlfriend broke up with me for her own reasons. My problem is that iI see her at the bar I go to and I see her in the gym, I still want to be her friend and maybe someday get back with her but its to soon. Its tough for me to see her at the bar, but I can live with it, and when I see her at the gym I do my own thing, and try to ignore her. I just want to make sure that she doesn't think I'm stalking her, or caught up on her. Anybody have advice, or anything to say

Find a new bar to hang out with... you are just slamming your head into a wall every time you take a "chance" and happen to run into her. You have control over all of this...

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I just want to make sure that she doesn't think I'm stoking her or caught up on her

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I still want to be her friend and maybe someday get back with her

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Don't mix.

You are caught up on her, and as long as you continue to go to places that you know you'll run in to her, she's going to know that you're
Still caught up on her.

Chances are you'll never get back together, just let it go, find somewhere new to hang out.

Threads merged to avoid confusion, and give a complete story.

The bar I go to has been the bar that I go to since I turned 21 and she knows that

Swallow your pride and find another bar, or keep coming on here and posting questions such as this, that always have an obvious answer... you just can't accept that answer. Quit making excuses and get on with your life man!

Disappear from her life for a good while. This is a good time to broaden your horizons, and do other things. She also knows that's where you'll be, so what's the odds this is just a coincidence? Don't play her game, as you will stay confused and available for a lot of drama.