Religion and politics are two dangerous topics in relationships. I'm not sure why this is but it's almost impossible fro two people to have a successful relationship when their religious and political beliefs are not compatible. Evidently these are things that people take very personally. This guy probably did you a favor breaking up with you when he did and in the manner in which he did. Otherwise I bet that things would have gotten much uglier. I believe that abortion is morally wrong and should be outlawed. Did you react to that last statement, either pro or con? Did I make my point?

I guess that's true, though I think abortion is a bit different than being a non-religous jew but I know you're right.
My major problem right now is that I don't want us to hate each other, we won't get back together and we won't be friends but I'd like to be able to talk once in a while. I keep debating (with myself) if I should call or not. Someitmes people can't be in a relationship because of those differences but can't they stay friendly?

I fully disagree about difference in politics and religion... I know and have seen many great couples together that have difference in politics and religion. This is NOT a Deal Breaker... AGAIN...

It's all about communication!! Talk!! Talk!!

Sometimes differences in opinions in things such as politics etc can actually be a healthy thing for a relationship.
It can stimulate healthy COMMUNICATION. Maybe it can come down to the society you live in too.
In Australia where I live these issues are not relevant at all when it comes to relationships from my experiences in my town.

I live in Israel so they do affect reltionships quite a bit

WelL you're a young woman. You have a LOT of time to work on yourself. Each one of these dating/relationships are building blocks for the one special relationship.

Don't put so much importance early on - there is no reason for this.

Give these relationships timE to develop... you put too much importance early on and he will run from you.

PEOPLE WANT WHAT THEY CAN'T HAVE - ALWAYS!!

YOU NEED TO BE Willing GTO WALK A WAY WITHOUT MUCH EMOTIANAL ATTACHMENT EARLY ON.

ALWAYS remember - early on they may be seeing someone else as well. Until you becoem exclusive.

It's called dating! Don't expect to be the only one. Believe me. Until you BOTH are ready to be exclusive. Did I say BOTH?? BOTH - not just you.

Early in a relationship caution and taking your time to really get to know a person is what is important. Does it make a lot of sense to think you know someone that well after a few months? Does it make sense to be so in love with someone that you'll fall for anything after a few months? Take your time, after all what's the hurry in being in love? And be honest, does this person have some bad habits you don't like? All this takes time and you will pay a very high price physically and emotionally if you rush in to a relationship with the wrong person. Take the time to get it right.:cool: :)

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well i don't know how long it takes to fall in love but i think my feelings were love and not lust or smitten. I still love him and hope he gets over his depression and becomes a happy person. even if it can't be with me

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Living where you live, as in many locations in the world that are similar, it might be that people are 'geared' toward living life as fast as possible, cramming everything they can into a life they don't know how long will last... and it naturally can cause frustration and depression.

When living in a small, peaceful farming town, or living in a metropolis, people tend to adjust to the pace of their surroundings. This influences the lifestyles, attitudes and perspectives one has.

Example: A farmer tends to have a routine, is more mellow, knows what his plans are the next day and lives accordingly. The usual Friday nights, activities with the kids, wife, and neighbors - sometimes to the point where it would be considered boring by city-folk.

A soldier has a structure, but does not know from one day to the next if that structure will still be there - lives in constant change - therefore needs and likes to experience as much as possible in his available time - and might even be over-excessive - because he does not know what the next day will bring. Naturally the hopes and dreams of a peaceful routine are within all of us, but so is the pressure of the now...

All in all, no society and/or political structure in the world is making things easier on any of us - it's there, in our every-day life.

I hope this makes sense to you somewhat - and that I put my point across.

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Good luck dear, and please keep us posted.

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Try and only date people of the same religion. Many Christians don't know it, until after it's too late, but they are only supposed to marry other Christians. This is a time-tested principle straight from the Bible:

Do Not Be Yoked With Unbelievers. 2 Corinthians 6:14-15 states, "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?"

This is God's best for you! Anything else is no more than second best and probably much worse.


Txgreasemonkey - what a believer and non believer have in common if they truly love and respect each other is the bond they share for each other.

If u really love your partner who is a christian or a catholic, you respect their love for their religion too. You encourage them to attend mass, you encourage them to pray, you encourage them to believe even if you don't believe yourself.

If you as a christian / catholic truly love your non religious partner you respect their decission and you don't enforce nothing on them, no preaches and no you should do this and that etc!
BECAUSE that is what will cause the pain and arguments in a relationship. You have to learn that we are all individuals and if you can hold a relationship and not argue over religion.. now that's a point!
That is what love is all about.

I know this cause its true and I have the pleasure to be in 1 of those relationship.
I was born catholic, baptised, holy communion, confirmation.. the lot. Attended religion classes, and also a catholic school run by nuns.
My husband is none of the above.
We have been together for a total for 8 years, and married for 2 years.
We love each other and have NO intentions of leaving each other.
And you know what, we never once argued about religion and beliefs! We have our chats and yes we do disagree maybe on a few things, but neither one of us would let that interfer or ruine our strong relationship.. God would not want that, now would he?
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