No, that will not help. As a matter of fact, that will hurt. I saw my ex with the guy she is 'seeing' and that killed me. Of course my mind started going and I can tell you it is VERY painful to think of someone you love being romantic with another guy. Whatever you do, avoid that crap... it isn't healthy whatsoever.

A big part of healing is not filling your head with nonsense. This will do nothing to help you, except short circuit the gains you may make.

Healing is all in the mind... why inhibit healing with unfounded, made-up thoughts?

Believe me when I tell you that your mind can cause more pain than your ex can. You think breaking up is painful, try even remotely thinking about your ex having sex with another guy... I guarantee you won't want to do it again. Don't let your mind create things that you have no business to think about.

I guess you guys are right. Why even waste your time with things that do not concern you? How long has it taken you guys to get over your ex?

Dude, it has been three months and I am still not fully over her. It takes time. Don't worry about the amount of time, just do whatever you have to do to heal.

Well we broke-up officially back in August. But I actually broke-up with her in October, because I was playing the dumb waiting game. So it's been 2 months for me. I am still not over her yet either, however I'm A LOT further along then I was. I am not letting the fact that she is no longer with me stop me from moving forward with my life.

I am feeling as if I am much further along than I was a few months ago, but am still feeling a small void especially now that the holidays are here.

Yeah, the holidays are a bit tough, that is true. First time in five years my ex won't be around. But, the thing about holidays is this: it isn't a time to focus on what you don't have anymore, but rather on what you do have. Be thankful for the good things, and try not to focus on things that you cannot control.

I don't think you ever really get over your X. you just don't feel hurt by them anymore

that's when you know you have moved on

and there is no time limit

just stay strong. Try to relax

trust me it is hard.
your mind can play the worst tricks on you.

I d wish you all the best