We both get what we deserve. I love a good double entendre!

I guess I am confused on how the birthday gift/affair helps your situation.

I have only peeked through the countless posts on this situation, but I am not understanding why you haven't filed for divorce. He will be served and before a judge they will decide who will leave the marital property for the time being and than you can fight out the property issues at that time.

I am not understanding why you endured 32 years in this scenerio, how sleeping on a couch for the last 5 years was a solution? You should never be in a situation you know is unhealthy for 2 years while asking one partner to leave and he refuses. You have to take matters into your own hands. I don't know why you haven't researched your options years ago.

Kudos for trying to solve the situation now, but there isn't any piece of property I paid for that I would be miserable for and although I agree you shouldn't have to leave the property and essentially give up, but it would have been a temporary solution to having an unhealthy situation handled by now.

I am in a similar situation. 70% of the time I am happy, but I think I am only sticking it out for kids, and also in fear of him taking off with our oldest son.
He is sometimes aggressive in a threatening way (never actually does anything), when I say something like I am happier when you are working away. It perturbs me no end as he has a gambling problem which I have tried to be patient with while he has worked through it. He hasn't gambled since Jan this year. Also I find myself resenting his inability to grow up. When he walks through the door he usually sits his arse down and watches TV or gets on the computer, whilst I run around after our three children. I work full-time too. Sometimes he helps, most of the time he doesn't. He goes out with his mates or plays APL umpteen times a week, while I have sat at home slowly growing fat and resentful. I tell him at least once a week that I don't want to be in a relationship with him and that I am over it. I tell him I feel trapped and that I am living in an enemy camp and he completely ignores me like I haven't said a single word. Sometimes when he is asleep on the couch I would love to smack him over the head with a hammer, just to be done with the bull****. Life was meant to be nice. I was meant to be happy. I have three amazing children and a great job, a nice house and an awesome family, then there is this dead weight I have been lugging around with me for too long. I don't drink and I don't smoke... I just eat, eat, eat! You know what he says, I have no where to go!