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HistorianChick agrees: Nice answer, M. :) Great minds, huh? ;)

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Oh absolutely "J" ;) Hhmmm... wonder if I would enjoy living in the US... lol

?? Is that comment in reference to my question or someone else's comment?

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???? Is that comment in reference to my question or someone else's comment?

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:eek: sorry AmExp , just a little banter between myself and Historianchick :o

Didn't mean to threadjack:rolleyes:

Oh no problem... I don't mind at all but since u are the expert do you have an answer to my question?

Oh I'm no expert but HC is... LOL , sorry but which question?

Hello AmExp, I am telling you that he is not interested or wants you as a spare. Please for yourself move on and give him what he wants, SPACE. He is playing games not you. This guy will only keep you heartbroke. Go on with your life and leave the past the past. You can do it just come here and vent and read some question and give some answers. It has helped me a bunch. I was going through almost the same thing except it was a woman doing me that way. The call me and then I would call her back and she was like you call too much or I will get in touch with you. When nothing else was going on I was good enough to "hang out with" or "date" but only on her terms, that don't work keeps you hanging. No Contact, good luck and God Bless.

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How would that benefit him....??? I understand where you are going but that is just silly...especially seeing how he is not trying to be bothered....ugh.

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How would that benefit him....??? I understand where you are going but that is just silly...especially seeing how he is not trying to be bothered....ugh.

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You are stroking his ego by answering whenever he calls , in my opinion it's just his way of finding out if he still has you on his hook.

You are his fall back girl. He calls to make sure you're still there if and when he needs you. By answering his calls you are reassuring him that you are.

NC, learn it, live it, love it. :)

Good luck.

Thanks... I am def going to have to accept this and keep it moving! I hate the fact that I have been running behind him like this. He just spent all that time telling me how he was so sorry and I am a good person that deserves more but then he acts like this... BOO! What is worse, no one wants to see me with this person. I don't know... I just want to know if I am being replaced for something better? I shouldn't care... but I do. :(

Exactly. Never look back, keep looking forward. :)

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Thanks...I am def going to have to accept this and keep it moving! I hate the fact that I have been running behind him like this. He just spent all that time telling me how he was so sorry and I am a good person that deserves more but then he acts like this...BOO! What is worse, no one wants to see me with this person. I dunno...I just want to know if I am being replaced for something better? I shouldn't care...but I do. :(

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By caring you are just hurting you and making him feel good.

Now that's just the opposite of what you want so just let it go and leave this guy alone.

I just thought my return would spark some interests again... I guess I was wrong...

You created drama for yourself and that is why he told you to chill. You are friends, not dating. Friends don't act like you did, GF's do.

You sent him a goodbye text, he didn't respond.. friends would say "oh well I guess he/she is busy". GF"s feel slighted and get pissed. You did.. then you kept texting. You only end up fighting with yourself because since he doesn't feel as strongly about you I can almost bet he rolled his eyes at your ranting or explanation texts and just ignored them. Also the more you text without responses the more demanding, pushy, and desperate you seem.

He sounds like he is over any drama with you, guys get that way fast if you act like this a lot. Sometimes you just got to back off and let them find you if they want, if not you really would only be wasting your time and energy chasing someone who doesn't want to be chased by you.

Ok first off. Text is always a sure fire way to annoy a guy. I haven't read all of these posts, but me being a guy, when a girl is hitting me up non stop even if I want to be with her or not, to me it is like man don't you have a life. Give him space especially if he is acting like that. But understand if he said he will call you he will. It might take a couple days, but don't get offended that your not as high up on his petastool as you thought.


I bet you are the one who broke it off.

I agree with everyone that it is time to leave the past in the past and move on. He's your ex and it don't seem like you two should even be friends. Find someone that want you.

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Oh absolutely "J" Hhmmm........wonder if I would enjoy living in the US..........lol

:eek: sorry AmExp , just a little banter between myself and Historianchick :o

Didn't mean to threadjack:rolleyes:

I'm not the expert.... HC is!

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Ha ha, M... Come to my parlor, said the spider to the fly... ;) Oz isn't all its cracked up to be... my beach is muuuuuuuch better... ;)

AmExp... sweetie, you need to (yes,I'm going to say it) work on yourself. That means, focusing on what makes you YOU, what makes you attractive to other people, what makes you happy, what gives you joy, what you like to do separate from being with a guy, what makes you smile, what upsets you, what YOU are. Don't worry about a guy. Take time to "get to know yourself" again.

Spend time being you. I recommend not looking for a guy, not trying to re-kindle romance with this guy, not pursuing a guy for a while. Relationships are about TWO individuals coming together to make a team, a unit and still retaining independence - not contradicting each other, but supporting and completing the other. It shouldn't be he said this, so did this - or, he DIDN'T respond to this, so I sent this. That's drama. You don't need drama.

Are you happy when you're by yourself? Do you feel complete without a guy? I'm not saying that you should NEVER have a guy, I'm just saying that you should be OK by yourself. You should be happy with who you are apart from a guy. He shouldn't be your identity.

Hopefully, you got a little sense out of some of these ramblings.

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I just thought my return would spark some interests again... I guess I was wrong...

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You were hoping it would spark some interest because you still haven't moved on. You are not over him so stop answering his calls and stop him from coming in and out of your life whenever he wants to. You should do this for your own good and not so that you can teach him a lesson. Whenever you get the urge just tell yourself its over. You will eventually accept it and only then you might be able to hang out with him without ending up analysing his every action.

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I just want to know if I am being replaced for something better? I shouldn't care... but I do.

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There is no better or worse. One mans meat is another mans poison. You need to move on and eventually find someone that will make you feel sure for yourself.

I just want to defend myself here... I was not CONSTANTLY texting the guy... I do agree that I did not need to send him the text regarding my frustration about him making things awkward but I was not a bug-a-boo. I also want to thank everyone for their responses!!! It has truly given me A LOT to think about. So far I am just leaving him alone.

And NO, I was NOT the one who broke it off!