Dead in the water right?

Dude, you f'd up.

She wants to trust you but cannot... it would be a lifetime of making up.

I still say, no guts. No glory. At some point you got to put it on the line.

But here's the thing?

1. are you in college?
2. going to college?
3. have a career?
4. have goals? What?
5. how much pot do you smoke?
6. how often do you drink?
7. how ready are you for an "all-in" with one girl now. Like engaged - to be - engaged kind of stuff?
8. she is going to want you to work for a long time to reconcile?
9. again - HOW WELL DID YOU EXPLAIN WHAT HAPPENED SO FAR?
10. Is she really THE ONE?

Just me, Leave her alone, and move ahead with your life. You have embarrassed, and humiliated yourself and your g/f enough, by committing the worst kind of mistake. You chose another over your g/f, and got duped by her. Lick your wounds, and move on. What female could forgive that? Not her obviously. You need to grow beyond this. Sorry for your loss.

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Originally Posted by Ash123

dude, you f'd up.

she wants to trust you but cannot....it would be a lifetime of making up.

i still say, no guts. no glory. at some point you gotta put it on the line.

but here's the thing?

1. are you in college?
2. going to college?
3. have a career?
4. have goals? what?
5. how much pot do you smoke?
6. how often do you drink?
7. how ready are you for an "all-in" with one girl now. like engaged - to be - engaged kinda stuff?
8. she is gonna want you to work for a long time to reconcile?
9. again - HOW WELL DID YOU EXPLAIN WHAT HAPPENED SO FAR??
10. is she really THE ONE?

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1. are you in college? Im at University
2. going to college? -
3. have a career? Aiming towards one
4. have goals? What? To be happy
5. how much pot do you smoke? To be honest id say a couple of times a year
6. how often do you drink? Every weekend
7. how ready are you for an "all-in" with one girl now. Like engaged - to be - engaged kind of stuff? With her? Yes
8. she is going to want you to work for a long time to reconcile? She's worth it
9. again - HOW WELL DID YOU EXPLAIN WHAT HAPPENED SO FAR? I have explained it the best way I can, the girl who I messed up with has gotten herself a bad rep. My ex really
Should at least consider what I've said.
10. Is she really THE ONE? Who knows? All I know is that when I was with her I liked who I was.

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Just me, Leave her alone, and move ahead with your life. You have embarrassed, and humiliated yourself and your g/f enough, by committing the worst kind of mistake. You chose another over your g/f, and got duped by her. Lick your wounds, and move on. What female could forgive that?? Not her obviously. You need to grow beyond this. Sorry for your loss.

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Thanks for your honesty, but that last bit of hope needs to die just like my dignity has before I can truly say I gave it my all.

Well, get good grades and if you are serious about this girl let her know it the best way you can. Don't stalk her... if after several months it is a brick wall then leave her alone.

Will do. Thanks for all your advice

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Thanks for your honesty, but that last bit of hope needs to die just like my dignity has before i can truly say i gave it my all.

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It doesn't have to be all or nothing, but I understand.:cool:

Anything is possible but the reconciliation would have to be mutual in order for the two of you to get passed it and in a situation like this you can always forgive it's the forgetting you feel me.just take it one day at a time and if you are oing to put it in the past leave it there .

Looks like she's changed her number... ouch
That's got me pretty bummed, but at least now I know where I stand.

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:-)

The truth is I think they should both walk away for a while.

The flowers were kind of a "why not". A final goodbye. A Hail Mary....better than a life of silence, but it is likely not that easy.

Honestly, I see two kids who need to get their lives together beyond just this....school/drugs/etc.

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Yeah buddy. Take a time out for now. As I said above still goes.

If you've said all you can - I'd just let her be. Get your life on track and let it go for now.
Won't be easy but as long as you said your peace you can know you did your best.

Lesson learned anyway: never risk more than you can afford to lose.

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if you've said all you can - I'd just let her be. Get your life on track and let it go for now.

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That's the thing.. I'm no where near saying all that I need. I haven't really said anything since all of this kicked off for fear of making things worse. I guess its just got to the point where its too late.

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lesson learned anyway: never risk more than you can afford to lose.

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Damn right!

Well, get in a letter asap and send it... or deliver to door. But expect silence for a long time - maybe forever -- but at least you can get on with your life if you get it all out!

It's time to move on. Forget about the things at her house, since stated it held no importance or value. She's moving on. Things like this happen in life, doesn't matter what age you are. Things was done 2 months ago and most likely once you continue to hange around this girl.

In the future be weary of the company you keep and you can't save everyone. People turned their backs on this girl for a reasons, reasons that you did not see and when you thought you was being her friend she was waiting and plotting to set you up. Keep your eyes open and listen when people tell you things or step back and be the outsider looking in.

Yes, time to move on.

I'd set Wednesday as a deadline to get say or do what yo need to - and be done...
I am being nice because I know you are young and learning, but you need to get on with your life.

Thanks guys

To have an image of her imprinted on your mind pretty much 24/7? Its not like she's all I think about, ill be getting on with things.. and even sometimes having fun! But that subtle little flash of her continues to play.

Yea it's normal.. you're grieving the loss of your relationship and thoughts of her will come up in your head.. it happens to me too.. not a day goes by that I don't think about my ex.. just continue with what you're doing.. you're healing and don't let those thoughts bog you down, just except them and move forward.. congrats on your progress!

Just apart of the healing process man.. it will pass.

Off topic - Plonak is that you're picture or one from the internet?

Pragin- what's your story? Have you explained it before?