How long? And with how much contact? How off would I be if I asked if there is a chance that she gets a pleasure by my stress/pain over this?
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How long? And with how much contact? How off would I be if I asked if there is a chance that she gets a pleasure by my stress/pain over this?
Right now I don't think she even knows the degree of pain and stress you are experiencing. She does claim she loves you, but I would wait and watch, not listen - not right now. She has a lot of work to do. And, in my opinion, you need a bit of rest after all of this.Quote:
Originally Posted by mx3r
I would be polite but still distant if she contacts you so that she cannot distract herself from her main mission now.
And you dear, can start a new thread and vent and ask all you want, so that we don't distract her on this thread either and we can concentrate on you there.
C.U. on the forum.
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Take all the time you need to cool off, and the world can wait until you are ready to talk, to whomever you want.
I am very happy to say that I scheduled my first counseling appointment. I go on Thursday. I know this is the first step to my recovery, and I can't wait to continue on that path of recovery. I know that it will take time. What I did can't be forgotten because of the severity of the matter. I tried to save my sister and ended up being the worst role model for her that I could possibly be as well as hurt everyone that I loved. Everyone I care about was hurt in one way or another. I affected a lot of lives by what I did. I can't even express my disappointment I have for myself as well as how much I regret what I did. I know that I can't go back and change what happened... no matter how hard I wish I would have done something different. I know that I must show my sister that what I did was wrong, and I must explain to her the severity of the situation. I must also get help for myself because of what I did. I need to come to terms with my parent's divorce as well as accepting who my mother brings in the house. She must also be able to listen to my sister and I and hear out our opinions. As for now, I am working on myself and fixing the wrongs that I have done to everybody especially my boyfriend. It will take a long time to get everyone's trust back, but I'm willing to wait as long as I have to to regain what I once had. I have no say into who will forgive me or how long, but the people in my life matter to me. So, I can and will wait for them. Thank you everyone for all your advice and opinions. You have all helped me in one way or another.
I am so happy that you have taken the steps to do that, and that we all were of some help. I'm very proud of you for doing that. I'm sure you will teach your little sister some valuable lessons with what you are doing, and she will be proud of you for taking the steps to gain back the trust that you have lost, and get your life back on track! Good for you, and we will always be here if you need to talk. I know some of us were a little rough on you, but we needed to be to try and make you understand the gravity of what you did.
I wish you the best of luck! :)
I ''second that emotion'' and wish you all the best. Take it slow, as you said, it will take time - and don't set too high expectations right at the beginning... time will be the most helpful. And, don't forget to give those around you time too - that's crucial.Quote:
Originally Posted by starbuck8
Good luck dear.
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