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  • Jul 24, 2008, 10:16 PM
    starbuck8
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by AmExp
    Thank you for your words...this is very true. WHY are you single???

    How do you know I AM? LOL! I've been married, and have also been in two very long term relationships, (other short terms along the way) and learned my lessons. I'm very particular now, and I won't settle for anything less than I derserve. I'm a very honest and sincere person, and I expect nothing less from anyone I meet.

    I do date, but I choose to spend my time with people who are upfront and don't want to do any game playing. When and if I get into another relationship, I play it safe, but I don't lead anyone on either. I get to know them. I put friendship before anything else. I can get sex from anyone, but I can't find a best friend everyday, so I don't fill my head with a bunch of expectations.

    I really find I meet more quality people that way. I want to be with someone who wants me for me. I've always gotten comments on my looks, but I find the people that get to know me beyond that, are the ones that stick around and want to know more. If they just want to get laid?. well they can go somewhere else!
  • Jul 24, 2008, 10:38 PM
    AmExp
    You are right, I should not have ASSUMED you were single but I had a gut instinct. Seems like very few people on this site ( even the veterans) are actually married or in committed relationships, which is slightly concerning. I used to be like you and very selective who I dated. I should not settle and deserve to evaluate who I am dating closely, but, the guys I tend to fall for (minus a few wall st. types) are bad boys and have a lot of time on their hands. More time means more attention for me. I like that a lot. I am starting to think that whomever I am with will have to give me a lot of attention because I am unsure of myself at times. It makes me feel good when I am needed by a man I am dating. I feel special.

    ALSO, who would PEOPLE say you look like?. since we are discussing outward vs. inward beauty... :)
  • Jul 24, 2008, 10:54 PM
    friend4u178
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by AmExp

    ALSO, who would PEOPLE say you look like?...since we are discussing outward vs. inward beauty... :)

    Starby
    Can I tell??
  • Jul 24, 2008, 11:07 PM
    starbuck8
    Hmmm... Well people quite often (I don't get it really) say I look like either Goldie Hawn, or Uma Thurman. I take that as a huge compliment.

    Actually, quite a lot of people I know on here are in very long term committed relationships. One of my best friends on here, I talk to almost everyday, and she has been happily married for many yrs with 2 beautiful children. Another has a wonderful wife that he can't help but brag about every time we talk. There are so many of us that are in different parts of our lives.

    I have 3 stepkids, and a step grandbabe that I love to death! They talk to me more than they do to their father. I don't feel old enough to have all of this, since I am still young, but they are the light of my life. If it wasn't for their (idiot) father, I would have never had them in my life, and I couldn't imagine it without them.

    That is why I say... I look for a man to be a friend first, and a lover second. There are so many other things that make a relationship.
  • Jul 24, 2008, 11:09 PM
    starbuck8
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by friend4u178
    starby
    Can I tell?????

    Don't you dare tell me I look like a DUCK!. LMAO!. Silly Man!. I'm coming to get you... be afraid... be very afraid!! :eek:
  • Jul 24, 2008, 11:09 PM
    AmExp
    Yeah Goldie Hawn is a great looking woman for sure! And Uma Thurman is pretty as well.

    Also, I am glad to know that there are success stories on here as well.
  • Jul 24, 2008, 11:15 PM
    friend4u178
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by starbuck8
    Don't you dare tell me I look like a DUCK!!..............LMAO!!!.............Silly Man!!.................I'm coming to get you.................be afraid...........be very afraid!!!!!!! :eek:

    LMAO... me starby... would I do that:D

    In all seriousness Amexp I was going to say Goldie Hawn as well , or Farah Fawcett :cool:


    Is that OK starby :)
  • Jul 24, 2008, 11:19 PM
    AmExp
    Again, also a very pretty woman
  • Jul 24, 2008, 11:49 PM
    starbuck8
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by friend4u178
    LMAO...............me starby ........would I do that:D

    In all seriousness Amexp I was going to say Goldie Hawn as well , or Farah Fawcett :cool:


    Is that ok starby :)

    My computer crashed again! :(

    Farrah?. does that mean I could have been married to the "Six Million Dollar Man?" ::weeping::

    Sorry AmExp, just a little fun to lighten it up a bit. We all need a laugh right?
  • Jul 25, 2008, 08:00 AM
    AmExp
    Hahaha. Yeah, we sure do. Any light-hearted conversation is always a plus. I am gearing for school ( summer flew by) and I will have to face this person again ( more than likely). As many have already said, I need to make sure that I am mentally healthy and happy which will already by annoying for my ex. Thanks to everyone who has helped.

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