Ask Me Help Desk - Just got dumped

I have an aside question, what does the symbol mean next to the topic when your at te list of questions page?

Do you mean the half lit light bulb?

No the gold speech bubble thing

If you hover your mouse on it, it gives you information about that post...

(Tal, I think he means in the User Control Panel - next to subscribed questions)

Yeah that's what I mean lol

Nice catch BB, I was lost for a while. Hey its summer!!

That's my story, I'm sticking to it, LOL!

Tal... A smile? Say it isn't show ha ha JK

I won't lie, it took a little investigating...

I had a little free time :p

Hi Bigbird,

Okay, now I have a question. What does OP mean when people write that. I've seen that referenced in several posts along the way:D

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Originally Posted by Romefalls19

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Thank you Rome!

I have a date with some girl who has had a crush on me sinnce September 2m.

Any tips? Its been awhile since I went on a first date lol

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Originally Posted by pol5019

the thing is i dont want the memories to fade. of course i want to move on with my life and date someone new but i dont want to forget these memories. i mean, we dated all senior year of higgh school, ran for prom king and queen together. to me thats alot of special moments of my life i shared with her. im sure in the grand story of my life, they will be trivial but right now it doesnt matter. i can't get my mind off the image of me and her

Of course we will never forget, they just get filed to make room for newer memories if given a chance.

Speaking of chances, dating a new girl with old memories is very unfair and risking rebound and comparing. Do you this is right? Would you like it if a girl met you, started a relationship with you and you later find out that she has been comparing you with her ex and when physically close she is thinking about him? I seriously doubt it and it would not be fair or respectful toward you - so 'do unto others' here and get on with your life.

The reason we have our memories is to make sure that we don't make the same mistakes again and learn how to be more compassionate and communicative so that the new relationship has a chance. Those old images are nothing but fantasies now, and it would benefit you to treat them that way - and create some newer and better memories as we grow and mature.

Good luck, and keep us posted.

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Originally Posted by pol5019

i have a date with some girl who has had a crush on me sinnce september 2m.

any tips? its been awhile since i went on a first date lol

Treat her with respect, communicate and have some good clean fun and don't treat her like a one-night-stand. And don't talk about being treated badly by your ex, or anyone else. Let her do some talking and listen instead of thinking about someone else while with her. Everyone deserves a chance - just look at yourself - you are looking for another chance, so give other's the same as what you would expect.

Good luck.

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I would quote u but I don't know how, u said The reason we have our memories is to make sure that we don't make the same mistakes again and learn how to be more compassionate and communicative so that the new relationship has a chance", but my memories with her were not mistakes. I mean sure we had some fights, but everyone has those. Even though we broke up, I don't consider my ex a mistake, or a bad time at all. She was amazing, and I guess at the end she just got bored with me. I had no control over it =/

And thanks for the date advice for 2m, I would never bring up my ex in front of her. They hated each other!

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Originally Posted by Romefalls19

HJ, I am proud of you...Before you wanted to sleep around and now you see the bigger picture. I hope that more people who go through break ups and the "withdrawal" from sex can learn from your story.

As for Pol, take time to heal pal. You are missing the companionship of your ex, which is totally understandable. Don't go out and look for random nights of companionship because you will just feel cheap and used the next day. Not that I think you would go that route but just fair warning.

haha~

thanks :)

I have no time for girls now

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Originally Posted by pol5019

yeh i dont think i could ever bring myselff to go out on random nights to do random things. im still having trouble with the memories, i can't seem to get them out of my head. i dont wanna forget the good times, i wanna cherish them, but latley thats all i can think about

Same here D;

it's hard, isn't it?

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Originally Posted by pol5019

i have a date with some girl who has had a crush on me sinnce september 2m.

any tips? its been awhile since i went on a first date lol

Rules for dating:

1. KEEP YOUR SNAKE IN YOUR PANTS!!! Majority of the girls HATE guys who get their snake out... Well, I made love to my ex on our second date (LDR)

2. Communicate. Keep your ears and eyes open~ ask her if she's comfortable, hungry, thirsty etc.

3. BE FRIENDLY. Don't grab her hand and twist it or put your hand on her hot .

4. Maintain yourself. Think before you speak.

OK sounds good. I'm actually taking this girl to a john mayer concert so it should be fun