I wouldn't. You haven't seen or spoken to each other for 5 months and, by your own admission, you "don't even know whether you're still friends." I'd just let it slide. You need to be moving on with your life. It sounds like you are so there's not point in setting yourself back by contacting her after all this time.

Perhaps that's the problem with relationships these days september06. People rely too much on SMS and Email and not on talking... Just an observation from reading people posts here.

Trouble starts in emails and texts a lot.

I don't really even think he should contact her. But if he must than I think he should call. Just my opinion.

And what I meant by being a man is not hiding behind some SMS, showing a spine and if he feels he must contact her then do it the way people should have contact with each other. Talking! And not some text message conversation.
I bet some young people don't even know that's what mobile phone were initially used for. Just like a normal phone!


That is what I meant!

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Originally Posted by prosty

I was seeing this girl for three years when she broke up the r/ship. We've not seen each other or spoken for abt five months now. I don't even know whether we're still friends. Her birthday is a few days away and I'm comtemplating sending her a birthday message on her phone (no cards, presents and phone call) just SMS. Do you agree I should send her an SMS?

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If you know you can handle it, then why not!
Make it short and brief and If she replies with a thank you.. just leave it at that.

Don't call or even wonder about it. Leave it be. After 5 months why go back even as friends? Get on with your life. Just my opinion.

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Heck yeah and if you're lucky enough you might get to do it with her again!

Nobody can make your decisions; the balls in your court.

Sure, we can say go ahead and send a text or call her... but it's your choice.

Personally, I'd just call up and chat a bit.