Its true.. the same problem happened last year when he was busy with work all the time and then we broke up and a month later he quit his job and everything was OK but now its like his *new friends* that are a problem and I would never tell him to not be with him and I never told him to quit his job he did it all in his favor

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Did you even read her post after your disagreement?

2000 miles away (Canada-Mexico)
$1200 plane ticket
5 weeks off of university.

Clearly, please read all posts beforing debating.

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That post wasn't there when I posted my answer. It got posted about the same time I was working on my answer

No he can't he has to be with his parents for christmas they are very tradational.. and I already tried callnig him earlier and he was busy teaching his friends how to do some homework then he had to study for math and now he's doing a math test then he's probably studying after

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its true .. the same problem happened last year when he was busy with work all the time and then we broke up and a month later he quit his job and everything was ok but now its like his *new friends* that r a problem and i would never tell him to not be with him and i never told him to quit his job he did it all in his favor

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I am confused.

What are you trying to say?

He quit his job after you 2 broke up for a month... he got new friends.. then what happened?

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no he can't he has to be with his parents for christmas they r very tradational.. and i already tried callnig him earlier and he was busy teaching his friends how to do some homework then he had to study for math and now hes donig a math test then hes probably studying after

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If he's not going to try, then dump him.

There's no reason why he's not going to try...
Everyone breaks a rule, either tradtional, religious, or self-explanatory...

For studying, tell him to stop and actually put effort.

I put effort in an useless relationship =/

Last year this happened because he was working too much then we broke up for month and he missed me and quit his job so we would have time to talk and whatver and then now this year ( I'm taking school years) he super busy again but now the thing taknig up his time is his friends (homework too) but friends are . And I'm afradi we r going to break up

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last year this happened because he was working too much then we broke up for month and he missed me and quit his job so we would have time to talk and whatver and then now this year ( im taking school years) he super busy again but now the thing taknig up his time is his friends (homework too) but friends are . and im afradi we r gonig to break up

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Why don't you tell him to put time for you instead of friends?

Wel Tuesday,Friday and Saturday are his friends nights... BUT whenever he studies he is always with them like they all study together which I know take more time but you do less work and like I could never tell him to not hangotu with his friends that is just wrong

Honestly, you should call it quits. He is clearly not into you and doesn't have the courage to tell you. He is like a lot of young guys his age, immature and selfish. I do not hate men and am a huge believer in instincts. You know in your heart that you need to let this one go, if you keep waiting it will only prolong the pain. If he loved you like he said he does, he wouldn't be treating you the way he's doing. His lack of care and interest in your life is his way of pushing you away in order to end the relationship. If he is a jerk enough then you will break up with him and he will not be the bad guy. I know its hard for you to put perspective on it now, but you have to take care of yourself and your happiness and it sounds like this relationship is already hurting you. It can be lonely after any break-up even with lots of friends, but with time and a little effort on your part you will move on before you know it. Go out and meet new friends and find something you enjoy doing, but whatever you do, don't stay in a relationship that is unfulfilling. You sound like a nice young girl who deserves better and needs to have higher standards. If you don't value yourself, no one else will. Best of luck to you. :)

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wel tuesday,friday and saturday are his friends nights... BUT whenever he studies he is always with them like they all study together which i know take more time but u do less work and like i could never tell him to not hangotu with his friends that is just wrong

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I sense bull

Study with the same friends?
I doubt that sh*t cause everyone in college has different courses to take..
unless they are pursuing the same major...

I thought of this now..

If he's a mathematics major, how would he be helping his friend with homework if his friend is a language major?

Doesn't add up.

Tell him to straighten his schedule out cause it seems like he's not time managing properly =/


@ other users:
STOP ABUSING THE AGREE/DISAGREE..
Seriously.

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I've been reading over this post and hjpan, I think you're missing the point. she shouldn't have to ask him to spend time with her instead of his friends. He should automatically want to do that if he loved her.

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Hmm... I am, isn't I?

Yeah and you were kind of rude to lmangileri. Lol.

Like he studies with his classes mates that have the same major :P

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yeah and you were kinda rude to lmangileri. lol.

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Rude in what way?
Trying to justify that my view is wrong?

There is no right or wrong in this situation. It's a matter of going back and forth.

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like he studies with his classes mates that have the same major :P

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Study on weekends too?

I doubt that unless he takes like 8 classes at once...

Reread the posts. Lol.

Chill out everyone and thank you for the help xoxo

He actually has 8 classes lol and he was doing an extra one at night but today was the last day of the night class

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he actually has 8 classes lol and he was doing an extra one at night but today was the last day of the night class

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Well, tell him to not overload himself and actually spend time with you.

Seems like an idiot caue over-loading HURTS the mind.. I overloaded with 6 classes..

It was really stressful cause I needed to manage time for studying, the ex, and alone time.

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chill out everyone and thank you for the help xoxo

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Just trying to spread my point...