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Originally Posted by talaniman

I disagree, you don't have to be around him at all, to see if he is putting in the right efforts. Contact such as dates, and such, only let him sweet talk you, and stir your emotions. If thats the extent of his trying, forget it. You will always be confused, and influenced, by his words. Is he taking care of business? Thats the only yardstick you need. Pampers, rent, daycare, milk, insurance for you, and your son. The list goes on. Thats what you judge him by, not dinner, or fine food. You were very wise not to go to dinner with him.

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Agree. Thank you for the great advise. I need to keep my mind clear and stay focused. Funny how a few nice words can change your mindset for a second. I made it this far I can keep going. Only time and actions will tell what he is really made of. Thanks again!!

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Originally Posted by starbuck8

It may be wishful thinking, and no it doesn't mean you are dumb as dirt. lol. Let him come back around very gradually, and then watch closely.

Congrats on your babe being a boy, and for wanting to make sure he grows into a great man! I have faith that you can do it with or without him! ;)

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Thank you so much!! I'm taking tali and your advise as it is very wise and it has opened my eyes once again. I'm so thankful for this forum, it helps me to keep things under perspective and you are always on point. :) I want him to change so bad for my son and for me too. It would be nice if this story has a happy ending... hoping for the best, prepared for the worst. I'll keep you posted!! :)

Exactly! Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. Very wise!

Good luck Angel, to you and your baby both!

Well most guys in your situation get tired of all the stress and the thought of having a baby and all this pressure on them maybe they just want to take a break and some but not all cheat.. . Maybe he's not cheating but you are right you can't live in doubt the rest of your life.. . I think you should really discuss this situation for once and for all not taking breaks all the time or making up.. . you have to pick one choice its either see where this goes and try to trust him or just let it go.. . but its hard because if you let it go the child won't be as close to his or her father.. . wich won't look good on the outcome of his or her life