Honestly ty, what is the real reason why you want to end this?

For tyallen,

That is fine for the two of you, but the kid establishes a higher standard.

I once confessed an affair that my wife could never have found out about. It took years to get over that. It was (hard to say since I'm not dead yet) the dumbest thing I've done in my life. In retrospect, the tough time we went through following my disclosure wasn't all about my wife being pissed at me (which she was) as much as my guilt at having hurt her so much and the perceived lack of trust on my part.

Now, there are arranged marriages all over the world every day. We are extremely fortunate in the west that we get to chose, but are we. There are many ways to make a marriage, it just takes work on the part of the participants. Some times, lots of work.