Yea, her best friend was actually hurt that I didn't talk to her anymore and that I deleted her from my myspace account. So we began talking and she asked if I was still taking my courses and I said yea I am, just passed my first one. And she goes that's good "So what you going to do about Brianna(my ex)" and I said I miss her, but she wanted space and said there is no shot in the future so I'm letting go and giving up on it. And she responds by "You never know what the future holds if you fully change this time" I wanted to scream at her and say "your her best friend, of course you freakin know" but I just said yea, you're right but it's best I give her the space that she requested and we both take a look at our lives

It seems like she was kind of fishing for info, but I think you did good, and you held your tongue with that comment. Good for you! How old are your ex and her friend by the way?

My ex and her friends are 20... Basically, what they do is hang out at each others houses and drive around(well that's what she did before she met me). I kind of figured she was fishing for info and was taken aback by that comment she gave me and it stuck with me awhile as to what she meant by it... But I'm over it now.. Still don't know what it means though ha ha

I could only assume she wanted you... in the future of course. But as we all know, the time has a way of changing things. And by the time you are ready, she might not be. And vice versa. So I wouldn't dwell on it too much. Just keep doing what you're doing. You seem very strong. :)

Yea, I am getting by. I know what she means by in the future. Because I had a habit of "masking" my change and it would only be for like 2 weeks then back to the old jealousy J/O so she may be hesitate about it. I'm just going to keep doing my N/c and handling my jealousy and see where life takes me... That's weird your're from PA... May I ask where about?

I'm from a small town located between State College (Penn State) and Williamsport (Little League World Series). What about you?

I live right outside of Trenton, NJ... My grandmother used to live an hour away from Williamsport until she moved... She would constantly complain about the weather during the winter ha ha

Yeah, the winters are pretty crappy. But actually, it hasn't been too bad... YET. Lol.

I can't wait for spring. :)

Yea I love nice weather, I can live with fall and spring. I hate summer too darn hot and then winter to darn cold sometimes

Yeah, that's how I feel too. I like the mild seasons. I think we live in the wrong part of the country lol.

Ha ha yea... Maybe Cali is the right place for me, Ive always wanted to live there anyway

Yeah after the ex dumped me I contemplated moving to either nyc, cali, or North Carolina. I think I would like NC. I decided I'm not going to make a hasty move just yet, so I held off.

Yea, my friend lives in NC and it's beautiful down there.. I love it, NYC, ehh not for me.. Too busy and expensive, I don't like feeling rushed all the time

Yeah, the fact that it's too expensive and I'm too much of a tight wad made me decide that I don't want to live there after all. :D

Ha ha... Yea I'm a tight wad too.. I don't see the reason to blow money of stupid things... Of course that is all null and void for my Avalanche collectibles.. That is when obsession takes over :-)

It's true, your personal thoughts and feelings are YOURS and no-one else's - you are in control. Be polite, be light-hearted, be pleasant. If you feel uncomfortable with a subject matter, change the subject, ask her about her day etc.

You're doing great, keep being good to yourself as a priority and everything will get a tad easier day by day.

Yea, I am getting better every day. I was really taken aback by her being hurt I stopped being friends with her, I know everything I say will go back to my ex. So I have to be kind and friendly without sounding desperate so I just say I miss her, but realized we both need time to ourselves to think about what we want and what we should do with our lives.

Lol... yeah we all have our obsessions. Lol. What are Avalanche collectibles?

MY favorite hockey team.. Colorado Avalanche ha ha... I collect just about anything and everything that has to do with them.. My room is like a hockey hall of fame... It's actually funny... but pathetic at the same time

Ooooh I see. Lol, well that's not pathetic, and obsessing over sports beats obsessing over a girl any day. :)