I do my own thing and for some reason she has been contacting me more. I don't respond last to everything and I don't initiate it either. Yesterday she offered to start taking my dog to dog daycare with her's because her's has some issues with the other dogs and since our 2 dogs get along it may help her's. It means she has to go to my place in the morning after I'm goone, pick my dog up and then get him and bring him back. That's pretty much going out of your way. The past 2 days she has texted me to go for a drink after work. I leave before she's finished though. I don't want her thinking I'm sitting around waiting for her to leave. These aren't games I'm playing with her, it's just the way things need to be. Unfortunately for us she didn't want all our friends knowing everything so we did things on our own which often meant staying at my place. So it limited us and for those who say you were to available, well, what choices did I have. We couldn't be intimate around our friends and we live in such a small own that the only time I could see her was a couple of times a week for a couple of hours at my place. So how are you to keep her at a distance. The times were so few and far between and with her asking for baby steps in the relationship because of her past issues, when the hell was I to see her. In any case, she's an amazing woman and I will move on with my life and who knows, stranger things have happened. Maybe she needs to do her family things first, it is a huge undertaking and when the dust settles maybe we may have a future in store for us. I won't hold my breath at this opint despite her recent contact with me. But nonetheless, I respect her and one day maybe we will be where we once were and beyond. THat's all I can do is respect her wishes, forcing anything will only go against me.