Ex-girlfriend married.wants out
Fourteen years ago I met the love of my life. Love at first site. Dated for 4 years. Marriage was in future. Split was over little things... nothing fundamentally wrong. Went on to pursue my degree and lived on my own and found myself. Devastated to realize she had been married 6 years. Marriage was mainly rebound from me and a bit pressured. Says she never really loved him... always loved me... and wouldn'tve married if I had given her hope that I'd be back. Her marriage is sexless, emotionless, and no real connection/little in common. Marriage counseling has failed. Have been dating for 2 years now. Exchange birthday gifts and Christmas gifts. Family reaquainted with her. Sleeping together on weekends and taking vacations together. Talk to her/e-mail every day. Has told him she has feelings for me and she wants something different. Says she'll marry me. Going to counseling to get "tools" to get out of marriage and make decision. He doesn't believe in divorce (first wife left him) and she doesn't want to be the instigator of divorce.
Q is this. How long does general counseling of this type last? How long until she may act after counseling to file for divorce?
Spare me the details about "other fish in sea" and "married women off limits". She's different affair is different. Following my heart. Waiting is killing me but she's the one and no one else.
PS... I know there are alotta nay sayers out there. Have you heard of Dr. Nancy Kalish's book "Lost Loves Found" A therapist told me about it. It's a collection of stories about lost loves found again and how people ended perfectly good marriages to go back to their first true love. Goes into detail about how strong and deep a bond sometimes exists between those who really found true love and for one reason or another parted. IT HAPPENS AND you have Ph.D writing about it not too mention... much documentation via letters and stories.
I'm curious to know what one's response is now