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  • Sep 17, 2009, 05:37 PM
    paxe

    Yep, let's leave it at that. You take care of your life and she will soon try to take care of hers when her marriage doesn't work. Anyhow how you've been doing?
  • Sep 17, 2009, 05:44 PM
    AKeagle

    It is amazing that she has made that jump.

    I know I'm better off, I know I don't have to do what she has done, but I kind of feel left behind. She has moved so far forward

    Glad college started back up. Having been meeting a lot of people in classes and what not. I have settled into a group on the weekends that do poker tournaments. I have been going back to town where she lives, and have become comfortable with doing that. (she isn't going to keep my away from my closest friends)
  • Sep 17, 2009, 05:48 PM
    Homegirl 50

    I wonder if she is pregnant!
    Any way you are doing well and will continue to do so.
  • Sep 17, 2009, 05:55 PM
    AKeagle
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    I wonder if she is pregnant!
    Any way you are doing well and will continue to do so.

    I feel bad for the child, if that is true. If it is true, that is fine, as long as she doesn't try to act like it is mine and try and get money out of me.
  • Sep 17, 2009, 06:06 PM
    paxe

    You know it's understandable that you feel left behind. My ex went with someone else and she probably is going to marry him because she is weak and she has a lot of pressure from her family. Though, it's their life and our lives. We try to make our lives much clearer, fuller and healthier.
    We are happy to live, we are not living to feel happy like our exes do.
    Actually college started for me also. I would suggest you join a group of volunteering, that makes me feel so much better. Also try to get into some of those college parties.
  • Sep 17, 2009, 07:03 PM
    bjohnrupp

    You have to go on with your life now and do something else... find someone else.
  • Sep 17, 2009, 07:07 PM
    Homegirl 50
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by AKeagle View Post
    I feel bad for the child, if that is true. If it is true, that is fine, as long as she doesn't try to act like it is mine and try and get money out of me.

    Well if she thought is was yours I don't think she would be marrying this other guy.
    But it could be that she is not pregnant, but is in love and happy. It's a little too soon for marriage and she is too young IMO but it's not the first a couple has fallen in love and married quickly.

    Don't let this stay in your mind. Have some fun. You are a free man.
  • Sep 17, 2009, 07:19 PM
    AKeagle
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    Well if she thought is was yours I don't think she would be marrying this other guy.
    But it could be that she is not pregnant, but is in love and happy. It's a little too soon for marriage and she is too young IMO but it's not the first a couple has fallen in love and married quickly.

    Don't let this stay in your mind. Have some fun. You are a free man.

    I agree. I just found out today.

    Paxe: I've been going out almost every night, or meeting up with friends
  • Sep 17, 2009, 09:00 PM
    paxe
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by AKeagle View Post
    I agree. I just found out today.

    Paxe: I've been going out almost every night, or meeting up with friends

    Nice! It looks like you are NOT in electrical engineering like me :D (aka tons of mens in class and little time to party). I'm trying to get out everyday but I have other stuff to do (study, volunteering, sport (very important)). But try also to meet and go out with different people.
  • Sep 17, 2009, 09:36 PM
    AKeagle
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by paxe View Post
    Nice! It looks like you are NOT in electrical engineering like me :D (aka tons of mens in class and little time to party). I'm trying to get out everyday but I have other stuff to do (study, volunteering, sport (very important)). But try also to meet and go out with different people.

    Yeah, I went with IT, though it is mostly guys. I take an elective here and there to meet people outside of my degree. It seems to be work. Plus I've been lifting at home, but go to the on campus gyms to ran. I have also been meeting a lot of people at the weekend poker tournaments I play in. It's a good crowd to be around for 6 hours, never a dull moment.

    I met this give in my scuba class, we talk almost every other day. We usually partner up together during class. My head keeps getting in the way of asking her on a date
  • Sep 17, 2009, 10:30 PM
    paxe

    Well it does seem you are in a pickle like me :D. I try to meet people through my friends and through my volunteering, or even college parties. I love poker but I'd never go with a poker tournament.
    Seriously for meeting people, volunteering is the best. There is a lot of interesting people. And if you're head is not there, then it's not there. Don't force yourself. You just came out of a relationship and you may need some more time alone.
  • Sep 18, 2009, 06:56 AM
    AKeagle

    It is a new day, and the only word that seems to come to mind is desperation
  • Sep 18, 2009, 07:00 AM
    kctiger
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by AKeagle View Post
    It is a new day, and the only word that seems to come to mind is desperation

    It is Friday, and the only WORDS that come to my mind are: PARTY TIME!! :cool:
  • Sep 18, 2009, 07:31 AM
    AKeagle
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by kctiger View Post
    It is Friday, and the only WORDS that come to my mind are: PARTY TIME!!! :cool:

    Mine is poker tournament

    But as for the mess she is in. That is what comes to mind
  • Sep 18, 2009, 07:36 AM
    paxe

    Mine is actually sport, party is actually tomorrow :D. Oh and yes, I agree with KC, weekends are for PARTY!
  • Sep 18, 2009, 11:08 AM
    AKeagle
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by paxe View Post
    Mine is actually sport, party is actually tomorrow :D. Oh and yes, I agree with KC, weekends are for PARTY!

    Paxe you were right. I feel very little about what happened. Though I do want to walk into a empty room and yell. Then go back to training
  • Sep 18, 2009, 06:40 PM
    paxe

    Well... why do you even get those informations? It's pointless actually.
  • Sep 18, 2009, 07:42 PM
    AKeagle
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by paxe View Post
    Well... why do you even get those informations? It's pointless actually.

    Well my friend that told me about the engage meant told me. She just doesn't understand what I told her
  • Sep 18, 2009, 09:22 PM
    paxe

    Sometimes you need to cut off some of your so called "friends" if they treat you that way. If one of my friend did that to me, I wouldn't think twice about leaving them. One of my "friends" tried to date my ex behind my back, I didn't think too much about keeping him as a friend after that.
  • Sep 18, 2009, 09:27 PM
    AKeagle
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by paxe View Post
    Sometimes you need to cut off some of your so called "friends" if they treat you that way. If one of my friend did that to me, I wouldn't think twice about leaving them. One of my "friends" tried to date my ex behind my back, I didn't think too much about keeping him as a friend after that.

    Stopped talking to this friend about two weeks ago, cause some bs she pulled about the date I was bringing to a party. But she has my phone number, I read the message, but never responded.

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