Ask Me Help Desk - He lies about absolutely everything

Tal - thanks for your words, I hardly ever think of them anymore, it just took me by surprise when I heard they were together. I knew she would take him back anyway some day.

Like I say, I don't dwell on the past anymore, I have a lovely fella and my lifes good, I just hate seeing people get used that's all but like you said, I learned and so must she

Roxy - you are right, that's her problem and her business and that's why I'm keeping my nose out of the situation and not telling her that he is a pig, if she wants to be with someone that has cheated on her in the past then you are right in saying that's its her business not mine. It just pi$$es me off that every time they argue he comes running to me. If he does come running this time I won't be there after the way he treated me. Im happy at last and finally feel like my life is heading in the correct direction. NC for me ALL the way xxxx

I'm glad to hear that! That NC is still in motion and that you think of it has her problem and not yours and it is an healthy attitude to have: If he comes running, you won't be there!

Good for you!

Hi roxy- no I won't be there for sure. Ive finally woke up to him and his nasty ways. He thinks he can flit from woman to woman when he is bored or got dumped. Well I won't be there anymore, if he does call/text then I won't answer and I delete without reading.

Hi folks - just a bit of an update and a bit of advice please. Well it was going sooo well, 3 months of NC and then bang out of the blue my ex texts me. So what I did was tell me friend that it wasn't my number anymore but the ex was insistent that it was and that he has a mate in the police and checked I the phone was regestered in my ame. In the end I gave up and just text that yes the phone used to belong to louise but acted as now it was now one of my friends. He didn't fall for it and so I said it was me. Anyway he started it all again and I just turned round and said "what do you want me to say to you that I love you and want to marry you" and he said do you? I replied "do you" he said "I would"!! To cut a long story short he was flirting really bad with me and saying to me "you know how I feel as I say it often enough but you just throw it back in my face"!!

By this point I've had enough, so I do something silly, I make a profile up on FB and check to see if his ex is with him and she is!! I wish I hadn't done it now but I just was curious (well I was 99%) certain anyway that they were together. To cut a long story short she cottoned on that it was me friend requesting her (ive denied it) to spy and break up her and my ex. The ONLY reason I friend requested her was to see if the low life scum bag was playing his old tricks and he was. So now she is telling all her FB friends that I'm back after my ex ad won't leave him alone, when in fact that it was HIM texting me after 3 months and telling me he loves me. I told him in the texts to leave me alone and that we were no longer mates.

They are going away in August and it makes me sick, he texts me flirting and saying he loves me, I text him back saying I'm not his friend and to leave me alone and now his ex is slagging me off saying that I'm trying to steal her man off her and that I'm pathetic as I can't let him go after 3 years??

While my ex obviously must be slagging me off to his new girlfriend on one hand then texting me flirting on the other. It just annoys me that HE contacts me and I tell him to leave me alone and the girlfriend thinks I'm trying to break them up.

I know I shouldn't have friend requested her and il delete her today but how the hell am I to blame when its HER boyfriend that's causing the trouble. It made me laugh because of FB she put that I can try my best to cause trouble but its only making them stronger!! He really is playing her for a fool again

Im more happy than I've ever been with my fella and know now that I just shouldn't of replied to his first text, I just wanted to give the creep the benefit of the doubt and that he was single and being a jerk rather than being in a relationship and being a jerk. Anyway, I won't make the mistake of replying again, he will always be a creep and it don't other me that they are together, what bothers me is him trying to play mind games with me and hurt me. He goes out of his way to hurt me :(:( and make me sad. One minute he was being nice and then the other he was being nasty to me, when I ask him why he is always so nasty he replies "its always about you isnt it, everythings is about you"??

NO CONTACT!

Start again,don't let him invade into your life,change your number,once you let him in again,all he knows now is with a little persistence he can get to you,it might take a little longer this time to get rid of him completely.

If he keeps pestering you,talk to the police,have it logged as a compliant,if he tries to find out about you again,re: phone numbers,the compliant is logged.

This guy needs a reality wake up call.

Don't check the Facebook,the girlfriend is to be pitied,and at least she is keeping him some what busy and out of your life.

Boot camp nc for you,he will get the message,you just have to be strong and ignore the teenage antics on Facebook.

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NO CONTACT!

start again,dont let him invade into your life,change your number,once you let him in again,all he knows now is with a little persistence he can get to you,it might take a little longer this time to get rid of him completly.

if he keeps pestering you,talk to the police,have it logged as a compliant,if he tries to find out about you again,re: phone numbers,the compliant is logged.

this guy needs a reality wake up call.

dont check the facebook,the girlfriend is to be pitied,and at least she is keeping him some what busy and out of your life.

boot camp nc for you,he will get the message,you just have to be strong and ignore the teenage antics on facebook.

Oh yes back to NC for sure, I ask him to delete my number as I deleted his but he won't. If it contiunes then il change my number, I can't block his number as I've already tried. He just loves playing people off against the other, it must make him feel important. I don't understand the girlfriend though, she thinks I'm trying to break them up?? I've never talked to her for months, all I wanted it too see if they were together and that he was still a creep. Im glad they are together, like you said it keeps him busy and away from me for periods. It just annoys me when it is him that is causing all the trouble and his girlfriend is slagging me off. She was told what he was like last year but he must have told her it was me pestering him?? So she now thinks I'm out to break them up which is the furthest thing from my mind

Ah sure,better to be the hot topic of conversation then ignored.

She is not your friend,family,sibling,you don't have to listen to what she says,you don't have to eat dinner with her and you don't have to listen to her deluded fantasies of her 'poor boyfriend'... shes to be pitied.

Your free from him,you don't have to listen to his crap,and you know he has no honesty no integrity and he's a donkeys a$$, ( that's kind of insulting to donkeys!).

Rise above the crap talk and get on with your life.

I really feel sorry for the girlfriend (even though she is adament in slagging me off) as she is getting played by him. Maybe he does loves her, amybe he doesn't? I don't know and don't care. It just pi$$es me off that a man wants to play two women off against each other and that's why I'm not responding this time as I don't want him to think that he is so worthy of my time!!

How can he say he loves me and at the same time be planning a holiday with her?? Confused.com!!

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i really feel sorry for the gf (even though she is adament in slagging me off) as she is getting played by him. Maybe he does loves her, amybe he doesnt? i dont know and dont care. It just pi$$es me off that a man wants to play two women off against each other and thats why im not responding this time as i dont want him to think that he is so worthy of my time !!!!

How can he say he loves me and at the same time be planning a holiday with her ????? confused.com !!!!!

Perhaps because he wants an easy shag,you on the side,cant think of any other reason,its certainly not love.

You fell for the love line before and he's using the same line again,the guy needs to get some new material!

He does not love you,he does not love her,there's no bones about that.

Redhead - she thinks they are madly in love and that I'm trying to come between them!! Ha ha

Id never touch his dirty skanky a$$ again if you paid me, he must be laughing at us both. Me because he thinks he can text anytime and say the "i love you crap" and get away with it, and her because he is playing her for a fool and she thinks the sun shines out of his a$$. How can you have a girlfriend and behind her back with me and probably many other be telling others you love them and want to be with them? Whether he does or does not love me (I don't think he does) its still very wrong to treat your girlfriend in that way. Id love to tell her that her boyfriend is a scum bag and show her the texts he sent me but I've done this before and even with the texts in front of her eyes she didn't believe me!! So this time its her own fault when she finds out what a lying scum bag he is

She will no doubt find out on her own in time.

You need to perserve your integrity,be a lady through out the experience,and do NOT entertain conversations about him/her or about them.

Let it go,and move on with your own life.

Thoughts of his behaviour are only toxic to you.

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Originally Posted by redhed35

she will no doubt find out on her own in time.

you need to perserve your integrity,be a lady through out the experience,and do NOT entertain conversations about him/her or about them.

let it go,and move on with your own life.

thoughts of his behaviour are only toxic to you.

Thanks Redhead - that's what I'm now trying to do, retain my dignity but its bloody hard as all I ant to do is scream and say... ITS NOT FLAMING ME THAT IS GETTING IN TOUCH WITH YOUR BF IITS VICE VERSA!! But I won't do that, il let her think that she is the better woman and that she has her man and that I'm trying to break them up!!
I don't understand how deep down she can trst him, maybe she can't and that's why she needs to tell the world how happy they are. Anyway, I've deleted her on FB and now there both out of my life for good I hope xx

Good for you,and I think you are right in sayng that she does know.

Anyone who needs to always bump up their partners profile,knows there are serious flaws in the relationship and just can't admit them to themselves.

Its annoying when someone is sayng things about you that are not true,and in the normal course of events I would say,stand up for yourself,but in this instance I see no point, as she would not believe you and only see you as interfering and causing trouble,it would benefit no one.

You've taken the higher road and you will be better for it.

Thanks redhead - I hope it's the better road, I think it is but I'm just so angry inside that he is laughing at us both... grrrrrrrrrr

I wish I had never met him, I was at a low point in my life when we met as otherwise I would not have even gone near a geek like that. I mean to lie about self harming and writing my name in his arm so we would be together forever is a bit strange!!

They are both welcome to each other, they are both losers who have no life, no qualifications and obviousley no trust in each other

Come on Louise, block him from your phone. Then this cycle ends.

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Come on Louise, block him from your phone. Then this cycle ends.

I've tried Tal - I promise but I can't do that on a PAYG mobile, if this continues il just buy another cheap sim and transfer my number xx I'm not getting into the cycle again for sure x

Seems to me the ex b/fs loving all the attention and lying his arris off to them both, wouldn't be surprised to find out he has a 3rd or 4th on the go too.

Love is blind, and his g/f is bound to take his part, she won't want to admit that he's a lying toe rag, because that would mean she too will have to deal with it or be the laughing stock.

Sad sad people, however OP you're on the right track, keep up with the NC, and you'll soon find he doesn't even enter your thoughts, and think how wonderful it will be to live a truthful life, finally, when you live with Walter Mitty out of it.

Pinochio...

Delete without responding, or do you need some really tough love to break the insanity of your actions?? :confused:

Yup, this all could have been avoided.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Delete without responding, or do you need some really tough love to break the insanity of your actions???? :confused:

Hi Tal - yep the next time he texts il just delete without responding. It just hurts as a few days ago he was saying that he loves me (a lie I know) and then goes on Facebook and tells his ex on a public forum that he hasn't heard from me who he now classes as "LOOPY LOU" for a few days YYYYYEEEEE HAAAAAAA??

Why would he text ME one day saying he loves me and then when I tell him to delete my number he goes on FB and says that thank god he hasn't heard from me to his girlfriend?? Its just so weird. Anyway, I've deleted all FB contacts etc as I don't want to know the hurtful things they are saying about me publicly. It just hurts that one day he says he wants to marry me and the next he is going on FB saying to his ex that thankfully he hasn't heard from me "LOOPY LOU" IN A FEW DAYS :(:(