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Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny

apparently, the new boy toy is not up to "par"...or she'd be talking to him.

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You must be some kind of dreamboat! Did we start a fan club for you yet?

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Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny

apparently, the new boy toy is not up to "par"...or she'd be talking to him.

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Rewind 14 months :cool:

Well, actually, I don't count this as a setback at all...

Honestly, I'm doing just fine, and this doesn't really bother me all too much. Just one of those "blip" things that happen on the radar.

Ooh, look, there's a blip!

If we don't ever talk again, I'm OK with that, and I'll continue my life just the way it's been going. :)

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

You must be some kinda dreamboat! Did we start a fan club for you yet?

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LOL... Looks like wondergirl's flirting again mcsneezer ;)

I know... I know...

When will women realize I'm more than just a pretty face..

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Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny

I know...I know...

When will women realize I'm more than just a pretty face...?

:p

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Gray's Anatomy's got Dr. Dreamy. We'uns gots our own Dr. Sneezy!!

*sigh* *swoon*

Dr. Sneezy, hmmm, you can give me a physical any time. ;)

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To be honest, this is where I stand. If she is willing to offer: "I will completely erase the new boy toy, I will never speak to him, see him, etc." If this is the case, then I am willing to speak to her.

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Red Flag- she is willing to do anything to be your friend

Read flag- There are no conditions on friendship

Red Flag- She is very desperate to get back what she had

Red Flag- He was a rebound and now she wants you to be, not good at all. She is way to needy, and desperate.

Solution- Don't feed her false hope, she has to many problems.

You don't need this drama, or the distraction. There are to many other things to do, and she needs to get her own act together.

She needs you way more than you need her, but no way let her use you to get over her real problems that she is very unwilling to deal with.

You know the drill, get scarce, and keeping enjoying what you have honestly, worked hard for.

Sneezy, my man! We have been through our break ups together. Now, I don't agree with making her chose but you're a man and can do what you want. Me personally, I have decided to be "friends" with my ex. Let me define that for you, we BARELY talk and it's always initiated by her, and it's about meaningless crap going on in our lives. I wouldn't call it a real friendship. More of an occasional conversationist that lasts 5-10 mins(through texting) every couple months. It keeps her happy because she feels she has a friend even after we parted on bad terms. The final choice is up to you, but sometimes it's better to just bite the bullet and be the part-time friend to alleviate the stress from your life.

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Originally Posted by Romefalls19

Sneezy, my man! We have been through our break ups together. Now, I don't agree with making her chose but your a man and can do what you want. Me personally, I have decided to be "friends" with my ex. Let me define that for you, we BARELY talk and it's always initiated by her, and it's about meaningless crap going on in our lives. I wouldn't call it a real friendship. More of an occasional conversationist that lasts 5-10 mins(through texting) every couple months. It keeps her happy because she feels she has a friend even after we parted on bad terms. The final choice is up to you, but sometimes it's better to just bite the bullet and be the part-time friend to alleviate the stress from your life.

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This is as close at it comes to real friendship with an ex.

Any farther and you're on faulty ground!


Glad you could get there Rome, it keeps everyone happy really, I think...

I agree that this is a bad situation, as I had warning bells going off... but I don't think Romefall's ideas are too bad either. When I meant that I will "talk" to her, I was going along the lines of what Rome has been doing... having shallow conversations so that it will "get her off my back."

Instead of 3 - 4 phone calls a day that says, "I need you," they may be 3 - 4 texts of saying, "What's up?"

I'd rather have a few shallow conversations than these "talks" over and over again, just to alleviate the stress.

That was my outlook on the situation. I'd much rather have that because I was going through what you were. The third party friends telling you about her and how she misses the conversation and wishes you two were friends, her texts or calls wondering why you won't talk to her. Once I did this "friends" junk, that all stopped and we still barely talked. Both parties are happy and I'm back to no stress:-)

Okay, Rome, Sneezy, I'm just stunned that this works, really really stunned.

I'm not saying that you can't be "friends" with an ex, heck, I have exes that are friends, very good friends, but that was 20 years after they were exes, any sooner then that wouldn't have worked, at least not for me.

So, both of you are allowing conversation to get these girls off your backs. Wow, wow, wow, these girls are good. Neither one of you want them in your lives but both of you are stuck with them because they won't back off. How the heck do you force someone to be your friend, contact them over and over until they give in? Wow!

Sorry boys, I don't mean to sound harsh, adore both of you but really, these girls are manipulating little... I'll stop there. ;)

I guess times have changed, whenever a guy told me to get lost (didn't happen often, I'm good too ;)) I got lost, that was that. I have my pride, I have no desire to be "friends" with someone I have to force into the friendship.

Just plain WOW!

My ex, only came back after she found out I was with someone new(my fiance) and it tore her up to see me happy with someone else. I simply accepted the friend request because I'd rather deal wither her every once in awhile rather than deal with many people coming up and asking why I won't be her friend. I simply weighed the options of good and bad. Good, no stress and less people who will bug me and bad, well I hear from her everyone once in a couple months. It's still rips her(from what her friend said the other day) that I am with someone else and getting married.

Of course it "rips" here, because she hasn't moved on.

I kind of sort of understand the whole friendship thing, but not really. ;)

I just don't get how someone is okay with forcing their friendship on someone. How does that make her feel better? Really, she has to know, if she looks deep enough, that you're only doing this because it's less drama for you.

I just can't imagine caring so little of myself that I would be okay with a "friend" that's only my "friend" because I'm such a pain in the arse otherwise.

Is this a young girl thing, is that why I'm totally flabbergasted?

Ha ha it's got to be because I could have cared less to be her friend, let alone talk to her anymore.

True, we always want what we can't have, she wants you, can't have you, so she's forcing her way into your life. GIRLS! :(

I'm in trouble now.

Haha, yes, girls.

Well, my ex called me not too long ago and said that we needed to talk, but in person.

Yes, warning flag, but I was somewhat interested in where this was going, so I played along.

REMEMBER, I am just fine. No more lingering feelings. Just wanted to let her play her game.

Over the past couple of days, she's used up crying, desperate and pathetic, rational and convincing, as well as anger... so I was wondering what else she may have come up with.

I went there, and she got in my car, and we talked in the car in front of her apartment. Remember how I wanted her to "give up the boy toy?" Well, she didn't bring it up, but her body language said it all. She asked exactly what I wanted her to sacrifice...

SIDE NOTE: Women, I KNOW for a fact that this is not difficult to figure out. I mean, c'mon.

So I played her game and just told her that I wanted to see what she was willing to give up to get me back in her life.

She didn't flat out say it, but her body language pretty much said:

I'm not willing to give up something I know I will have... for something I may or may not get.

As we were talking, as if the fates had it, the new boy toy that "she had broken it completely off with" walked in front of my car, went to her apartment, knocked on the door, and when he didn't get a response, called her.

While her phone is ringing, I looked at her, and she looked at me with a look of sheer panic, and I told her, "I think you're needed."

... and that's that!

I know I said it was over, but the way things are going, I can guarantee that this book is not over. The chapter may be. I'm pretty dern sure that there is no way this girl is giving up. This should be fun.

LOL... I can't wait for the next chapter :)

If you're up to 30,000 words yet, this is going to become the next Silhouette bestseller. I do so want to see this get published!