One of my guy friends said that he probably just mentioned the break up to make me beg and cry for him to stay with me, I'd never do this! I have always been able to cut people out of my life whenever I know their no good for me or when I feel like I'm going to make a fool of myself by hanging round being needy. He always said this was harsh but I never fell out with them or argued in anyway just distanced myself from them and moved on. Really thought we were mature enough to get past this, his friends on Saturday actually said don't listen to him tonight cause he's been in bad mood all day and we still want to be friends with you,couldn't do that obviously

Good for you! I know it's so easy to say sometimes, but distancing yourself is always best. That way you get to see the situation like others have seen it, but you've been too close to see what has really been happening. It's the "rose colored glasses" syndrome! I don't think there is one of us that hasn't been through that. Once you take a step back, you can see things more clearly.

Your friends were right! He wanted to see you upset, and only ended up upsetting himself because you weren't! That's pretty typical. His ego was hurt!

Hey Irishgirl,


You've done absolutely nothing wrong.

You went out and started to move on.
Wasn't it he who broke up with you??

Sounds to me like your guy friend may be right, that he never intended to break up with you.


Glad you took my advice and brought the new guy to the wedding ;)

Thank you never me

I think I have a problem with being worried if people don't like me. I can see why it would have been embarrassing for him to hear I brought someone else to the wedding - since his parents where going to be there - but I don't think he has any right to get angry at me. Aw well, in the grand scheme of things this is pretty insignificant. Plus the new guy spoiled me rotten on valentines, I thought we were just going to pub but got me teddy,necklace,earrings and perfume. Was very surprised since we've only known each other for a few weeks but he said I deserved a treat. He may not be "the one" but I could do far worse I suppose. Oh and was tiny bit drunk and fell asleep in his house and never even touched me, if he had I'd have been out of there in a flash I tells ye!!

Ah that's great your one of the lucky ones so!

Feck the ex he's just jealous!

... and it's a good job he didn't touch you! :)

Well more ars this weekend! He was absolutely drunk at the weekend, tried to speak to him in bar just to say hello and he blanked me so rude told me he knew about new fella and had nothing more to say to me and basically leave him alone so I left. Then he nearly got arrested because started a fight outside the nightclub and was in the bar all day Sunday when my friends went in made it sound like a joke and told them he remembers nothing. Feel a bit of a set back to be honest thought we could be friends or at least civil but obviously not.

Irish, I think you are placing way too much emphasis on your exs' opinion... me, my ex, her opinion means about as much to me as the daily horoscopes in the FYI section of my newspaper...