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I found just changing my daily routine helps too. Even simple things that sound silly, like taking different roads to work. Going to different stores, and doing things in a different order during the day. I can help break the monotony which used to include that certain someone and help you to feel more changes than the one you are focused on. Lots of little changes helped to get me excited about changing my entire life.Quote:
Originally Posted by stuck719
The frist thing I did was BURN ALL OF HIS STUFF THAT I HAD. Pictures, and some clothes. It helped out a lot
Vodka and a night of watching Friends
I've been getting into Sex and the City, that's a good show to watch too.
Lots of ways there to meet a new friend, possible b/g friend. Very nice. I will have to try those out myself if my ex doesn't take me back :).
Get a journal and write about your experience. This is a therapeutic way of dealing with the break up.
Go out with friends. Don't stay in and mope around
Get a personal trainer who can motivate you
Go to a motivational seminar
Sit at the creek and clear your thoughts or take a nice road trip.
Exercise is a really, really good stress releaser in my opinion.
I've also been thinking about learning to play the guitar. I've always wanted to and since I'm currently going through an awful breakup, would be nice to try something totally new!
I know I am certainly prepared! I've been playing golf all my life and I am STILL learning! :pQuote:
Originally Posted by bigbird213
So if I have the patience for that I think I'll be fine with this!
My good friend has played the guitar his whole life and agreed to teach me so Im excited!
After my break-up a few years ago, I turned to running. I had always loved to run, but somehow slipped out of the routine over time. Just the fact that I was outside doing something good for MYSELF helped my mind wander to other things besides my ex. Being cooped up inside is no way to make yourself feel better.. find a nice day and enjoy the sun. :) Life is full of surprises and you'll eventually find happiness again, even though that may feel impossible at the time.
What I do is... Sleep for a week straight, cry if and when I need to, and then trash or give away every single item that was bought with that person - given to me by that person - or strongly reminds me of that person. That part is a process for me though, I can never seem to bring myself to toss everything in one go so it usually takes three or four days and then I sleep for a few more days and then I re-arrange my room completely(already said but a great tip) and then sleep some more. When I'm upset I tend to really focus on nice long baths, have my hair cut differently, or otherwise pamper myself. The most important thing is just to take time for pampering and adjustment.
I don't think this has been said but training animals - especially clickertraining dogs is pretty neat after my last breakup I taught my dog to retrieve my shoes(well, he taught himself sort of I just rewarded it) and to touch his chin to anything I said and to go around and smack things with his foot from different positions and we learned a new game called "find the cookie" where he sit/stays and I go hide small treats and piles of food in a room and then release him from the sit stay and he's got to find all of the treats with nothing but his nose and my pointing from the entrance of the room, it's a great game and it can get pretty wild. And we tore up all the letters and cards from my ex together, he clamps his teeth on it and then we both pull until whatever it is is in little tiny shreds - I call it "stress relief".
It's going to be rough for awhile. It's normal and human.
The best thing to do is always keep your mind busy.
Try to stay positive. Don't look at pictures of your ex... You know the saying
"Out of sight, out of mind".
Throw a party... and make sure to invite cute and single boys/girls :D
Try arts and crafts... it will keep you busy and you'll have a masterpiece to be proud of!
Write a song... you can calmly express your feelings, rather than creating hate mail.
Focus on your friends... they can help heal you and you'll soon be busy having fun.
Make a scrapbook... not of you and your ex, but of your family and friends.
Escape on a vacation... the sand and sun will relax you and give you some time to think.
Do the things you used to enjoy.find yourself again.Quote:
Originally Posted by wontbez
Join a kickboxin class. Not only you will learn how to kick someone`s butt really bad, work on your muscles, and plan revange if a guy is the reason you and your girl broke up lol, but it will also get all the strees out your head and heal the wound in your hearth faster!! (Thats what I did and trust me the guy part is the one you`ll enjoy the most)
This all sounds like very good advice to me. This can be a very hard time so take time to love yourself.
I don't know how many numbers there are so I'm going to start @ 1
1: be happy being single! Now you can sit with the girls and watch guys on bondi :D
2: eat chocolate!
3: buy clothes
4: make a group of friends and make up a funny looking dance routine
5: watch funny vids on YouTube
6: run around the house with friends and squirt them!
7: scream/sing out your favorite song with friends
Laugh with friends/family and you'll be out of those ' I miss him ' thoughts
#8. you don't have to shave your legs everyday.
9. You don't have to keep a daily watch on the pimples, mono brow and moustacheQuote:
Originally Posted by isabelle
Play chess, I swear it works. If you can't play it, learn it, and then try and beat your dad or older brother. I think it's a centuries old father/son legacy with chess. It really will make you feel so proud.
Do the things that you couldn't do in the relationship ex. My ex hated to go out while it was raining, I went for a mile run while it was pouring down huge rain drops. I have never felt so good!! Sure I got a cold but it was worth it!!
Eat a pint of ice cream make sure to have all the toppings
- Get a haircut. I love getting a haircut when I'm stressed out. Cutting your own hair can be pretty fun too (If you know what you're doing, and not just attacking yourself with scissors).
- Learn something new. I've decided to learn a new language. :)
- Chill out with some tea and a warm blanket.
Conquer a fear. It will definitely make you feel like you can do anything.
Write a song.
Learn too play something
Go too a party with some friends.
Have a sleep over.
29) Find ways, people, places to laugh.
30) Take ballroom dancing, but don't take it too seriously. Movement is life!
Just try to be more outgoing with yourself and if you have little money, the cheap thing is be with people that make you laugh!!
Get a new haircut!
Go bungee jumping.. it will throw out your past and make you fresh for a new start!! :)
Being a hornist, I say play the Horn! Ha!
But seriously, music is an amazing outlet. I would say take up the guitar. It's a common instrument, relatively easy, relatively inexpensive, and there's a huge repertoire of music to choose from.
Just go for a drink
Listen to this song!! =P
YouTube - Mariah Carey - Hero [Lyrics]
I'm going to have to try to do all these things. Everyone's helped me so much, it's still hard but it's a lot better then being depressed.
Another suggestion would be to watch a movie with a different crowd. It was my friend, his dad and I. We watched Meet the Parents. Even though that's a love comedy, it helped a lot and how I feel like watching more movies just because it makes me feel better.
Make yourself a nice cup of tea
And write a nice list of all the reasons you were too good for him/her in the first place,or all the reasons your better off apart than together :)
Pat yourself that you won the game of being honest in a relationship and forgive other person couldn't be as great as you... lol
Join Landmark Education
Amazing... but one or two more...
-draw... work on art... express what your feeling into your art like paintings and just drawings and what of it...
-exersice... go outside and get active... you can't possibly think of it while you are running aorund or playinga and having fun... I dance when I'm down because of a break up becauswe I love dancing and it's a fun way to get in shape and keep your head clear:)
After a breakup, I recommend a good movie day with your best friend, get some alcopops in, a good old movie, and some hagen daaz belgian chocolate ice cream in :)
Alsooo, one thing that makes me feel better, is having a complete about the ex to a friend, just make sure this friend is a good trust worthy person, someone that will get involved with the ranting about him, trust me, the gigglinggg in your house won't seize, and honestly afterwards you'll realisee, if he's hurt you he's not worth it and your better off without him
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Do whatever you want. You're free, now. So make the most of it. This gives you the opportunity to increase your skills in the dating game. So have fun. Oh and try a new 'makeover' as a way to transform your looks to suit your new single life? I did. Went from being the angelina jolie-style brunette with light skin, to blonde and tanned. Vamped up my wardrobe and made some great new friends too. Girls, of course.
Did anyone suggest that go for a long drive on a less traffic road and put you're the most dear music at full blast?
Another thing I realized to do is - pray to Lord Jesus to give strength to walk through this time and to bear this hurt. Prayer helps to ease the pains. Yet do not forget to thank HIM for the privilege you had to love someone, to care for soemone, to live for someone, to be loved by someone. Many people are there on this earth who do not get lucky to love or be loved by someone. Do you remember the hymn "What a Friend We have in Jesus"? There is a line in that song -
"Do your friends despise, forsake you? Take it to the Lord in prayer!
In His arms He’ll take and shield you; you will find a solace there.
You can enjoy the midi of the song at
What a Friend We Have in Jesus
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