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I have to disagree. My husband is a good man and doesn't give any signals to any women. He always wears is wedding ring and besides she has his personal mob number because we were or are friends, I have her ex-husbnads mob number too! We have known these people for years!Quote:
Originally Posted by amazing
Thanks J_9... you are quick, as I said yes she is the same girl...Quote:
Originally Posted by J_9
Just out of curiousity what does mob stand for or mean in the Mediterean? Because in the United States the mob is organized crime and nobody would mess with the wife of a member of the mob. She might lose more than your friendship.Quote:
Originally Posted by Krs
Lofl, in the mediterrean.. mob is short of mobile :)
OHHHHHH!! Okay, you had me wondering for a minute there.
Well so far she hasn't replied!
The last mail from her said :-"Nope – really don't remember.. honestly. Is that why you didn't visit me over xmas?!"
I replied saying, very weird as it came from your mob! And the reason we didn't visit in xmas wasn't due to this text message! (which is true)...
J_9 would understand why we didn't visit her at xmas.
Oh, Krs, what are we going to do with you and this gal "friend"? LOL
She caused you the same grief last year at almost the same time. Am I safe to assume that she wants to come visit you again?
Remember what we talked about last year, in that this is not a true friend if she comes on to your husband?
Folks, this is not the first time this girl has done this to Krs and her hubby, this is actually an ongoing long drawn out thing.
Krs, can I ask why you are still friends with this girl if she refuses to respect your boundaries? It may be time to change your hubbys mobile number and not give it to her.
Oh my! I didn't know there was a history.
Gosh why on earth are you still friends with the b****?
Thanks again Janine.Quote:
Originally Posted by J_9
Yes I remember what we spoke about when the issues first arose. I took all into account of what you explained and I thank you for that.
Well as to why I'm still friends, well, its abit tricky. When we were last over to visit our friends, I must admit I didn't try to contact her. My hubby and I are very good mates with her ex hubby and visited him a lot when we were over, the unfortunate thing is her ex and this 'friend' are still friends themselves, so a few times we were over at his (the ex) house, he called her to say we are over and she turned up, then she insisted that she takes us out to dinner, I was going to refuse if it was just me my hubby and her, but a group of mates were joining so we went.
That night the taxi came for us at her ex's house, she was there too. My hubby got in the taxi first - sat at the back, I was still indoors, and she throw away her cigarette immediately and jumped at the back sit near him!! I didn't want to throw a fuss over that as I sat in front of my hubby and he wouldn't let go of my hand!
I just don't get her!
But I haven't heard back from her since my last correspondence with her on fri!
Who knows... maybe this did it!
[QUOTE=J_9]Oh, Krs, what are we gonna do with you and this gal "friend"? LOL
she caused you the same grief last year at almost the exact same time. Am I safe to assume that she wants to come visit you again?
[QUOTE=J_9]
Hahaha, yes she does want to come visit us this yr..! Oh no she isn't!
Did she say she wants to come see you (your husband) this year?
Aha she did, when she took us out for a meal with our mates.
I claimed our place 'may not' be ready in June. She said 'i don't care, I want to see my buddies, ill stay in a hotel'...
But she hasn't replied to my last email last Fri!!
Just don't bother to talk to her again and save yourself and your husband a lot of drama!!
I'd just leave it be, if she has the nerve to bring it up again I'd tell her 'NO'. If she asks why, then be honest with her---her past behavior is inappropriate and in light of it, you do not feel that she is the type of person you choose to welcome into your home or your life.
Yep.. totally, I isn't going to email her and I'm hoping she won't either!
Im confused though why she said she don't remember sending this text because she is a very upfront person... and doesn't hold things back!
Why do you think she has done so? Saying she don't remember?
Why bother yourself with it anymore? Why be confused?
Fact is--the message came from her phone, your husband told you, there is a pattern of behavior in the past that makes you uncomfortable.
Who cares if she remembers or not--YOU know and will remember. End of story.
So true again!
I guess her not replying says enough, don't it?
... so... end of ;)
Quick update guys...
NO emails or messages from HER!!
Guilty as hell if you tell me ;)
Its been 3 weeks now!!
That shows what a 'great' friend she is... all bull*cks!
She denies it, and denies it, then asks is that why I didn't visit our xmas and that was it no more correspondence from her.
Hi again Krs,
I can't help but wonder how this whole situation arose? It would take a woman of pure steel to openly show signs of interest she has in your husband, but what puzzles me is that no woman would dare do anything like this if it was all self-induced?? - this would imply that she suffers from an obsessive personality disorder and/or that she is mentally unbalanced in some way shape or form.
I can't see her having done what she did without there being some element of your husband who had indirectly without meaning to, given the indication that her flirtations are okay. Men even married ones, can and do admire other women in subtle and less obvious ways and sometimes without their wives knowledge. This wouldn't mean to say that he did this knowingly to hurt you or to cause any stress in your relationship, but often we take it for granted that are partners are meant to be faithful to the last core of their being. If only it worked like this!
I have known married men to have flirted with other married women and single women and is a common problem in many marriages and is not a unique thing but isn't something for you to get upset about if it is you he is with and sleeps with ever night. He clearly loves you to be with you. But a wandering eye from time to time happens to lots of us without there being any real meaning to what we do. I am single and so it is okay and I am female, but I know married men and I like one of them very much and he flirts outrageously with me without his wife even knowing he does this. I don't do it back anymore but he is a very attractive man and women will look at him. I guess what I am trying to say if you will have the patience to listen to me, is that all men look at other women married or not.
I am pretty convinced that your husband had inadvertently flirted (not knowingly) with this women who likes him and is attracted to him and felt safe enough to send the message to him because he gave the indication that somehow this was okay? Maybe wanting you to find out if for instance, you are not in a particularly passionate marriage? Some married men do things to get their wives attention and this is one example I have come across before and hence the reason why I have suggested it to you. This doesn't make what the woman did acceptable at all, but she only did what she felt was okay to do given your husband's own body language of approval perhaps? You can't just assume that she did this without a cause at all because in fact, it does sound far too outrageous to think of it like that.
Why risk her own marriage on a crush? Women are not stupid and wouldn't do something like what she did without there being a point or objective to it. Unless she is mentally ill, I can't see how she would do something like this for apparently no real good reason at all. It would take a very stupid woman to do something like text her friend's husband asking him to have dreams about her (It seems a little bizarre to me) . I can't help but see this situation in a much broader light and because there are too many gaps in what I am seeing and hearing. Something preceded this act of sabotage towards your marriage and it didn't start with the text message - there is more to this because there has to be.
If you don't read my post and ignore it like the last one, then it proves my point - you are ignorant to what you want to hear or see and why women like you live in castles in the air thinking that their husbands are their knights and can do no wrong and therefore, the whole world is to blame but not him. Wake up and smell the coffee and get real - your husband isn't a saint and can't protect your insecurities always when he has his own vulnerabilities and faults like everyone else does.
I am not being mean, but realistic and sure hope you can see this for yourself?
I hear an echo...
A well known member here quotes often: " women want what they can't have - - - ALWAYS and like a challenge."
Could this be what is happening here with the so called friend?
Hi Amazing! I appreciate your honestly, but I don't appricate you calling me arrogant.
I believe no one is perfect, nor am I, and nor is my husband. But how dare you say he flirted with this women when you don't even know my husband. My husband isn't a flirt... I know when I see a man flirt, and he isn't 1 of those married men... he talks to females.. but there is a grand difference between chatting and flirting! So I'm a 100% sure that he gave no evidence of interest to this women.
You don't know half the story. My husband has known this women for 15 years. She WAS married my my hubby's best friend.. she isn't anymore, she left him! My husband always thought highly of her and so did I. When she was married she was a different person with different morals.. Once she left her husband she changed... and things with her now are... (for example) "oh its only sex" "oh its only skin" and everything is only this and only that.. Her values don't compare to the values me and my husband have. We are a team, she WAS a friend that went overboard.
Also if there was any hint of flirtation from my husband's side... then why on earth would he have told ME his wife about this message?? And another thing she didn't ask my husband to have dreams about her, if you read my post properly she said she had a yum yum dream about him!!
I didn't ignore your other post.. again if you looked closer you would have seen that I actually DID answer you on page 5 of this thread!!
I am in a very passionate marriage. He is my best friend, my lover, my life!
You can't jump to conclusions just because married men flirted with you!
I would definitely have words with her just to let her know your guy told you all about it. That may make her think twice the next time. Yes, she definitely is flirting but does he NEED to tell you more ?
Oh I have ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by tickle
What do u mean "but does he NEED to tell you more"?
Its been 5 weeks of no contact.
I obviously have not bothered to mail her... she has done the same.
She is no friend, she denied that text message, if she were a real friend she would have mailed... well I isn't missing nothing, am I?
Hey guys, need some advice!
The girlfriend of this so call called friends ex-husband is asking me what's up between us?
Shall I tell or is this not so wise?
No don't bother, forget about it and don't bother with any of them.
They are not real friends , and I don't think you need them in your life if they are all causing you drama.
Well this so called "friend" is causing the sh*t, her ex-husband and his new girlfriend arnt at all, they are actually very good mates of mine.
Thanks for the advice thou and I will not tell his new girlfriend.
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