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She's not over with you man she's likes to play games and depending on you as a person weather you take them or not I would just say screw off and then see what happens she might me on her knees. She knows you will come back to her she will keep doing what she is doing. Breaking up and come back when its convenient for her.
The way I see it is, the first time she emailed me I replied out of being polite, 2nd time I contacted her because I was confused with her actions now she as emailed me I'm blanking it. I feel there's no need to respond to her. I just want to see whether she emails me again or not. If she doesn't then I know where it stands. One thing I can feel is that she hasn't moved on otherwise she wouldn't be doing this.
Well guys a small update for you. I kind of listened to T2oussaint's advice by not blocking her on fb as I feel I don't need to but I have just seen that she has poked me! I didn't respond to her silly email 2 days ago and now I get a poke from her? Is she actually mad?
Nope not at all she wants attention from you. See how things work out she's doing anything to get attention but don't give it to her. If you respond to her just say why are you poking me do you need something? Watch what happens then.
She is playing games now the ball is in your court. Its is up to you what to do with it. Do not give in that easily. Let her know you running the show the way you want. If she does not like it. She can hit the highway.
Lol T2oussaint I loved your response. Its amazing how things work out and happen! When you said ask her why she's poking me does she need something... watch what happens next what do you mean? If she's getting my attention because of the uni thing she can stuff it. I think its best I ignore this poke.
Why are you still wondering? Block her and be done with it or talk to her. Do one or the other. I say block her and leave her alone
Ignore the poke and block herQuote:
Originally Posted by Guest321
Just watch and see man but if you don't want to comment to her on the poking thing you don't. At least you should get her back at her own game a lot of people on here say just leave her along, block her and all this stuff. In reality she hurt you and as longs as u do nothing your going to think about it all the time so I say get her back at her own game and then see what happens. A) she is going to be like well he doesn't care or love me anymore or b) she is going to break down and start crying and asking you to forgive her either way.
What he will be doing is playing games just like her and it does not make him any better than her.
If you want to get back at her and start playing games, she still has control over you and is still playing you.
When you can walk away and be done with it, you have won and have come out the better person.
T2oussaint
Its funny even though I broke up with her I'm hoping she's realised she made plenty mistakes too that lead to me breaking up. Both of us weren't perfect. So you're saying the better thing to do would be to email her and ask her why she poked me and what she wants?
I see what homegirl is saying too.
If you want to know what she wants, ask her, but don't play games. Take the answer she gives you and be done with it.
Do you want her back?
I would but I feel what you are saying homegrl
I would think you would have better things to do than play games with a foolish person. I would. Ignore this or be drawn into her drama that you no doubt will be confused by and want to know what's going through her head.
Homegirl
I don't think I do want her back especially after this drama she has created in the last 2 1/2 months. It just shows me she is the same person and this person isn't the girl I fell in love with. I don't think she wants me back, I think this poke was another way of trying to get my attention in regards to her email about the university thing. I could be wrong, in fact a few of my close buddies and cousins who know my story well are saying she probs wants me back. One thing though is that I don't think she's moved on at all. I actually feel she's still far from it or this stupid communication by her wouldn't occur. I can't help but feel that she's making me feel like I've done something wrong with putting the uni on my fb. I would understand if we were together so that we lessen our chances of family seeing but we're not and haven't been for 6 months and for her to bring it up now makes me think its just an excuse, a valid one in her eyes. I just wished she were upfront about things but I think homegirl is right, ask her what she wants, take the first answer and go for good!
I wouldn't give her the time of day, nor would I let her live rent free in my head.
Lol I get you talaniman. Well I think she should get the hint fair and square by me not responding to her email and poke. I can appreciate that she might be scared in fear of rejection or something, that's why she's not being straight forward with me but I should be the one fearing it more as previously I told her how I felt, no mucking about and she said she loved me but wasn't in love and then changed her mind again. She's enough to give anyone a headache.
She has messaged me on fb this time 2 hours ago saying the same thing as in her email. Maybe she's worried about her family finding out and getting suspicious again even though obviously we aren't together but shouldn't she just be straight up with me and say that instead of just repeating herself and poking me?
Block her from your Facebook and be done with it. Then you won't have this to worry about. Unless you are ego-tripping off this.
Homegirl I've done it. She's finally blocked and I must admit it, it feels good lol. Why the persistence though? Thank you for the support :) really appreciate it!
Who knows, but if you are done, who cares?
That could be her way of leaving a door open and keeping you as an option.
Just curious is all. She's blocked so I'm pretty certain she gets the hint now.
She met someone else she wants to see and can't while she is still involved with you
Hey everyone, here's some background info on my situation. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/help-me-figure-out-what-ex-girlfriend-thinking-598916-6.html
If you don't want to read it that's cool but I would really appreciate some insight.
Apologies for it being long.
A lot has happened since March 2011 when me and my ex of 3 yrs broke up. For the last 4 months there has been on and off contact, mostly initiated by her through emails and fb. Last month I had sent her a message basically telling her to go away, we're not together anymore and she replied saying 'don't worry I won't waste my time on you anymore'.
I heard nothing until a few days ago where she had messaged me saying 'I still love you'. This was the first I've ever heard her say this since we broke up. I asked to talk on the phone, she agreed but wanted a few days as she was very nervous, had a lot going on and needed to figure out what she wanted to tell me apart from that she misses me.
I called her Saturday evening and we had about an hour long conversation, we reminisced a lot and she told me her feelings and I told her mine. She still loves me, misses me and us and wanted me back but was confused about 1 thing. That was she was scared that things may go back to their old ways. I told her I still loved her, wanted her back if she could make her mind up on the phone. She asked me to wait for her to make a final decision but I said no, I'm not waiting any longer (I mean she's had long enough already, nearly 8 months).
Eventually we both agreed not to give it a go, she said I was harsh, I could tell she was hurt. She then said she won't text me or message me again and that we should no longer talk. I said OK best of luck, take care etc. She then asked me why I kept her number, I told her why and she said she had deleted mine. I don't know where that came from, was she hurt that's why she had to say something like that?
Anyway the very next morning, I receive a text from her asking a final question. She wanted to know if I still had pictures of us together or if I had deleted them because she wanted them. I replied and said I would send her what I have on Monday. She then replied and said thank you ps you will always be the love of my life. I didn't respond to that but I sent her the pics and she replied to that and said she has those pictures already and do I not have anymore. Obviously I would have sent them if I did so I haven't bothered replying and I've heard nothing since yesterday.
I just want to know what do you think she's doing? What's with wanting the pictures and telling me I'm the love of her life?
Maybe she is feeling a bit lonely and reminiscing. Either way, you did right.
Leave her alone.
This effort to get attention should best be ignored, because she has had enough time to figure things out for herself.
Whatever events triggered her contact, its her problem, not yours.
Why are you still curious on why she did what she did? Who will know for sure why? You don't even do an NC or try to ignore whatever messages you get from her. You said yourself you don't want to get her back. Then what's the point of caring about why she did what she did. You should just move on, ignore her, and live your life happily.
Walk out of the house tomorrow like a mover and shaker. I understand the want to help idea and the pain but sometimes when you read these threads well... should I block or unblock on FB? What could that email have meant? Many evaluations of he said she said. It's a breakup not the end of the world. Movers and shakers don't spend hours and hours wondering why they got blocked on FB. Get out there and make things happen. And they don't spend hours and hours answering the same questions with “expert” advice that has only been qualified as expert by themselves. What would Apple or Microsoft look like today if Jobs and Gates spent their days on here deciphering what a blocked FB action really meant. Get out there and do something... all of you.
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