You have explained the stalking part, but not the paranoid part. I can see polite, and brief, but not getting carried away, and seeing her plotting on you. Let it go. It was a chance meeting, and if you can't handle it, or deal with it for what it is, then change gyms until you can.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

You have explained the stalking part, but not the paranoid part. I can see polite, and brief, but not getting carried away, and seeing her plotting on you. Let it go. It was a chance meeting, and if you can't handle it, or deal with it for what it is, then change gyms until you can.

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After much thought and reflection. I felt that after we had decided no contact she came over to me in the gym and started a conversation to see how I was doing to ease her guilt. My reaction might have been selfish; I'm hurting why shouldn't she. I have started to take the longer route to get home to avoid looking at her home. Each day I don't see her the hope that I had for a renewal of the relationship is getting smaller and the amount I miss her is also diminishing. I saw her the other day driving and she did not wave; I felt upset that she did not acknowledge me. The next day she sends me a message apologizing for not waving and wants to know if it is OK to send me messages. I have been giving advice both ways, I have not returned her message, but I have been advised I should send her a quick note saying yes it does bother me when I get a message from you, it restores hope so please do not send me anymore messages. Which route would you take?