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You'll be over him in no time. Move on.
Make new friends. Study. Exercise.
Get a new hobby. Do anything but sit around thinking of who he's with, and what they're doing.
You both are too young to be having problems of this sort. Don't make the same mistake that his other girl did.
And for him to post pictures on the internet, is both immoral and illegal. You should be extremely mad at him about that. That's here FOREVER .
Your parents are smart. Listen to them.
Iknow thank you :)
And your correct because I want to be a teenager and live my young years and not be dragged to grow up early
Maybe moderators could merge all OP's threads in one, because as much as I want to help, I can't keep up anymore - and make a sticky reminder to all newbies starting to post here just keep it all contained and do not start 5 more threads on basically the same subject?
Thank you!
This boy's life is a mess and I'm sure he has made your life a mess. What kind of love is it that he has for you when he post nude pictures of you on the Internet?
You have very low self esteem if you are wanting someone like this in your life.
This boy does not love you, if he did he'd be with you. You don't need him in your life any way.
Do things with your friends, get a life apart from him. Don't continue to degrade yourself with this foolishness.
He's dumped you 10 times in four months, he's posted naked pictures of you on the internet, he has a child with another 'woman' of likely his age, which is 17?
Love may be blind, but this is just ridiculous!! I'm not so sure that you realize what you are saying- how old are you?
I'm 16
To be dumped 10 times in 4 months is unreal. You were never a happy couple long enough for anything good to happen.
Were you just hard up for a boy friend? Why in the world would you continue to go back to someone like that?
This guy is bad news. He has enough drama attached to him that will last a life time. You have a lifetime ahead of you.
Consider yourself lucky he is gone and get over this sick infatuation, because that's what this is.
Harsh ! But so true thank you girl xx
He dumped me 10 times in 4 months we been together!
He hacks into my account and looks through old messages that I had with recent boyfriends in my past and then gets angry at me, even though it was before I met them !
He goes through my contact list on Facebook and msn and deletes all the guys and decides who I can be friends with !
He then has the nerve to call me jealous and that I'm ruienin the relationship , when he's chattin to other girlsand calling them babe and puts kisses to them and I just ask who is she ? He then goes mad at me saying yoursoo jealous !
He then asks me who's that why you puttin kisses to them , I though if there no problem in him duing it then I can I guess, but he can't handle it!
He says things like I'm the girlfriend from hell and that IM the one who need to CHANGE, and I'm the one ruienin the relationship !
He would go mad at me if I'm not available everyday to see him! he will arrange things without asking if I'm available !
He asked me to marry him 4 times! Inbettween the break ups even straight after a break up sometimes !
I obviously turned him down becauseim 16 and he's 17 with a kid from another girl!
He went mad saying you don't love me if you did you would marry me, I told him I don't want to rush things and that why would he want to marry me so young and if he keeps breaking up with me!
Anyway I got sick of all this controlling it got too much even my family started to notice he wasn't treating me well because my dad had to pick me up countless times where I was crying and wanted to come home !
He would tell me I would be nothing without him and I need him !
He played with my emotions but I couldn't seeit at first but then people started pointing it out and inoticed I was changing who I am asa person for him! When its his problem!
But he would make me apologise for something I never did!
He never apologised to me even if he knew something was his fault!
Last Monday we split up becausei told him I would not be controlled anymore and I deserve to be treated better!
Becausei didn't cry and wasn't running back to him he then started saying he cheated when he actually didn't but he later told me he said it to hurt me even the girl he said he slept with fell out with him because she said she never and he made that poor girl look a slut!
Anyway afew hours after the argument I got a text from a friend asking what them pictures are about, I didn't know what pictures they wer talking about, I tried logging into my account and he had hacked into not only my Facebook but my email too!
He hadposted explicit private photosof me giving out my info and saying "if anyone wants me im here " basically advertising me!
Well I was in tears! And he went back to his baby mother saying he didn't love her he just needed her to get over me :S! Which isn't fair on her, because she still likes him and he's using her !
I called the police and he's nowon an offender list because he's done things in his past too !
He them messaged me saying he loves me !
I said tell me the truth and if you don't I will walk away !
He won't tell me the truth because he wants to leave me hanging on by sending me messages saying " i want you, i need you, im inlove with you "
My parents hate him so it would never work but he's emotionall abusing me he's leaving me hanging and is stopping me from moving on!
Anyway the question I want to ask is...
Is it me with the problem , and I was the worst girlfriend and I ruiend it?
OR
Is it him with the problem but doesn't want to admitt it so he puts the blame on me, even though he verbally and emotional abuses me?
Honest opinions pleasee
Thankyouu
:) xx
This needs to be merged with your other questions on this topic.
You move keep moving on and don't look back,go complete no contact.
He has a lot of issues at ayoung age,while your just young.
His controlling nature will not improve unless its nipped in the bud now,however that's no concern of yours now.
You learned, hopefully a valuable lesson with this guy,and one I do hope you don't entend repeating.
Do your own thing,hang out with your friends,have fun for petes sake!
Plenty of time for serious relationships in a few years.
He dumped me 10 times in 4 months we been together!
He hacks into my account and looks through old messages that I had with recent boyfriends in my past and then gets angry at me, even though it was before I met them !
He goes through my contact list on Facebook and msn and deletes all the guys and decides who I can be friends with !
He then has the nerve to call me jealous and that I'm ruienin the relationship , when he's chattin to other girlsand calling them babe and puts kisses to them and I just ask who is she ? He then goes mad at me saying yoursoo jealous !
He then asks me who's that why you puttin kisses to them , I though if there no problem in him duing it then I can I guess, but he can't handle it!
He says things like I'm the girlfriend from hell and that IM the one who need to CHANGE, and I'm the one ruienin the relationship !
He would go mad at me if I'm not available everyday to see him! he will arrange things without asking if I'm available !
He asked me to marry him 4 times! Inbettween the break ups even straight after a break up sometimes !
I obviously turned him down becauseim 16 and he's 17 with a kid from another girl!
He went mad saying you don't love me if you did you would marry me, I told him I don't want to rush things and that why would he want to marry me so young and if he keeps breaking up with me!
Anyway I got sick of all this controlling it got too much even my family started to notice he wasn't treating me well because my dad had to pick me up countless times where I was crying and wanted to come home !
He would tell me I would be nothing without him and I need him !
He played with my emotions but I couldn't seeit at first but then people started pointing it out and inoticed I was changing who I am asa person for him! When its his problem!
But he would make me apologise for something I never did!
He never apologised to me even if he knew something was his fault!
Last Monday we split up becausei told him I would not be controlled anymore and I deserve to be treated better!
Becausei didn't cry and wasn't running back to him he then started saying he cheated when he actually didn't but he later told me he said it to hurt me even the girl he said he slept with fell out with him because she said she never and he made that poor girl look a slut!
Anyway afew hours after the argument I got a text from a friend asking what them pictures are about, I didn't know what pictures they wer talking about, I tried logging into my account and he had hacked into not only my Facebook but my email too!
He hadposted explicit private photosof me giving out my info and saying "if anyone wants me im here " basically advertising me!
Well I was in tears! And he went back to his baby mother saying he didn't love her he just needed her to get over me :S! Which isn't fair on her, because she still likes him and he's using her !
I called the police and he's nowon an offender list because he's done things in his past too !
He them messaged me saying he loves me !
I said tell me the truth and if you don't I will walk away !
He won't tell me the truth because he wants to leave me hanging on by sending me messages saying " i want you, i need you, im inlove with you "
My parents hate him so it would never work but he's emotionall abusing me he's leaving me hanging and is stopping me from moving on!
Anyway the question I want to ask is...
Is it me with the problem , and I was the worst girlfriend and I ruiend it?
OR
Is it him with the problem but doesn't want to admitt it so he puts the blame on me, even though he verbally and emotional abuses me?
Honest opinions pleasee
Thankyouu
Xx
Do you really need advice? Go back and read all of your threads. Surely you can see this is a messed up situation.
If one of your friends came to you with this what would you tell her?
You're 16 years old, there is no reason dating should have this much drama attached to it.
Do not have any contact with this guy in any way shape or form. You will heal, you will get over this mess.
Kiewie, please continue to post in one single thread. By the way, you've got some excellent responses to all of your questions. Go back, print them out and read them all over until it all sinks.
Forget the rest this question is everything allin one I will try and delete the rest
Of course this is his problem. It is all common sense. LIke Shadowburn says, go back and read over this. I'm pretty sure after reading that several times it's clear he has some issues. There are just people like that in the world. You have to be able to tell them apart from everyone else, in which this case is loud and clear. Just think about it.
I hope you can mentally recover from this. Hope all is well.
-Crazychick.
I have a request for you that I think will not only help you but will help us. You have repeated your question several times, even after receiving great advice. Will you now write a post about the things you have learned about yourself and how you can or will deal with this issue? If you have determined what you want (in a guy or in life) in the future, that would also help. I'm not looking for you to repeat what we have told you, though. I'm asking that you tell us in your words what you will do and what you have figured out about the relationship. Don't write what you think we want to hear, but rather write from your perspective what you will do and what you have learned. It might open some new questions for you, which would be helpful. Asking the same questions multiple times is not helpful.
Frankly if you dress in public as you do in you in your avatar you are sending the wrong message.
Maybe this is why he's jealous and doesn't trust you.
You are sixteen and you are trying to grow up too fast. You have a lot of issues with this guy and if he has a child you don't need to even think of marriage at your age.
The sexy dressing and flirting is going to drive any guy away after a while. No one wants guys thinking negative and unflattering thoughts about the girl they're with.
Think about it.
Hello Kiewiebeauty,
I think perhaps it's both of your problems. I think that there is too much jealousy on both parts. Too much nonsense going on.
You guys seem to have a very argumentative and toxic relationship.
Perhaps you are better off just being friends.
At 16, I wouldn't be so concerned with guys. I think you should focus on your studies, and college future plans, and your friends and family.
There will be plenty of time in the future for men.
Good luck.
He has a problem but you also have one if you don't see that this relationship is just full of drama and is toxic. You have a problem if you don't see that this guy does not love you. Love does not do what he has done to you. Why you would even go back to a guy who has dumped you ten times is beyond me.
You both have a problem.
Please stop starting threads about the same guy. It's quite confusing and unnecessary
Especially your first post..
"he dumped me 10 times in 4 months we been together!"
What is that almost every week?
Not good.
Excuse me! I do modeling !
And I do not dress sexy and flirt
I would watch what you are saying !
You clearly did not read it!
He is an abusive partner end of!
You have clearly got the wrong idea of what has happened
OK can sumone help me!
my ex that my posts have been about called me asking for me back admitting he had a problem but my dad said there is no going back because of how much he hurt me should I listen to my dad or my ex?
pluss theonly thing that's stopping me from saying ***** off is the fact I don't want him to get another girl? x
pleaseee adviceee?? xx
Listen to your dad. This guy will not change he will keep hurting you. And its wrong of you to want to keep him from another girl.
Listen to your dad and to what has been said to you here.
This relationship has too much drama to be any good.
Your only wanting him because you don't want anyone else to have him is selfish and immature.
You need to get over this and grow up. The guy is a creep, he has so much baggage he's way over the weight limit, has dumped you so many times you should feel real comfortable in the trash heap, yet you don't want anyone else to have him. Get real girl! He's not even suitable for anybody else at this point in his life.
This is going to be harsh, because I can't believe you are really contemplating going back to him AGAIN.Quote:
Originally Posted by kiewiebeauty
Don't play 'dog in the manger' and try to hold on to something you don't need and shouldn't want.
Your father is completely correct. Your ex is playing a game. Time to grow up and start thinking about your needs instead of catering to his.
Haven't you had enough, yet? Do you want to go for 30 break ups in six months? Do you want to hear more about how you let him down when he gets back from playing games with another girl, again?
Read your posts IF you need any more reasons not to go back to him.
I think you need to ask yourself some questions and the answer will become apparent.
Did he treat you well? Did you feel secure and respected by him? Is he honest, reliable, and trustworthy? Is he someone you see yourself with long-term?
I’ll be very surprised if you can answer any of those questions with a “yes”.
Have you given any thought to what you want out of life? Do you want someone who can’t make up his mind about what you mean to him or do you want someone who cherishes you? Do you want someone who has already made a mess of his life or do you want someone who you can build a good, solid, happy life with? Do you want to live with the question of when he will decide to be with his baby’s mother again or do you want someone who wants you?
You’re only 16. Why limit yourself to someone who has already proven he knows nothing about love? You should be dating guys for fun, not the drama this guy puts you through. This is most likely a lack of confidence in yourself. Don’t you think you can do better? I certainly do. I’d run from this guy as fast as possible. What does he have going for him? Maybe you have chemistry, until he decides to dump you again – but if you will open your mind up to other possibilities, you will find that you can have chemistry with a guy who deserves you. You really need to allow yourself to grow up and make good choices. Your life will be much more rewarding if you do. Listen to your father. He is the one in this question who really loves you. The boy is trouble and is using you. Make a decision that will work for your future; think beyond today.
Listen to your dad, as him getting with someone else is a really lousy reason to put your heart back in harms way to be hurt again. Don't you think?Quote:
Originally Posted by kiewiebeauty
So you meen me I shudnt get back with him just cause I don't want anyone else to have him ?
I know I've opend a lot of threads but I'm not too sure how you use this site properly yet.
So apologies
Anyway if you have read my other threads on my ex I would have mentioned that he told me he had gone back to his baby's mother ?
Well it was all a lie to try and make me jealous..
And now he wants me back and I don't know whether to take him back.
(when he told me he was cheating it was a lie to try and make me jealous)
He says he has changed and askedme to meet him but I declined because I had made plans so he was pissed off at me saying " im obv not that important"
And basically acting the sammee.. opinions please?
No matter how you put it, and whatever reason he gives, I doubt anyone here will advise you to get back with him to be dumped for the 11th time.
What's it going to take for you to realize that, and go strict NO CONTACT with this fellow, so you can heal, and move on??
I know !
Should I be bothered about him having another girl
But he did say he's changed , but my dad said people like that never change ?x
Kiewie you deserve SOOO much better than this scumbag. Please listen to everyone in this thread and your dad, who cares about you more than any other guy in the world. Stay away from this LOSER!
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kiewiebeauty : I know ! Should I be bothered about him having another girl but he did say hes changed , but my dad said people like that never change ?x
He lied to you. He tried to manipulate your feelings and make you jealous. He has told you he changed, but he acted just the same as he did before. So his saying he has changed is a lie.Quote:
Originally Posted by kiewiebeauty
Are you saying that you truly trust this person who seems to have no respect for you and your feelings? This person who only wants what he wants and doesn't care how he gets it? This person who has lied to you on several occasions?
Yes, I am saying to stay far away from him. Delete, block, ignore, de-friend, etc. every form of contact you have with him. Do not contact him and do not allow him to contact you. End the confusion for once and for all.
Listen to your father. Get out and meet new people. Move on from this mess he is trying to pull you back into.
kiewiebeauty : i know ! should i be bothered about him having another girl but he did say hes changed , but my dad said people like that never change ?x
How many times has he said he's changed? You don't want to let this creep go and you won't until he hurts you really bad and that is unfortunate. You don't learn from your mistakes and you don't listen to wise counsel. You've got some growing up to do.
I want to move on but he's sending me flowers and everything !
Why do I feel like I won't find anyone else ?
What if I don't find no one else ?
You will. Don't accept the flowers he sends. Good Luck
You are only 16. You WILL find someone else. Your life isn't over yet. You still have plenty of time to live.
He's already got a baby. Do you want a ready made family and all the drama that comes with it? Remember, he will be tied to this girl forever. You are too young to have to deal with something so big.
This is going to be harsh.Quote:
Originally Posted by kiewiebeauty
You don't accept the flowers. You send them back. You give them to the hospital to brighten someone else's day.
You have your father tell him that if the ex doesn't stop, your father will be contacting the police about getting a restraining order.
You do your part by breaking off all contact with him and accepting no contact from him.
You feel like you won't find anyone else because you are young. You think you have to have someone 'right now'. You don't. Being single is a great experience if you use it correctly. Dating different guys and learning what you like in a date and what you don't is an invaluable lesson. This is the time to build lasting friendships. This is the time to learn about yourself and what makes you happy.
You are 16 years old. You have a lifetime ahead of you to 'find someone'. There isn't a time limit that you have to have a boyfriend by or you will be single for life.
You will have many relationships. Some lasting. Some fleeting. But all of them will have their special places in your heart and someday you find the person who eclipses all the others. This person is not that one.
You would rather be with someone who treats you like crap than to be alone for awhile?Quote:
Originally Posted by kiewiebeauty
Grow up girl. There are so many more things to do at your age than waste your time mooning over a baby daddy who treats you like dirt.
He is not the only boy in the world and you certainly have plenty of time to find one. Being a teenager is not just about dating.
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