I'll take a look on eBay for you! :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Allheart
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I'll take a look on eBay for you! :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Allheart
LOL Geoff,
But it must I repeat must be a pain free process... please :)
Well isn't there something they say about all good judgement comes from bad experiences...
And so then where does bad experience come from... bad judgement! LOL
I'm coo coo for cocoa puffs! (makes the pointy finger circles next to her head now LOL)
And that my friends just sums it up. Perfect again Val.Quote:
Originally Posted by valinors_sorrow
Don't worry Allheart, brain engraving is a painless procedure. There are no nerve endings in the brain!! :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Allheart
Perhaps one of those henna tattoos then? They can be replaced monthly..Quote:
Originally Posted by Allheart
Also, if you change your mind about how you feel about tal's response, you could always get it replaced with a different one.. LOL
Oh yeah,Quote:
Originally Posted by J_9
Forgot that...
Hannibal lector pointed that out in that film...
But I thought Allheart wanted it engraved on her head??
You would have to give her some painkillers to take the top off would you not?
Sorry for drifting off topic... :o
Nah, just numb the scalp up a little bit!!
LOL all over the place. Thanks J_9 and Geoff. Belly laughs to boot :)
I missed Tals advice about just replacing the brain with a new one. He always has the best darn advice... now why didn't I think of that :):):) LOL Need to give him the rep on that one :).
Sorry guys if I took this astray.
Great Great Great points Tal and Val. Think I will get that engraved as well... save me from typing it all the time... but soooo true :).
As to this post, what drew me here in the first place was the actions of some of our members who refuse to see no contact for what it is. True as you get healthy and feel better your outlook is more positive, you feel stronger and the first thing you think of is your ex and what got you to this forum in the first place. It has been my experience in seeing people grow, and really be healthy, their ex is the last thing on their minds, let alone go back to them. But I've seen this reaction to get the ex back and live happily ever after, many times before, usually with bad results. The thing is where you may feel better, and have grown, and changed, what makes you think that the ex has, and even wants to try again? That's a FALSE hope based on feelings that are part of your past. So I will submit as fact, that the very ones who hold out hope to get the ex back, are fooling themselves and are not healthy enough to look past the fantasy and deal with reality. If they stay on the course, I am sure like others have done, they will change their minds, and look at reality and work to be healthy and happy. That's the whole point. That original post has so many holes in it, I consider it BS.
:o And if this isn't just too me me me LOL...
I would like to go on record as being one of the more hopeful people I know, largely because I frequently see what is possible where others do not. Reality does have a way of demonstrating what is possible, if you open to that lesson. That's why I fancy myself as living there! :D
WOW Tal----thank you!!
Here is how to tell if your ex is interested in you -- if they are contacting you and saying that, then they are!
And once and for all... there just isn't any magic way to "make" them do that. Peroid!
Yep, this is reality..Quote:
Originally Posted by valinors_sorrow
Like my ex, she has not contacted me in 3 1/2 months. Any contact was instigated from me in the first month... She does not want me(at least now) and maybe never will again.. I need to accept it :rolleyes: . Maybe it's better that way so I can find a gal that does..
You can't make someone want you, they need to make their own decision to want that..
I put my faith in the good lord that he is watching me and hears my heart, my mind, my soul... Which I believe he does...
It all happens for a reason... ;)
Tal great points again. So agree about getting healthy and feeling better and first inclination is to reach back to the ex. You know you are completely over them when they are no longer in your thoughts.
The great thing about all of this incredible insight is that it not only applies to ex situtations but just life in general. These valuable lessons and insights about relationships, not only apply to "dating" relationships, but marriage, friendships, work relationships, the whole gambit.
Just a healthy way to be all around.
When I am completely over my ex (and I am definitely not yet) I will be throwing a major party and you are all invited.:)Quote:
Originally Posted by Allheart
Ooooh, I'll bring brownies! (LOL now now, straight ones!) :pQuote:
Originally Posted by Geoffersonairplane
Oh Geoff,
I did LOL. Sorry, with you not at you. I just love parties, but you should throw yourself one NOW, as you are doing great and will continue to do so.
But I graciously accept the invite and Allheart never needs a reason to shop for a new dress, (think I need to search for help on this topic, nah, I have too much shopping to do :)
What is a brownie, is that some sort of home made chocolate chip cookie...Quote:
Originally Posted by valinors_sorrow
Sorry if I am being obtuse... :)
We could all dance too like wild indians... :eek:Quote:
Originally Posted by valinors_sorrow
Brownies are somewhere in between a cookie and a cake. And you are not being obtuse :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Geoffersonairplane
OMG Geoff!! You have not lived until you have had a Simply Divine Brownie. I like "grasshopper" brownies--- with mint called "Mintuition".Quote:
Originally Posted by Geoffersonairplane
I use the recipe from these people and they are to die for! They were recently featured on a morning TV show and I understand their phones rang off their hooks afterwards. I am happy for them -- they are good people.
www.simplydivinebrownies.com
Simply Divine Brownies
Trina and Meggen Beaulier
INGREDIENTS
• 1 pound unsalted butter
• 12 ounces semi-sweet chocolate
• 12 ounces unsweetened chocolate
• 1 1/2 cup sugar
• 1 cup light brown sugar
• 6 large eggs
• 4 tablespoons of vanilla extract
• 1 1/4 cup flour
• 1/2 teaspoon Kosher salt
• 1 tablespoon baking powder
DIRECTIONS
Pre-heat oven at 350 degress.
Melt butter in large pan on top of stove over medium heat.
When butter is bubbling, add semi-sweet chocolate, and unsweetened chocolate, and stir until melted.
Cool slightly.
Measure into a large bowl: sugar and light brown sugar. Add cooled chocolate mixture and beat for three minutes until smooth and glossy.
In a separate bowl, beat eggs until fluffy. Add vanilla extract. Add to chocolate mixture.
Sift together: flour, salt, and baking powder.
Stir into chocolate mixture.
Spray a half sheet baking pan with non-stick spray. Spread batter.
Bake for 30 minutes or until a toothpick comes out clean. Do not overbake.
Sorry, that was terribly offtopic, I know. My bad.
HmmmmmmQuote:
Originally Posted by valinors_sorrow
YUM YUM, I think I had one of these not long ago but did not take in what it was called.. Probably more focused on the chocolate..
Val,
Oh yummy!! How do you go about getting the receipe/s. YUMMY!!
They won't give out any recipe but their basic one I posted so I sort of fudge it (groans :p ) from there. The best I've done so far is to make almost like a cheesecake topping that is mmmmmminty flavored and then I like shaved chocolate on top, not drizzles. I've tried talking them into a brownie cook book and heard its on the drawing table for down the road, I believe. Frankly its all they can do to manage the phenomenal growth they are experiencing now.Quote:
Originally Posted by Allheart
Thanks Val, I will make some on Sunday...
Seriously..
I'll put one in a bottle and let it go in the English Channel all the way to the U S of A..
Not sure if it will be edible by the time it gets there though.. :p
THANKS VAL!! :)Quote:
Originally Posted by valinors_sorrow
Do I know how to start a thread or don't I.
Cracking conversations...
BROWNIES!!
Actually, I don't like brownies, but I bet val's are simply divine!!
Should have done NO CONTACT from day one so that she would have missed the good things about me. Value reversal for ex, her suffering as well and missing me. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. = More open to possibility of reconciliation.
However did the Needy, obsessive ex, pushed her farther away, suffered greater rejection, reacted angrily to this and lashed out, pushing her farther away to point of not speaking to me. Then did no contact. Tried to be nice, but she already met my replacement, who due to the way I made her feel with the obsesivness, needyness, he will easilly make her feel better and she will forget how good I made her feel but instead be pleased to be with him instead of me !
OUCH! DOH!
NOT A SINGLE THING I CAN DO ABOUT IT ! Can't talk reason into her because she is acting on emotion. Right now receiving positive feelings and support from this guy because he is not hurting. Did not get this from me because I was hurting, but because she was thinking of her, not us. She only thought how she was feeling.
= Lover value for me and greater value for him. Pushed her in his arms !
Hind Sight 20 - 20.
Lesson Learnt. Don't always act on how you feel.
// This hurts !
How many post do you need to rant and rave or vent?? Seems like one will do it since we do have email notification.
I am not a big fan of no contact as a means of getting an ex back largely because I am not a fan of getting an ex back at all. But even if I were, I would not go for essentially manipulating them into it--that's crappy! Besides, its been proven to not work in a great big landslide of a majority of people and I tend to respect numbers like that. Almost anyone who got the ex back can tell you that they broke up again. Ask around, do the math and lets lay this urban myth to rest. Frankly, it only serves to fuel the sadly desperate and ill-concieved determination of those who are so codependent they are refusing to let go. You'd be better off investing in a print from the Paris Etching Society. LOL Crikey!
Just putting things in a way that others may understand, who are going through similar.Quote:
Originally Posted by talaniman
I would have prevered to have this knowledge available to me in the past.
Hope it helps someone.
Look, it's over. Face it. I'm facing mine, now you face yours.
I'll tell you my story, I did the no contact thing from day 1, and it didn't work. I'm left pondering what if I did the begging him to stay, and trying to convince him method. But honestly, I think when your partner broke up with you, she already decided that it's over. So no matter what you did wouldn't have made a difference. Even if you did no contact, maybe she would still not come back.
Besides she find someone else already. Just move on. Quit being a cry baby. It's sucks, but it's over. Face it. Be a man do the right thing.
Oh also you did what you did, there's nothing you can do to change what you did. So stop thinking what would've happen if you did something else. You acted needy already, that's the reality. Ther'es nothing you can do to change that.
Unless you go invent a time machine. GOGOGO.. email me if you manage to make one, because I want to turn back time too.
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Originally Posted by kaitou
Bit harsh, but point well taken. Guess I am just trying to make sense of it in my mind. We all do. Part of the letting go and moving on. Using this site to express the feelings inside as a healing tool, that's all.
Yeah, we all try to make sense of it in our mind. We all go through the "what if" stage, but at some point you really need to face reality, and stop dreaming. I'm telling you, you're just going to end up getting hurt over and over again. Well, maybe sometimes hurting helps you move on, because it definitely helped me. I coulnd't stop wondering if I still had a chance, until my ex put it bluntly to me that he doesn't care about how I feel anymore.
I think your ex pretty much showed you that it's over. So get your act together. The sooner you can let go, the sooner it'll stop hurting. By letting go I mean like stop thinking what you could've done. What is done is done.
She might be perfect when you guys were together, but now that she doesn't want you anymore. She's no longer perfect. Sure you see the potential of how she could be like, if you guys are still together, but the point is you guys broke up. She won't be spending time and effort to make you feel better anymore. I mean is it even necessary for her? Look from her point of view. She's happy where she is, why bother caring about how you feel, and make herself feel bad. Remember this, most people are selfish, especially during break ups.
I hope this help. I talked to my older bro, and he helped me a lot. He basically just smacked me with reality, and he's so much more mature than I am. Talking to someone with more experience definitely helps. So I suggest you go talk to someone, let all your feelings out, tell them how you feel, ask the questions you're wondering. And hopefully they can give you some good reality answers. (and I don't mean by askign someone on forum, they can't talk to you as much, and you can't express yourself as welll over a forum.)
I disagree with this big time as I think this is the perfect place to come for what ails you. You think a friend would get tired of the crying?Quote:
hopefully they can give you some good reality answers. (and I don't mean by askign someone on forum, they can't talk to you as much, and you can't express yourself as welll over a forum.)
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Originally Posted by talaniman
I don't know, my friends actually call me to see if I'm OK. They are the one that wants me to talk to them about it. I guess it depends. My friends are really helpful though.
4answers,
I feel for you brother, please do vent it out!
But you need to give up this, she's happy with another, just let it go. If you love her you must leave her alone, let her be happy, hard as it is. Then forgive her and yourself, and let yourself be happy too. You are clingling to this hope that has almost disappeared - exactly the way I did just a couple of weeks ago. I too, wept like crazy in my thread seeking consolation, until Talaniman (hi and thanx)) !) and other kind people shook me up. Once you accept it, you'll calm down. Then just look inside yourself. Read Zen books, some find it helpful if you''re into that sort of things. It's going to be much better. Take good care of yourself!
No contact is important ALSO becausre it helps YOU move on to Mr./Mrs. Right.
It's called a break - becAUSE IT WAS PROBABLHY BROKEN. You already did WAY too much damage to get that perosn back. Being all needy, obsessive, jealous during the relationship won't bring that person back.
You need to learn from the past relationships. Move on.
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