Ask Me Help Desk - No Contact Rule.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

You will never go thru the healing process that way. You can never move on and be happy either. Do you realize your sounding like a stalker??

Yeah, I sound like a stalker obsessive compulsive. All the sives in the dictionary but that's how relationships have failed cause people give up too easily these days and if I was this stalker, Im sure she would have blocked me and not came back around. She and everyone knows I'm not like that. I tried. I got what I wanted. Don't say I'm not happy cause I didn't do the whole NC rule. Like everyone else who has done NC, its hard AT TIMES but I manage it by occupying myself. Trust me, it does not hurt as much as before seeing she's online all the time. Yeah sometimes it upsets me to see her happy without me but I'm fine and I hope to win her back one day. Even just being good friends at least we both would know I didn't give up

If you are dating someone for 5 or 6 weeks and then she decides to end things could this be considered a "break up" or "just ending things"?

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Originally Posted by marcusmax

If you are dating someone for 5 or 6 weeks and then she decides to end things could this be considered a "break up" or "just ending things"?

It can be whatever feels more comfortable to use.
Same difference

Long story short (in the end they are never really that unique) she broke up with me. I rationalized her behavior, tried to be friends, blamed myself. Then I went no contact for a while and slipped.

Initially, I wanted a reconciliation but when it came down to it, I had to realize that anyone who was willing to hurt me by not being 100% honest in a relationship was not worth my effort, time or the stress. No matter how much I thought I loved them.

Just from reading these posts alone I can tell that y'all are good people who definitely deserve more than what your exes were giving you. You all deserve the best and honestly, they were really doing you a favor by leaving.

No Contact is the key.

N.C

By: me

Her feelings weren't there for long
The signs were so tell tale
This story isn't new at all
It rarely ends that well

So now you are on friendly terms
And still you are apart
You let emotion betray you
And now she knows your heart

She claims that she needs time and space
To find out what she feels
But with true love
You stay in love
Because you know its real

She could be lying
You think she is
You know now
It's the end

A cop out plea
In lieu of honesty
To you, her "bestest friend"

Strung along is what you'll be
If you keep holding on
To memories of love that's passed
A dream that is forlorn

Whatever things she said before
They don't apply much now
You must move on
And remain strong
For partners are abound

And in the end she will realize
The great thing she has lost
Have no regrets
Just know in love
You gave it all you've got

No contact is such a hard thing to stick to. I've been split from my ex 2 month now and have tried no contact but have lapsed numerous times and when I do stick to it she doesn't. We met up last week for the first time since the split and agreed no contact again. This time it was said face to face so it means more and I am going to stick to it. She knows how I feel about her so the ball is in her court. I told her to only get in contact if its important and explained the damage it can do to just casually text, drunken call etc if you have no interest in working things out. I just wish we had of stuck to no contact from the start but its hard when your head is such a mess and your emotions all over the place. Maybe no contact at this stage won't do any good, who knows? We have had a lot of arguments over past few months and I ended up pushing her further away, hopefully we will work things out but I isn't getting my hopes up.

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Originally Posted by MrGr8

No contact is such a hard thing to stick to. Iv been split from my ex 2 month now and have tried no contact but have lapsed numerous times and when i do stick to it she doesnt. We met up last week for the first time since the split and agreed no contact again. This time it was said face to face so it means more and i am going to stick to it. She knows how i feel about her so the ball is in her court. I told her to only get in contact if its important and explained the damage it can do to just casually text, drunken call etc if you have no interest in working things out. I just wish we had of stuck to no contact from the start but its hard when your head is such a mess and your emotions all over the place. Maybe no contact at this stage wont do any good, who knows? We have had a lot of arguments over past few months and i ended up pushing her further away, hopefully we will work things out but i aint getting my hopes up.

No contact, no matter at what stage will always do good and should be implemented. Its how one can truly heal.

Ah but we could have a good future and that's the thing. Suppose only time will tell although I am not a patient person but I have no choice in this situation.

You do have a choice, you can chose to take your future into your hands and walk away. Why wait on someone who doesn't want to be with you now?

Last time I check, relationships accept the good and the bad times, not just when things are going well.

We both still madly love each other and she needs time. She is scared of getting hurt again which is understandable.

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Originally Posted by NeedKarma

Give credit where credit is due, the article is lifted from here:
No Contact - The Guide - eNotAlone

You know I was thinking the same thing... give credit where credit is due.

The only problem with the "enotalone" board is it's run by a band of Nazi's.