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  • Dec 7, 2009, 08:12 PM
    Young_Cardinal

    Well I just got my grades back, I got A-'s haha
    Ill just keep grinding it!
  • Dec 9, 2009, 12:09 PM
    2ndTime

    Way to go Young_Cardinal!
  • Dec 9, 2009, 05:43 PM
    Young_Cardinal

    Hey guys, update...
    My ex called me 2 days ago and she said she was really depressed and missed me
    We hung out but this time we seemed very mature, I told her not to worry about things so much, and that things will get better
    Life hasn't been good to her, she got sick after we broke up, all her tires blew, etc.
    It was actually rather humourous the way we said bye, "love ya but i hate you" lol
    I told her I'm surprised she isn't dating anyone yet, but at the same time it didn't really matter anymore, kind of surprising that she's so depressed

    Only crappy thing about talking to her was that she told people that I like hit her and stuff, like we do get into little cat fights at times in the past and I did accidentally hit her once by accident, but she makes me sound like I was a woman beater... like chris brown or something but in reality I'm not like that at all... I guess it doesn't really matter though since were not together nomore, I'm just worried about my reputation
    Kind of strange how there would be many times my face would be bleeding from her hitting me but id just say I tripped to people, but they knew I got beat up haha : )

    In any case I'm glad I didn't call her, its clear she's suffering and I guess she's shocked that I told her I don't want to go out with anyone cause I'm sick of relationships right now and that she can do whatever she wants, but id like to heal before I meet someone and get serious
  • Dec 21, 2009, 02:36 PM
    Young_Cardinal

    update:
    so what I realized throughout this ordeal is that NC usually gets your ex to contact u to see what uve been up to...
    but the most important thing is that depression usually only happens if your just in your room doing nothing

    I noticed going out and talking to new people makes me a lot happier
    I met some random girl a week ago and we started talking, only for her to completely ignore me LOL... am I mad? You a little disappointed... but there's MILLIONS OF WOMEN OUT THERE, MILLIONS!

    I'm not exactly sure what my ex wants from me now, cause she wants to hang out all the time, at the same time we support each other for "dating" other people
    but that's my rant lol
  • Dec 21, 2009, 03:12 PM
    Jake2008
    "i noticed going out and talking to new people makes me a lot happier"

    THAT, is the key. Hard to brush yourself off, and get out there, but so worth the effort. And you are right, there re millions and millions of possibilities out there- you've only just tapped the surface.
  • Dec 22, 2009, 03:03 AM
    amicon
    Being around people and making new friends is the way to go. I wouldn't worry about what your ex wants-she is your ex after all.
  • Dec 31, 2009, 09:31 AM
    mkshult

    Hey Young the same thing happened to me the first time I really met women after me and my ex split up. The initial contact was great and then after talking for a couple days they would completely ignore me! LOL!! I have to learn the dating scene all over again, what a pain in the @$$
  • Jan 1, 2010, 01:03 AM
    Young_Cardinal

    Lol you mkshult I probably said something wrong haha
    After dating this woman for so long, I get to say whatever I want, I forgot girls analyze every little thing you do -.-

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