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I know. I have already started the steps. I have to stop smoking, and that is going to be hard for me. I have been smoking for 9 years now. I know I can do. This is something that I have been researching for 5 years now. I am ready!! I will let you guys know.
Haha, yea.
Cris- this is related, but not answering your question directly. I saw you say "Well, I am getting the gastric bypass surgery done in the next few months, I want to be healthy, but I don't want to be a tooth pick. I am excited. " Let me ask you something...
Do you have an underlying medical condition that prevents you from becoming 'healthy?' I am very into physical fitness and a lot of my friends compete competitvely, so living a healthy lifestyle is not new territory to me. Please just ask yourself before you go through with this surgery, "Have I tried everything I can on my own and given 110% into becoming a healthier person without surgery" And I'm not talking for a few weeks.. If you can say no, in any way- reconsider surgery, or at least hold off a bit longer. Start educating yourself on diets, proteins, carbs, sugars, exercise.. how your metabolism works, etc. I hate seeing people have surgeries that they think will improve their confidence, but in the end they never resolved the under-lying issue and just end up worse off then before.
Back to your original question- not all guys like skinny girls. I like physically fit girls. To ME a girl who is physically active has confidence, a desire to keep healthy and cares about her body/appearance. BUT I would never date a bimbo, or a b!tch, etc.. Looks are the initial attraction, and although they eventually fade.. it helps in the beginning ;)
With that- I honestly get very annoyed when I see over-weight woman/girls complaining about their weight, or mocking skinny/good looking girls because they don't have the willpower, or dedication it takes to look /feel good. If you are comfortable, and confident in your own skin there is never a reason to belittle anyone else, no matter their shape-or size. As everyone else said, be happy with who you are.. if you are NOT find out WHY. If there are things you can change about yourself to make you happier- START doing them NOW.. don't wait for a magic pill, surgery, or someone ELSE to push you. It's within all of us to become better people emotionally/physically/mentally... and you are ON this message board because you want one of those things..
Good luck!
Thumper
Well, actually, I have put all of my focus and energy on diets, but now I have medical problems that can't be solved on my own. There surgery isn't a quick fix, or a merical worker, and I know that. It is a tool. A tool that I know I need. I have been over weight since I was 7 years old. My whole family is obese and I have relatives that had the surgery and it worked great for them. I am confident in my own skin, and I am not that big on what people think of me. I was just curious as to what it was that guys liked more about skinny girls then girls with curves.
Big girls get looked down on by guys, and I feel that if it weren't for society, it wouldn't be that way. There are also a lot of hipacrits out there that are big boned and they only go after skinny girls, what is up with that?
Ok, here is another question. What does it mean when a guy says that he likes a girl who takes care of herself?
Shower? Fit? Hair color? Nails done?
OP,
Don't put too much emphasis on what the guys say. It's a common sense to dress neat and go to the gym regularly. The body is yours, if you don't take care of it yourself no one else will.
It simply means that he loves how that girl treats herself well. It shows lots of good qualities. Confidence, knows what she wants, self - respect, class, and tons more.Quote:
Originally Posted by crisluvsu731
To be honest it goes both ways. Girls like guys who knows how to take care of themselves too.
This is because when looking for a mate, if that person takes care of themselves well, you ll be sure they will take care of their mate well too but its not just one way. Both people take care of each other. Hope that helps =P
Yup None12345 basically summed it up. A girl who "Takes care of herself" is just that.. she makes the effort to look the best she can at all times. This may be your hair, nails, skin, correctly fitted clothes, obvious hygiene, etc. And it also means you respect yourself and the people around you and act appropriately. Nobody likes a snob, a loud mouth, a know-it-all, ego-maniac, etc..
Perfect example.. I have a guy friend who ALWAYS complains he can't get a girl/girlfriend. Yet he hasn't cut his hair in forever, looks messy, has long nails, is a bit over-weight due to lazy/eating crap food, etc.. and because of this his attitude sucks, and his confidence is shot.
Why would a girl want to invest her time into a guy who can't even invest time into making HIMSELF look/feel good? You think that guy is going to care for/take care of a girl the way she wants to be ? Absolutely not... so the blame is on him. He needs to take the first steps. And in regards to the 'big-boned guys' going for smaller girls. Who cares? There are also big boned guys who love big boned girls... just have to find them and ignore the rest. If those other guys don't find you attractive then smile and continue on... their loss right? Love who you are... someone will definitely see what you have to offer and appreciate it.
I'm sorry to hear about your medical conditions.. I hope the surgery gives you new hope on life and perhaps more confidence/whatever it is your looking for.
Thumper
Thanks thumper.
It's a myth that most men prefer thin women. Some do but most prefer curvy women. I have always had a preference for curvy women. Marilyn Monroe and Sophia Loren were much more attractive than Calista Flockhart and most modern actresses. I think that British chef Nigella Lawson is the sexiest woman I have ever seen. I love her curvy, natural figure and light skin. Her accent is also a turn on.
She isn't curvy. She is thin!
Check her out in this video, she is definitely curvy and sexy, I never notice what she is cooking, heh heh.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yf6WngVhv8I
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