Need support, no contact! After breakup
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After almost 2 years my girlfriend wanted a break 8 weeks ago after I started to hang out with my friends more and more and started to neglect her a bit. We are both 21 years old. I really didn't mean too, I still loved her, I just took it for granted I guess. She started hanging out with some new guy about 2 weeks after and it hurt me, so I responded by hanging out with other girls. She went back and forth at school for like 6 weeks of like I want us to be together, and then she would ignore me again. We got home from college about 2 weeks ago.
The last day of school, I was just upset and basically had enough of this yoyo game. I had wanted to reconcile things the whole time but I couldn't keep living like that. We met in person and I asked her, what she wanted. She said she didn't know. So I told her I was going to move on. She immediately got offended, and was like "Well I hope your new gf is nice," in a sad jealous tone. All I said is "She will be, cause I'm a nice guy and have a lot to offer." She looked a upset. She then said "Well I think i'm dating this new guy." I said "well I wish you luck with that, and have a good summer." I stayed calm the whole time.
Anyway about 2 weeks ago when I was home she called me on my birthday. I picked up, she wished me a happy birthday and then was asking me what I've been up to and what not. She kept asking questions about my life. After about 3 minutes, I cut her off and was like "I'm sorry but I gotta go out to eat wity my parents, thanks for calling, bye."
Last weekend she called at 2 Am in the morning. I was drunk but not that bad. I could tell she was a little too but not that bad either. Anyway we ended up talking for 20 minutes, which I kind of regret now. We basically just shot the breeze, and she was leading the conversation with questions. I've been really busy and having fun, and let her know that in a subtle way. At one point she mentioned jokingly something about us watching football games together next year at school. I didn't respond and kind of just changed the subject. After sometime I told her to go hangout with her friends who she was with. She kept wanting to talk but went. She said OK "I will call you soon, bye".
I've stuck strong to my plan of not initiating contact with her over the summer so far. I still have feelings for her but I think that after trying to reconcile things for 6 weeks and for her to yoyo me around, now its her time to chase if she really wants me. Sometimes I feel like texting her but I've been strong enough to resist so far. I've been going out and meeting new people, trying to get her off my mind.
How am I doing? Do you think she's starting to notice that I'm living without her OK? I hope this is the right course of action.
Ex has BF, but won't tell me, what's going on?
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We dated 2 years. Its been about 3 months since she broke up with me. She drunk dialed me once and also called me on my birthday. I found out through a comment on FB that she visited her I assume new BF last weekend. She's been seeing this guy for a little bit now. I even asked her at the end of school if they were dating and she said no. I called her on her birthday just because I felt I should and was like so whatd you do the past weekends. She straight up lied to me and said last weekend she was at home not doing much. She also wants to talk for very long times and gets very interested about my life and asks me tons of questions. I always end the conversation.
What's her deal, why is she holding out. Honestly I feel like I should just ignore her for the rest of summer, even if she calls me. All of this makes me nervous cause we go to the same school and its very small. Don't want dramatic crap happening next year.
What's going on with her, and what the hell do I do in this situation?
Well everyone I got played once again. Terrible what do?
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Backstory, my ex broke up with me about 3 or so months ago because basically I was becoming distant. There was truth to this but I was just really overwhelmed with other things in life. I tried for a month calling her every few days to hang out. Sometimes we would. Other times she would blow me off. Would tell me that she wanted to get back but to give her more time. Well she's been seeing this new guy, which she still hasn't told be about. She actually lies, when I found out she visited him on a weekend through a friend and asked her what she did that weekend, she said she was home with her friends.
Well last time I spoke to her was her birthday about 4 weeks ago. Last night I get a text, saying she just wished I'd hadn't grown so distant. She then calls me, says stuff like I miss you, why haven't you tried to fix it. She didn't sound really drunk. So we talked tonight, she claims she doesn't remember much of the conversation, and she's still too mad at me to forgive me FOR NOW. She always uses the words "for now, for awhile, until im ready." She also said just give me some time to get over being mad at you. Wow, now I look like a retard. Should not have even responded to her text and phone call.
I was doing so good, thank god, after this failure I still don't feel that bad because I had it in the back of my mind that she would be yanking my chain again. I don't think she does it on purpose, she's just so confused whether I could be the good boyfriend again, that she flip flops. She basically doesn't want to risk giving me another chance and me being distant again, however its clear that she still wants to a little bit. This is annoying as hell though. Whatever I've been talking with a new girl for awhile now. Any advice on what to do about my ex, if she wanted to date again I would, and I'm afraid to move on with another girl and lose that chance. Also even after this conversation she never even once brought up the new guy. Haha she refuses to tell me, and I kind of feel bad for the guy that he doesn't know she is still contacting me and stuff. Any help thanks.
