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Good for you - he flaked on you big time. That's GREAT you said you wouldn't wait - no one should be plan B.
He better get his act together quick. I advise looking for Mr. Right - this guy turned into Mr. Right now.
Seriously - last time a gal said that to me she was trying to date another guy. Just my thoughts. Luckily I wasn't that into her. She did come back, but I said no.
I think that is what he is wanting to do... I told him that it is his lose
Yeah - something isn't right here.
When I read your original post I didn't get the impression you two were exclusive. So to read this one it makes me think he's just trying to keep you as a back up plan.Quote:
Originally Posted by dancingtwins
It could mean any of a number of things. Either way, just give him the space he says he needs and go on living your life. As they say, there's plenty of fish in the ocean. Go out and catch yourself some.
Well it has been over a week and out of the blue he emails me today wanting to go to lunch with me We went to lunch and casually talked. What is going on?
He wants his cake and eat too.
Be careful here - go SLOW. Don't rush into anything.
+ he's a 27 year old guy - he's not rerady for any type of seriosu relationship.
I am going slow. I am going out with another guy Sat night just as friends. I am not sitting at home waiting on him to come back to me. If he does decide that he wants to come back he will work to get me back.
Perfect - going out with someone for laughs will help give you a new perspective.
It will also let me know if it is him that I really want...
Here's the deal - going forward - you need to tell him what YOU NEED. Take control of the relationship. No more hot and cold from this guy. Tell him your wants from him. Becareful though - you need your share of the power in the relationship.
One day he is all lovey dovey the next he is cold. He told me yesterday that he missed me and my kids. That he loves me but he just needs more space to make sure it wasn't just a lust thing. Why do guys do this...
Frankly, lots of guys will start to really like a gal, but, then comes the reality that she has kids and that's kind of where they freeze. They're not sure if they can do the whole package. It's fun for a while, but kid's always make it a much more serious affair.
For the sake of your kids, keep your distance. They don't need this hot cold thing from this guy. Kids have a way of internalizing what is going on and I don't want them thinking that they did something wrong and that is why he isn't coming around anymore.
He needs to grow up, sounds like he's not mature enough to handle this type of relationship. I wouldn't bring my kids around any man unless I knew he was a keeper, and he felt the same way, they don't need the confusion and the feeling of loss.
Can't rate you Mom... but yes - huge sign of imatuirty. He's too young.
I 100% agree with this! Kids get attached to "boyfriends/girlsfriends" and then when there is a break up... they get them ripped away! They think it is something they did to scare them off! I know because I am 32 years old and was with a man for 3 years and he broke up with me! My daughter who was 10 years old at the time, thought is was because of something she did or because she was around! It is hard to see kids go through this and I will never do that to her again... never!Quote:
Originally Posted by momincali
A hard lesson learned!
Lessoned learned this time too. I will make sure he is a keeper before I introduce another guy to my kids
:confused: UPDATE!!
Yesterday was his birthday (27) I didn't call him or email him or anything. He emails me yesterday afternoon wanting to met at his house for a booty call after work. I told him that I would be NOONE's booty call that I had more respect for myself than that and he should have more respect for me than that. I told him to grow up and when he was finished playing games call me and we could see where we both are in our lives.
Wow - what a jerk. What a jerk.
Maybe time to forget this guy?
Women do this too. Either way, I think he's trying to toy with you.Quote:
Originally Posted by dancingtwins
I don't think he's that into you obviously. Time for a new guy.
Now he is telling me that he needs this space to see if he loves me for me or if it is just a lust thing.
Now I'm telling you I stand by my original answer that he's toying with you.Quote:
Originally Posted by dancingtwins
Want to stop feeling like a yo-yo? Cut the string and stop talking to this guy period.
Yeah - chuck this guy - he's screwing with you. GIVE HIM SAPCE!! Eternity!! All the space he wants. Unlimited space!!
That was the lamest thing he could have said and I hope you can see that clear as day. He's shallow and immature and wanted it easy, when you let him know it would no longer be that way, he came up with a lousy excuse.
Stand by your integrity. Attention is great, not at that price though.
He called last night and said that he made a decision. He said that he didn't want me to die or anything but he didn't have any feelings for me. I said that is fine. It is your loss. I deserve better. Please don't call me anymore.
Good for you!!
You are so right. You do deserve better.
He was looking for a reaction and you gave him one he did not expect.
Good for you. Keep it up!!
By the way he was treating you, he didn't tell you anything that really surprised you and I think that it even helped you because you were already kind of expecting it. It was tough, but you said the right thing. Good for you. Now, remember, say what you mean and mean what you say.
You are free at last...
Good!! You have your answer - he was toying with you. Wanted a booty call.
Lots of great guys out there - take it SLOW. Weed out the creeps like this guy - so guys like this grow up!!
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