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  • May 6, 2009, 10:16 AM
    liz28

    When she sends you a text don't open it, delete it.

    Tell your friend to butt out. It will only cause more problems if he gets in the middle of it and this only interfere with your healing process.

    Keep going in the direction your going.
  • May 6, 2009, 07:51 PM
    bswc

    Tough situation pal... Better off just leave the situation set between both of you. I can't judge her feelings. Be strong!
  • May 6, 2009, 08:27 PM
    Alwerd54

    Ight, so here's the last conversation between the two of us. She said she still loves me, cares about me, but doesn't see us together in the seeable future. She wants me to be apart of her life, but as a friend, but a part of her still wants me. She says she misses me, misses my touch, our conversations, and how I could always make her smile. We haven't had a phone conversation in weeks... haven't seen each other in weeks. We're meeting next week, but I don't know how to handle myself.. do I tell her how I feel? Or do I keep it bottled up? Do I try to beg? Or do I act like I don't care? What do I do? I care about her so much, I'd give her the whole summer as a break to think things out. I don't know what to do. This has my mind twisted. Have I lost touch with reality? Have I confused love and infatuation? Now that I have a new job, am I running away from my problems? Never knowing how to truly handle a situation like this? What if I get to a point like this in another relationship? I'll never know how to handle it, cause I've always ran.
  • May 6, 2009, 08:44 PM
    talaniman

    She has said friends only, and your still hoping she changes her mind. Not going to happen, break the date and leave her alone, and heal.

    That's saves a lot of misery and pain, and will keep you from losing some dignity, and self respect.
  • May 9, 2009, 12:55 PM
    Alwerd54

    So it's been a few days and I haven't heard a word from her. In a way it's been nice, but also painful. I still sit by my phone hoping things would change, though I know they probably won't. I still really miss her...
  • May 9, 2009, 12:57 PM
    susangpyp
    She's out living her life and you're sitting by the phone. You need to make decisions about your own life and refuse to be led around by the nose by someone who does not value you.

    Get away from the phone, feel your grief, turn the page, and move on. You deserve so much better.
  • May 9, 2009, 01:00 PM
    Alwerd54

    I'm trying, I went out last night and left my phone at home. Let me tell you, it was a pain to get a hold of anyone, but I'm trying to move on and play it day by day. Tomorrow it going to be rough, she comes back to work. That's going to be rough
  • May 11, 2009, 11:50 AM
    Alwerd54

    So we exchanged our stuff. I think I needed to see her in person, in the sense that. It was full perspective of the situation. How immature she acted and talked to me, just showed me that it's really time to move on. She was short, never looked me in the eye, kept looking and texting on her phone, and just had no heart behind her words. So whatever, I hope she realizes what she lost. I blocked her on my phone and social networks.
  • Jun 3, 2009, 06:46 PM
    Alwerd54

    So it's been almost a month, doing a little better then before. Until today, she called me and asked me if it was okay if she started dating someone. Why she would even ask this is beyond me, just really hurt. Makes me feel like all she told me was nothing but lies.
  • Jun 3, 2009, 06:49 PM
    Romefalls19

    Why you would pick up her call is what I am wondering
  • Jun 3, 2009, 06:53 PM
    Alwerd54

    It came up as a different number and area code. I recently started a new job and it had the same area code as her new number. I got the call right after work, so I assumed it was them calling me for some reason.
  • Jun 3, 2009, 07:09 PM
    Romefalls19

    Well now you know so ignore that number next time. It's a small step backwards, but you have made a lot of progress. Just delete that number and carry on how you were
  • Oct 30, 2009, 11:09 AM
    Sadgirl20

    WOW! This sounds exactly like what I've been tru... dont talk to her!

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