Ask Me Help Desk - Just a quick vent

Rome, you sound like an awesome guy. You're doing great. Your fiancé is very lucky to have you; heck, you're lucky to have each other. That's what it's all about, I guess. Sticking together through the hard times. Being there for each other. Great job.

(I was surprised you are only 22 also!)

I think having something to look forward to helps. Plan a really fun date in the near future, hopefully after this semester, for just the two of you. Then you can have that to focus on when you're feeling like this.

I'm feeling this way, too, presently. My boyfriend works a lot of overtime. He has to. He has three kids. We don't live together. We work in the same building, but live an hour apart. So, it gets rough. I am really looking forward to the summer plans we made, though, so that keeps me going.

Hang in there. It will all be worth it!

Yes, Alty, he is a great guy, with a good head on his shoulders and a great future ahead of him. A guy like him... not easy to find. I think he just needs a pat on the back. Pat... pat... pat... pat

Thanks everyone, it truly means a lot to me.

A quick update, surprising enough she brought it up last night that she isn't happy at all with how we don't get time together and she feels really bad that I am doing all these things for her and she thinks that she isn't showing her appreciation the right ways. She took a break from her homework last night and we spent a little time together and tonight we are going out to dinner when she gets off work and then she is going to work on her homework for a little bit then spend more time tonight together since we have the house to ourselves.

Be careful, she may want you to prance around with nothing on, but an apron.

Was that your experience Tal? Do you need someone to talk to about the abuse you receive at the hands of the apron?

You guys are killing me! Pictures, I want pictures!

Tal dear, just post the pic, you'll feel better, we're here to support you. You know you'll feel better if you get it all out. Talk to Alty. :)

Rome, sounds like things are taking a turn, that's great. See, told you it wouldn't last forever.

Isn't it nice how I'm always right? ;)

Ha ha, aren't the women always right? Even when they are wrong ha ha!

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Ha ha, aren't the women always right? Even when they are wrong ha ha!

Rome dear, I thought I was wrong once but I was mistaken. ;)

Ha ha! Funny how my fiancé says the same type of stuff

This sounds like the busy time of life for you. That's just the way life is during 'those years' of early family life. Its especially tough when one or both adults are going to college still and working and raising kids all at once. It won't always be such a rat race but it is always best to do today what you can because tomorrow you might just collapse from it all and not be able to get anything done. ;) ;) You sound like a very nice supportive partner. Your girlfriend is lucky to have a you. Just hang in there and know that its not always going to be this way.

Hang in there Rome! When school finishes things will change. It's good to know that your girlfriend realizes how much you are contributing to the family/household. I don't know many guys that would step up to the plate like you have. I can't imagine the weight on your shoulders. It's good that you can vent here for emotional support, but I think your girlfriend should organize her time to put you higher on her list of priorities.

Nice drought ended for me this weekend.

Ha ha me too! It was well worth the wait, of course I wouldn't want to wait like this every time

Yeah my wife apologized to me I told her there is no need to apologize. She said to just let her know and she will drop whatever she is doing.

Well it looks like I found this too late, but my suggestion was going to be to set aside just one night a week where you didn't go to the gym and spend some time together then... well... I'm glad things are going better!

Same thing venom, my fiancé apologized and feels really bad because I do all these things for her and doesn't feel she shows enough appreciation. She said she will do her best to make "us" time more often, I told her the school work is more important to finish and there will be time for us.

Yeah I told her don't worry about it. She was going to take summer classes but then she decided not to. I was very happy about that but I told her if she wants to take summer classes go ahead.

My fiance's school goes through the summer, but she next term she will only have 1 class instead of 2, which will limit the work load.

You two guys are great. Where were you when I was dating? Oh you, in diapers. :(

Alty you can thank all the women in my family for me being the way I am. I'll never forget when I got my first GF my mom said to me You have to treat women with respect. If you ever think about lying to a girl or doing something that will make her upset Picture my face on her and imagine lying to me. So to this day I just can't do it.

Spit, I learned how to treat a lady from my mother too. Her words were usually, if you hurt her, I'm going to hurt you but same basic principal.

Funny.

When I was growing up it was my dad that I emulated.

When I started dating, every guy that came over got the "I have a shot gun and I'm willing to use it. No one would miss you, so keep your hands off and your pants zipped".

I'm actually surprised any guy stuck around after that.

I pity the first guy that comes over to take my daughter on a date. I'll be there with the shot gun and the lecture.

Alten, my uncle actually gives every guy who comes over to date his daughter a 12 page book on how to treat her. The last line reads "I have 12 acres of land, a shotgun and a shovel. They won't find you"

I pity my girls first date too, I hunt so I have guns and the shotgun will be getting cleaned when he stops by along with my two cousins who are police officers standing next to me.

No kids for me. Yaz and condoms willing I never will.

Rome dear, if you ever need my help digging a hole, call, I'll be there! ;)

The thing that worries me is that I know what teenage girls do, I also know what teenage boys do. They can't fool me. I'd rather be oblivious, or would I?

Ahhhhh, she's 6, I've got maybe another 6 years before she's interested in boys. There's already a little boy in her class that tried to kiss her and told her that he's going to marry her one day. Is it bad that I want to throttle him? Sydney handled it well though, she pushed him away and said "No! You aren't allowed to kiss me, you didn't ask!" That will all change soon enough. :(

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No kids for me. Yaz and condoms willing I never will.

No kids? Should I ask why or too personal?

Mine are 4 and 5(going to be 6) and I keep telling them no boys until they are 18 and they agree, for now anyway. I've already got my rules lines up. I'm going to buy a couch that has 4 cushions and they will be on opposite ends with me in the middle. I will be that over protective father

We are to selfish. We might wake up one Saturday morning and decide hey lets go to AC we go. If we want to lay around in our underwear all day we do it. Plus I don't think either one of us have the patients to have kids. I had to take my nephew (he is 8) for a weekend and I was ready to jump out a window after the first day. Just question after question. I was in the shower he was still asking me questions through the door.

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Mine are 4 and 5(going to be 6) and I keep telling them no boys until they are 18 and they agree, for now anyways. I've already got my rules lines up. I'm going to buy a couch that has 4 cushions and they will be on opposite ends with me in the middle. I will be that over protective father

I'd smother him with the couch cushion, really!

I'd love the "no boys until 18" rule, but I don't think it will work. I have a feeling boys will start calling in 6 years or so. :eek:

Girls are much harder then boys. My hubby's favorite saying "When you have a boy you only have to worry about one prick, when you have a girl you have to worry about every prick in town".

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We are to selfish. We might wake up one Saturday morning and decide hey lets go to AC we go. If we want to lay around in our underwear all day we do it. Plus I don't think either one of us have the patients to have kids. I had to take my nephew (he is 8) for a weekend and I was ready to jump out a window after the first day. Just question after question. I was in the shower he was still asking me questions through the door.

Many people don't want to have kids, it's not selfish, if you know that you don't want it then don't do it.

I hate the people out there that think that just because you're married you have to have kids. Parenthood isn't for everyone, just like marriage isn't for everyone.

After my wedding, while in the receiving line, one of my relatives asked "so, when are you having kids?" For God's sake, can we let the ink dry on the marriage certificate first? Jeesh.

My response was "we just got a dog, if we can keep him alive for at least 3 years then we'll consider kids, but if he dies, I don't think we should have children".

That shut them up for about 1 month. :(

Your hubby is right, I am no about to let them date and mommy doesn't want them to date either. I simply told her, I know how I was when I was younger and it isn't happening like that. Also, no way are they having a cell phone with picture messaging! It is NOT happening.

Spit, I see your point, my kids ask me a thousand questions. What I'm doing, why, when, why am I on the computer, who is that, is that my friend. But they are the most entertaining little things in the world. The smallest things amaze them.

We get asked the so when are you having kids question all the time. My wife just answers the person as soon as you are going to pay for everything they need. That usually shuts them up.

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But they are the most entertaining little things in the world. The smallest things amaze them.

They're better then cable TV. ;)

To see the world through a child's eyes is truly amazing. Everything is wonderful, happy, fun.

When it snows they're delighted, we complain.

When it rains they can't wait to jump in puddles, we complain.

When they play in mud they're having a blast, all we see it the dirt.

If we could just learn to be more like children, the world would be a much happier place. :)

No cell phones here either. I don't agree with giving a child a cell phone, heck I don't have a cell phone.

I grew up just fine without a cell phone, computer, text messaging, cordless phones, answering machines, cable TV, okay I'm showing my age, but you get my point, right? ;)

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Girls are much harder then boys. My hubby's favorite saying "When you have a boy you only have to worry about one prick, when you have a girl you have to worry about every prick in town".

I'll be on AMHD in about 13 years when R starts to question me about boys. My thread will be something amongst the lines of "Daughter wants to date; Chest pains are present"

Sarah

I'll be on here when mine start dating, but it will be on the Law forum probably saying "Daughter dated boy, I shot boy. What's next?"

Or on here, "daughter dated boy, boy broke heart, should I break his neck?"

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Originally Posted by Romefalls19

I'll be on here when mine start dating, but it will be on the Law forum probably saying "Daughter dated boy, I shot boy. What's next?"

Or on here, "daughter dated boy, boy broke heart, should I break his neck?"

Better yet.

"Not Charged With Murder Yet but Wanted for Questioning- The plot thickens"

Haha..

Sarah

See Alty that is another reason I can't have kids. I'm 31 and when it snows I jump for joy because I don't have to go to work (50 mile round trip commute everyday so work tells me don't worry about it take the day off)

When it rains I am calling everyone to see if they want to play football in the mud. And I have a blast.

And I really don't want to be caught arguing with a 6 year old about it still being my turn to play with the Nintendo Wii.

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See Alty that is another reason I can't have kids. I'm 31 and when it snows I jump for joy because I don't have to go to work (50 mile round trip commute everyday so work tells me don't worry about it take the day off)

When it rains I am calling everyone to see if they want to play football in the mud. And I have a blast.

And I really don't want to be caught arguing with a 6 year old about it still being my turn to play with the Nintendo Wii.

LMAO! I love it. You don't need kids, you are one! :D

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Originally Posted by Romefalls19

I'll be on here when mine start dating, but it will be on the Law forum probably saying "Daughter dated boy, I shot boy. What's next?"

Or on here, "daughter dated boy, boy broke heart, should I break his neck?"

Mine will be, "how do I dig a 6 foot deep hole in the winter, need advice asap!" or "need to hire a hit man, will pay good money, cash".

It might be better if I move away once the kids start dating. :eek:

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mudweiser agrees: that's when you become a grandma ;)

I will never be old enough to be a grandma! Bite your tongue young lady! :eek: