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  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:06 AM
    LOUNTASH

    Well what more do you need to no to help me
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:07 AM
    Krs
    How about you go over to his mums house and have nice romantic quiet night in?
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:07 AM
    expat2009

    Surprise him with some takeaway and while the kid is sleeping you can watch a nice romantic DVD. You don't need anything fancy to have a good valentines. As long as you are together enjoying each other's company it should be enough.
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:09 AM
    Krs
    If you are questioning it there is definitely a problem or some issue of some sort...

    I am married and have been with my husband for 10 years...
    Of course at first you question things, but after a while you start to see the real true colours in the relationship..

    You should just feel it..

    How long you guys been toegther?
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:09 AM
    expat2009

    It's not that easy. You need to tell us specifics. Situations that make you think he does and others that make you think he doesn't. IN DETAIL.
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:11 AM
    Krs
    We are NOT fortune tellers in here
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:12 AM
    LOUNTASH

    We got together 21st November 2007
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:13 AM
    Krs
    I give up!
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:13 AM
    LOUNTASH

    Cause we not met each others family
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:14 AM
    LOUNTASH

    It not that easy not met his family and I am a shy girl to just turn up on his door step
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:14 AM
    Krs
    Everything seems so difficult!

    So what... there's always time for the first time...
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:15 AM
    expat2009

    So do I!
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:17 AM
    LOUNTASH

    Well my friends say that they can tell he loves me but he sends me three txs yesterday usually he sends over ten txs is this a sign he doesn't love me
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:18 AM
    LOUNTASH

    But I am a shy girl and wonder what his family would say if they found me in bed with him
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:19 AM
    Krs
    I don't think judging by the amount of text messages he sends is a sign of love.

    Have you ever been in a long term relationship before??
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:20 AM
    LOUNTASH
    Where do I start
    Am I too leaniant on him friends say I am as I let him go to football instead of spending time with me
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:20 AM
    LOUNTASH

    Yes but I got hurt by him cheating on me
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:21 AM
    Krs
    Oh dear!
    You seem to contradict yourself a lot...
    If you are that shy why would you jump in bed with him at his parents house!
    Enjoy a night of good food and good company and a good talk and a romantic dvd
    SELF-CONTROL!
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:22 AM
    Krs
    Well you see..
    Now he has cheated on you before...

    That's why expact2009 was asking for more details...
    Instead of a 1 liner sentence
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:22 AM
    LOUNTASH

    Cause I have been there before but while all his family was away
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:23 AM
    Krs
    More 1 liners...

    Please write everything on 1 post. Use puncuation.
    And more people will help
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:23 AM
    LOUNTASH

    Oh right I was in a relationship for two years then found out he was cheating became single for three years then met this one I with now I love and trust him but I scared my past will repeat itself
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:26 AM
    LOUNTASH

    Weel when we first got together he was playing for football team and I didn't want him to stop playing so I let him continue and we would spend time after he finished but winter came and it got too cold and friends said I should make him spend time with me instead of going football
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:28 AM
    Krs
    Well I think your friends are being unreasonable...
    Let him play football and you can meet after football is over!
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:30 AM
    LOUNTASH

    Yeah but before it would be difficult as my mum wouldn't let me out
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:34 AM
    LOUNTASH
    How to ask
    We have spoken about having children together. And my family want to no when do we plan gewtting married and fed up them going on to me as we will sort that when we are ready
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:36 AM
    Krs
    This is all too much too soon...

    Relax and have fun together!
    Children are a huge commitment and from what I gathered about your relationship and family I don't recommned this now - not all...

    You are questioning love, and how to tell if he loves you and you are telling me you are ready for children..?
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:40 AM
    LOUNTASH

    No but we have discussed how many we would like what we would like in the future we love each other I just scared my past will repeat itself is that odd or normal
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:42 AM
    Krs
    ITS not how many children you want.
    Have you discussed finances?
    Money for schooling, clothing, etc...
    Where would the child live as he still lives at home?

    Being cheated surely can't be nice... but not all men are cheaters..
    Trust and communication are vital - if those 2 are missing then its pointless..

    Having kids won't suppress the feeling you having of things repeating themselves.. hope you understand my point here
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:43 AM
    Krs
    Are you really 22??
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:45 AM
    LOUNTASH

    No he twenty two April I twenty one November
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:46 AM
    Krs
    But you live alone you said.. right? Why wouldn't your mum let you out??
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:46 AM
    LOUNTASH

    Yes I do yes as he moving in with me gradually each time he comes he leaves piece of clothing behind
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:47 AM
    LOUNTASH

    Yes I live alone now but when I lived home with mum she wouldn't let me out after nine in case something happened to me
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:49 AM
    Krs
    So what's the problem? You live alone now
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:50 AM
    Krs
    You are not getting my point. I'm sorry but I give up
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:50 AM
    Krs
    And your point is?
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:55 AM
    LOUNTASH

    Cause people still say I too leanient on him as some nights he doesn't come round
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:56 AM
    Krs
    I think you abit too needy!
    Space is good sometimes
  • Jan 12, 2009, 05:57 AM
    LOUNTASH

    Cause friends say I still too lienient cause some nights he doesn't come around

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